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Awake? Now what?

A.C. Ping — Thu, 28 Jan 2016 03:26:40 +0000

“At the end of all our journeying we shall return to the place from which we started and know it for the first time.”
(T.S. Elliot – on the paradox of enlightenment)

Having survived the turmoil of the last three years which began with the 2012 challenge, you may now be reading this with a new sense of enlightenment. However, just like a martial arts student doesn’t really know how to walk until they achieve a black belt level, you may also now be asking what should you do with this new sense of awareness.

As your focus shifts from “Me and mine” to “Us and ours” a quick look around the horizon reveals four significant challenges to our shared journey of ascension. One – the risk that we destroy the very environment that supports us through man made climate change. Two – the rapidly widening gap between the rich and the poor. Three – the increased levels of violence and global terrorism. Four – the security responses to this that are taking away our freedoms and civil rights leaving us watched by ‘big brother’ at every turn.

At the root of these four issues is fear in its many different forms and at the heart of the solution to all of these challenges is love. Cliché, I know, but hear me out – fear drives the justifications that rationalise away our guilt and allow us to do little about these issues without having to reassess ourselves as ‘bad’. So it is here at this junction point of creation that we must pause and use our new found powers of mindfulness to deconstruct our thinking and view the problems afresh.

Fundamentally, we are faced with systems problems. Our economic system is carbon based hence we keep digging up coal and oil, burning it and pumping it into the atmosphere. Similarly, our financial system is utilitarian based hence we keep rewarding outcomes based on money not principles. Fear then feeds separation, judgement, scarcity, us and them type thinking and the ultimate manifestation is violence and the violation of the sanctity of life itself.

Awareness of the temporal nature of existence and the critical relationship between being and time reveals disconnects between what we aspire to create, what we actually create and how we justify why we did what we did – or didn’t do. A lot to take in I know so let’s break it down and delve into the weird and wonderful world of social constructivism. Social constructivism says that there is no objective reality but rather reality is created by the actors themselves through the stories they tell.

So, we might aspire to create a world of peace and harmony but when confronted with the current challenges it is all too easy to see them as all too hard and beyond the influence of someone as insignificant as us. A cold hard objective look would be far too depressing and the self-analysis and judgement too severe and harsh. Enter some justifications to get ourselves off the hook:- It’s not my responsibility – I’m insignificant and have no power so there’s nothing I can do about it; It’s not hurting anyone – out of sight, out of mind; They deserved it; If you think I’m bad you should see them; I did it for you, for family, for God; Everyone else is doing it so I had no choice but to follow suit; and finally, I deserve it – I’ve worked hard and paid my price.

It’s these types of justifications that you need to be mindful of as you learn to walk with your new black belt. If you’re aware it’s a systems problem then there are things you can actually do. The carbon based economy is on the way out – there’s a reason major mining companies are divesting their coal assets. Your power lies in how you interact with the financial system – how you earn, spend and invest your money. The key here is existential alignment – that is to be able to align what you aspire to create with your actions in the present moment and the story that you tell to be able to justify what you actually did. Easy eh?

Problem is there’s theory and then there’s reality – for example, you aspire to be environmentally friendly and contribute to creating a world where your children get to enjoy what you have enjoyed. You want them to have a good life so you’ve built a house and have a healthy sized mortgage, but then the company you work for makes you redundant and the best option is working in the mines on a fly in, fly out basis. It’s easy to justify this despite the conflict because you’re doing it for your kids and if you don’t do it someone else will. But you’re not aligned, there’s an internal conflict so here’s where love comes in and a healthy dose of faith.

There are two distinct paths one can go down here – buy into the fear, keep doing what you’re doing and justify away your guilt; or be mindful of the conflict, refuse the job on the basis of principle, step into the realm of faith and make a conscious choice to love yourself regardless of the consequences…

Nobody said it was easy…

Faith is a belief in something for which there is no evidence. Awareness, awakens you to possibility but not certainty. Now you’re awake take the time to consider what you will and will not put energy into, become aware of the flawed justifications that will inhibit your ability to actually do this. Work on aligning yourself existentially, but most of all make a conscious choice to love yourself unconditionally and have faith in the shared ascension of us all.

