So, I went – and I’m very glad I did.

It was chilly and grey but by the time we got through the traffic headed for the demonstration, the rain had stopped and everyone was smiling.

There were baby buggies and wheelchairs and teens. There were American flags everywhere and capes made of red-white-and-blue bunting.

And the posters people carried were outstanding and testified to the wit, anger and wisdom of their bearers. Nearly all were handmade. I darted around, taking pictures of my favorites — with permission, their bearers delighted to oblige.

At the rallying point, there were (mercifully) few speeches from a couple of local organizers, one from a minister, one from a poet, one from the mayor. It was hard to hear them, but it didn’t matter much. We all knew why we were there.

And it was good to be together. It was a relief. It was joyful. It felt as though something had shifted in the body politic. A return of hope. Of agency. Of energy.

I’ve spoken to people who went to No Kings rallies in other towns and cities, and they had similar stories and reactions.

I attended the women’s march to protest Trump’s first inauguration, where the hand-made signs were equally creative and the air was also charged with the energy that comes when you are surrounded by “your people.” But this felt different. Then, we gathered out of fear for what might happen. Now, we are reacting to the unmitigated cruelty and stupidity of an administration populated by sycophants and stooges, and the fact that the US has become a global pariah and laughingstock.

I was delighted to learn about the number of us who gathered from sea to shining sea; somewhere between 4,000-6,000 people spread across all 50 states. That comes to about 2% of the US population. Not even news of the horrific shootings in Minneapolis and warnings to stay home kept Minnesotans from turning out.

Once I got home, I watched footage from Trump’s Big Beautiful Military Parade and was delighted by the mostly empty grandstands. It was so quiet,  you could hear the squeaking treads of tanks as they drove by. Tee hee.I felt nothing but Schadenfreude — an untranslatable German word that mashes up Schaden (damage) and Freude (joy). I was delighted by how poorly it went. It’s not nice, but it is delicious.

 The daily news in 2025 has been a relentless cluster-dump of outrages against science, intellectual freedom, art, privacy, human decency, kindness, America’s reputation around the world, and oh yes, the U.S. Constitution.

There have been fiery speeches in Congress, lawsuits, editorials and countless podcasts calling out the outrages of Trump and his Republican minions. But all objections have been overwhelmed by the Trump administration’s successful strategy of “flooding the zone,” deflecting outrage over one action by several more  previously incomprehensible decisions.

I have tried to avoid the broadcast news – tuning in only for commentaries/monologues delivered by  Stephen Colbert and Jimmy Kimmel, who help the latest disgrace go down with a shot of 100- proof satire.

Other people I know have become addicted to video games, crossword puzzles, or re-binging “Ted Lasso” and “Schitt’s Creek” (where all things turn out okay in the end.). Before he goes to bed, my husband watches The West Wing. He just completed the 11th viewing of the series because, he says, “When I fall asleep Jed Bartlett is my president.”

And then there’s all the finger pointing by pundits, liberal voters and many elected Democrats, who have been blaming themselves and each other for losing the 2024 election (by the smallest of margins by the way) and lacking a unified, coherent response to the Trump tsunami, which is the deadliest of all natural disasters.

This has left those of us who bleed blue enervated, frightened and stuck.

And then Trump made the protests in Los Angeles the pretext for martial law and it was a bust. And  the endless rebroadcasting of the same few cars consumed by flames couldn’t hide the fact that the protesters were overwhelmingly peaceful, and that summoning National Guard and federal troops only made things worse.

The military’s presence did have one positive  effect though: it helped spark support for an epic, high-octane“No Kings” day of protest — and hopefully many more.

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I watched the footage again and again, remembering a terrible story I’d been told as a child.

In 1945, my mother’s brother — Henri Roger Ejbuszyk, then 17 — was arrested on a Paris street. There is no way of knowing who took him. It could have been German Nazis in full regalia, or soldiers of the collaborationist French military, or local police. It might have been a civilian who hated Jews.

The Trump administration has weaponized antisemitism in its war on “wokeness” and diversity, equity and inclusion. Over the last several weeks, we have seen the administration wield claims of “fomenting antisemitism” as a reason to bypass due process, detain international students, and seek to supervise the workings of universities to insure they comply with the anti-DEI samizdat.

To be clear, antisemitism is a problem. The Anti-Defamation League (ADL) found a 344% increase in antisemitic incidents across the U.S. in the last five years. And some — though by no means all — campus protests against the war in Gaza have included antisemitic slurs, posters and chants, and that has put Jewish communities on campus and nation-wide on high alert. President Trump is using this increase in hateful speech and action as justification for an assault on free speech and academic independence.

Many Americans may not realize that the administration’s actions are following a playbook created by The Heritage Foundation in a nasty little (33 page) codicil to Project 2025 named “Project Esther: A National Strategy to Combat Antisemitism.” Dated October 7, 2024 — exactly one year after the Hamas massacre of Israeli civilians — it describes a shadowy international conspiracy the Heritage Foundation has named The Hamas Support Network (HSN). It also blames the Jewish community and elected Jewish officials and representatives for stupidly failing to acknowledge and even enabling the threat it poses to the very soul of America.

According to Project Esther: Within the United States, the HSN receives the indispensable support of a vast network of activists and funders with a much more ambitious, insidious goal—the destruction of capitalism and democracy. As their ends align, the HSN and its nihilist supporters indoctrinate the gullible into supporting Hamas and hating Israel to create the street mayhem that serves their ends.

Hamas is an Islamist militant group that has been designated a terrorist organization by several countries, including the United States. And while Hamas does receive support from entities in Iran, Turkey, Qatar and many other places around the world — the HSN is not a real thing. There is no such single entity.

Project Esther is a playbook — an exercise in cynicism by an administration eager to prey on people’s worst fears — named for a biblical heroine who is credited with saving her people from annihilation. Esther does this by exposing a murderous plot against her people, a plot devised by an antisemitic advisor who sells the idea to a