In peace and love always :)

Vision Quest Time

A.C. Ping — Mon, 24 Aug 2015 01:56:17 +0000

Coming into the Equinox - Sept 23rd - is traditionally the time of the year to refresh and renew your Vision this is because the energies of the cosmos are in equal balance - equal day equal night - hence equinox.

If you are in the Southern Hemisphere you are about to go into a period of about three months through to the summer solstice where the days are getting longer and longer. This means that the expansive energy of the sun is getting greater and greater. If you are in the Northern Hemisphere the opposite is occurring with the introspective energy of the Moon getting stronger and stronger up until the winter solstice.

This has implications for visioning - if you are entering an expansive period you need you be more orientated to DOing and getting stuff out there. If you are entering the introspective phase you need to be more orientated to BEing and getting your internal house in order.

Having said all that the question is how to do it...

Traditionally and ideally you should do some prep work over the next four weeks or so and then take yourself off to the mountains and sit in circle for up to 4 days and ask for spiritual guidance for your Vision. This can be hard to do if you live in a city and/or have ongoing commitments however you can do the prep work and plant some seeds.

As a possibility I suggest this 28 day reflective process which you can start this Friday.

For five days each consider the 5 areas of Vision in this order - Spiritual, Emotional, Physical, Mental, Material.

For the first four days - PLAY (engage the wondering mind) - ask the questions - What do I want and what does this look like and feel like? I'd suggest focusing on a one year time frame - so for example - sit quietly and imagine it's Sept 2016 - What do you want spiritually? What does this look like? that is - What are you actually DOing? and What does this feel like? Remember here to focus on essence not form. Play with it here - put the question out there and allow it to come to you - be receptive in your dreams and in your everyday life. A good question to ask is 'I wonder what would happen if...?'

Use what you need to make it real - write, draw, paint etc

On the fifth day - ask - What do I need to let go of to allow this to happen? Write these answers on separate pieces of paper (you'll see why in a sec).

Then on day 6 do the same with Emotional for 5 days then Physical, Mental and so on until on the 20th Sept you will be finishing Material. Also if you are inspired to incorporate directions - this relates to the Medicine Wheel - you will be going East (Spirit), South (Emotional), West (Physical), North (Mental), Earth (Material).

Monday 21st Sept is the day to bring it all together and return to Spirit (East) to receive the new. Start by putting all your Visioning bits together - again allow yourself to synthesize the bits into a whole.

Next take all the bits of paper on which you have written all of the things you wish to let go of. Light a fire - or if not possible a candle (remember to unplug the smoke alarms...) - take each piece of paper in the order you wrote them - read them out loud and say "I release this past behaviour/pain/fear/memory/relationship (which ever is appropriate) to the universe and allow the energy to be transformed for the highest good" - then burn them.

Last bit - on the day of the Equinox - if you can go and sit somewhere quiet or take time out in some way that's great - if not light a candle and put some of your favourite things/crystals/photos (esp. of ancestors). Put your consolidated Visioning writings/drawings/paintings etc with your candle - if it is in a book make sure it is open - and ask for assistance and guidance to bring it into creation. Big key here is to be open - don't assume you know - allow intuition, spirit, prayer, insight to guide and inform you. Hold your intention to stay in that space for the whole day - be aware of nature, especially animals, birds etc. Take special note of your dreams that night.

On awakening say thank you remembering that Grace is the unearned love of God (Universal Spirit)

In peace and love always :)

The Art of Remembering Who You Really Are

A.C. Ping — Mon, 20 Apr 2015 23:17:42 +0000

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A Treatise on Anger

A.C. Ping — Fri, 10 Apr 2015 06:50:48 +0000

“Anger is a wind which blows out the lamp of the mind.”
Robert Green Ingersoll

We should banish the world of anger – expel it to the farthest reaches of the Universe – prohibit all and every person from being or becoming angry – especially men. It is a toxic emotion that serves no purpose except to incite war and death. Way back in Rome at the time of Christ, Lucius Annaeus Seneca (otherwise known as Seneca the younger) knew this when he wrote,

“Anger: an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored
than to anything into which it is poured.”

But is this really true?

Aristotle, 350 odd years earlier in Greece wrote,

“Anyone can become angry, that is easy.
But to be angry at the right person, to the right degree,
at the right time, for the right purpose,
and in the right way – that is not easy.”

So, here lies our issue, it is ridiculous to say that any and all forms of anger are bad. We needed it way back in the day when could be set upon by a tiger walking through the jungle. Faced with the choice of death and the fight, flight or freeze response I’m sure most would agree we’d at least like one brave soul to become as outrageously angry as possible – so outrageously angry in fact that they might be foolish enough to actually stand up to the tiger whilst the rest of us bugger off as quickly as our shaking little legs could carry us. So in survival mode sure, bring on the anger and make it as fast and as irrational as possible.

The mechanism here is seated deep in the brain – rational mind gets ‘blown out’ by a little almond shaped part of the brain’s limbic system called the amygdala. Thought processes get hijacked by massive emotional responses. Hence ‘brave’ man doesn’t even think of fear or even consequences, adrenalin and emotions take over – irrationality rules.

Problem is, of course that ‘brave’ becomes ‘dumb’ when ‘tiger’ gets confused with ‘person in car who cuts us off in traffic’. New research, thanks to advances in neuro-cognitive science, also shows us with the benefit of fMRI machines that our ‘self regulatory’ function – yes, that’s the bit that says ‘No dummy that’s not a tiger!’ – is diminished by things such as stress, lack of sleep, lack of caffeine and – bet you might have guessed this one – how fairly we think we are being treated…

Hence, if you are working long hours (see latest research on work trends), are sleeping badly (see the effects on sleep patterns of using more mobile gadgets – and if you sleep with your phone on your bedside table here’s a free tip – STOP IT NOW!), and/or feel like you have been slighted in some way – then guess what? The person in the car who cuts us off looks a lot like a tiger!

Hmmm… But wait there’s more – neuro-cognitive research informs us that we all have what’s called mimic neurons in our brains which means that if we see or experience an angry person, for example, we actually mimic their anger. Neat huh? Anger actually attracts anger – the person in the car who cuts us off in traffic may see us in their rear view mirror giving them the proverbial finger and cussing at them, and guess what – mimic neurons kick in and bingo – tiger sees tiger after all!

Ok – so let’s back up a bit before this all gets out of hand. Lots of beautiful teachings tell us that all anger arises from within. We fear we are going to be eaten by a tiger so we get angry to spur us into action or at some point in our lives some miserable bugger (otherwise known as venerable teacher) hurt us in such a way as to cause us to store such level of emotion to allow us to tap into extreme anger to ensure it never happens to us again. And some of us have been repeatedly hurt in such a way that we have masses of emotional pain stored inside us that we can only access and hopefully release through anger, conflict and a good fight.

The problem is, as you may have gathered from above, that once the genie is out of the bottle – look out! Hijacking begins, we are not in control, we are wild and emotional. So, where lies opportunity? BEFORE the hijacking that’s where. Because as Aristotle says, we would like to be angry in the right way not just be the vehicle holding the poisonous chalice.

Own your anger. Don’t ever blame anyone else for your own anger. Self-awareness is the start – What makes you angry? What happens when you get angry? What happens to your breathing, your thought processes, and your physical body? Recognise what presses your buttons? What is the trigger? – is it self worth, pride, old patterns, past experiences? Recognise the signs and the stages and know that the opportunity to prevent a hijacking occurs only in the beginning stages.

Make a choice to love yourself unconditionally. Make a choice to choose what it is that you actually want in your life. Be clear on what the boundaries are. Become aware of when those boundaries are being crossed. Don’t kid yourself that you can reason with the dummy who thinks they are seeing a tiger and recognise that your very own mimic neurons will undermine your calm response. WALK AWAY.

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that.
Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”
Martin Luther King Jr.

In peace and love always.

Believe in Someone

A.C. Ping — Wed, 04 Feb 2015 05:41:58 +0000

“Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be.”

Goethe

The transition to the new school had been tough for the young boy, not just because of the change from a school where disputes were settled with fists to one where words were preferred, but because of the sudden and overwhelming focus on academic results.

Results spoke even louder than words. Results were revealed for all to see. Students were graded in the minutiae, a list produced in order of performance and then posted on the noticeboard.

In such an environment the boy felt overwhelmed and was quickly placed into a box by the teachers called ‘average’. As an average student he gave average effort and reports during the year more often than not read ‘could try harder’. But why? He was average, his results were average, and so his expectation of self was average.

His main focus was survival. His worst nightmare was Maths, not just because of the maths itself, but because of the maths teacher, a gruff ex military type who chain smoked between classes in the staff common room and who delighted in taunting the boy with a rhyming criticism of his work.

At the completion of his first year at the school the boy was relieved – his results average, his effort average, his expectations of himself average. The long summer holidays gave him ample time to form stronger bonds with his new class mates and to reassess his view of himself. A new year, he told himself, a new teacher, a chance to begin again. But his enthusiasm deflated when on the first day of the new school year he found out that he was to have the same gruff maths teacher – the only difference to the previous year was that now he was not alone, now he had friends who encouraged him to ignore the taunts of the teacher and just get on with things instead.

“I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be, and you can never be what you ought to be until I am what I ought to be. This is the inter-related structure of reality.”

Martin Luther King Jnr.

Arriving at class for Maths the boy’s stomach was full of butterflies, he walked in with his head down trying to avoid the gaze of the teacher and it was only when he had found his desk and sat down that he looked up. The gruff, heavily built teacher had shrunk, his face was drawn and gaunt and he now sported a moustache. When he began to teach, his demeanour had changed, the taunting had gone replaced by a more present and caring manner. But still the boy was wary, survival remained his primary goal.

After class and for days afterwards the students gossiped – What had happened to the Maths teacher? What was the story behind the moustache? Why was the teacher fervently chewing gum at every opportunity? Slowly a consensus emerged – cancer caused from smoking it said.

At the mid-term test the boy arrived for the Maths test with his usual trepidation but once the paper was turned over he was surprised to find that if he was calm he could carefully think his way through the problems and solve them.

In the following days he forgot about the test and it was only when walking back from Chapel that the unexpected appearance of the Maths teacher caused his stomach to begin somersaults. The boy tried to avoid the teacher’s gaze but to no avail, he was pulled out of line and taken to one side.

Staring at the ground he shifted nervously from foot to foot.

“How do you think you went in that test?” the teacher asked.

“I don’t know,” the boy mumbled.

“Did you try?” the teacher asked.

“I suppose”

“Look,” the teacher demanded.

The boy slowly looked up, not knowing what to expect. The teacher was holding up a test paper, his test paper. Written on the front in red was ‘97/100 Excellent work!’ The boy was speechless.

“Yours was the highest mark for the whole year,” the teacher said pausing, “This is what I believe you should be getting every test. This is the standard I believe you are capable of.” he paused again, “If, you try.”

The teacher handed the boy the test and walked away. In the next lot of tests the boy was in the top three students in his year. His story about himself shifted and for the rest of his school life he remained right at the top of his year – all because one man believed in him.

It’s easy to be critical, to justify your position by saying “I’m just trying to set a high standard” or something like that but does that really help in the long run. There is amazing research that has been done showing what happens when grade school teachers are told at the start of the year whether or not their students are high achievers or not. Teachers who have been told their students are high achievers (even if they are not) have a different level of expectation of the students and, I’m sure I don’t have to tell you, the results reflect this.

Ask most successful people who contributed to their success and you will find more stories of people who believed in them – often more than they believed in themselves. The lesson is this – put simply the past is the past but it has a momentum hangover that flows into the present in the form of a life narrative or story. If you believe the past story then your expectations of a person will reflect this and your perceptual biases will filter out information that doesn’t fit the story. But – if you look for the highest potential of a person and hold that space for them – believing in what they are capable of – and then – look for information to support this story – not only do you provide the other person with an opportunity to be all that they can be, you also free yourself from the heavy burden of the past and allow yourself to dream.

In peace and love always.

Maybe You Just Don't Know How To Be Happy?

A.C. Ping — Wed, 24 Dec 2014 01:59:00 +0000

“We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.”
Carlos Castaneda

Here’s a confronting question – Maybe you just don’t know how to be happy? – Ouch!

There’s such an amazing amount of research into happiness that you’d think all of us should be mind blowingly happy all of the time – but alas that is just not so. Depression and suicide lurk in the background of many situations. Even celebrities and star sports people seem to be afflicted by unhappiness and existential angst that can lead to bad outcomes. What’s sad is that often we don’t learn the truth until it’s too late – which of course feeds the cynicism that says that all the smiles and laughs are just a put on.

I’d bet most of us too would say that if we suddenly found ourselves in the lap of luxury or the face of fame we would be gloriously happy but the truth can be far from this. You see happiness appears to be more about habit than many other things.

Let me ask you this – Who do you know who is really happy? And what does happiness actually look like to you? See most of us tend to focus on the getting of things – unfortunately this is a consequence of the utilitarian paradigm under which we live. We can focus on getting a nice big house, buying a new car, even obsessing about all the little toys and trinkets that some say we need to live successfully in our modern world. But does the receipt of the latest iPhone make you happy? Does buying a new outfit make you happy? Does buying a new car make you happy? Maybe but only for a little while – just until the aura has worn off then it’s onto the next fix.

The problem with obsessing about things is that whilst you are striving for the achievement of those things you are not really living in the present moment and so what drives you on is the focus on the outcome. As soon as you get to the outcome you lose what you have been striving for and so instead of feeling deep satisfaction often what you feel inside is emptiness – until of course you find something else to strive for and then it’s back onto the treadmill again.

So – happiness as a habit. What have you habitually learned to be? Were your parents happy and did they bring you up to focus on the good things in life and be grateful, never wasting moment to complain or whine about anything? Or did they struggle and did they tell you that life was a struggle? Did you learn to struggle? Did you learn to focus on the struggle? As you have grown older does your conversation with others focus on struggle? Do you complain habitually about your day, your boss, the bad drivers on the road, the silly politicians, your lack of money, the lack of love in your life, the annoying people you had to serve at work? Does your struggle then become your justification for behaving badly, treating others badly, using drugs or alcohol to escape from your life?

I bet you think that – if only x would happen then I could be happy but since x hasn’t happened I can’t be happy so I won’t even try… where x could be winning the lotto, finding love, getting a new job etc

But is this true? Research into lotto winners finds that if you are poor when you win the lotto your chances of becoming poor again are very high. Waiting for something to happen before you can step up to the plate so to speak just doesn’t work.

So – back to the question – Maybe you just don’t know how to be happy?

Maybe you have been enduring a long drawn out conflict of some sort which has given you ample justification for bitching and moaning about life – and paradoxically – ample justification for washing your sorrows away with whatever form of sorrow solvent you can find. And – of course – it will attract to you people who will delight in hearing about your woes as it makes their woes feel better – all of which becomes a habit.

Happy people do some very specific things to habitually make themselves happy. First, they take responsivity for their own happiness – waiting for someone else to do something is entirely disempowering. They understand that happiness is holistic – it needs management of the physical, emotional, spiritual, material and mental self. Next they manage their focus – choosing to remember the good stuff and doing their best to let go of the bad stuff – this is the challenge of the remembering self versus the experiencing self. Then they manage the story they tell themselves about life’s events – this is positive psychology a la Martin Seligman – and the difference between being an optimist and a pessimist. Finally they do their best to get into flow – this is a state where you are able to lose yourself in what you are doing – doesn’t matter what you just need to be so into something that it allows for you to escape yourself. And all of this needs to be done habitually and repeatedly to feed into a happiness habit that will survive the harshest of existential storms.

So – again – Do you know how to be happy? Do you know what it looks like and feels like? Do you know what you need to do repeatedly and habitually to make that happen? If so, are you doing it? If not, why not?

In peace and love always.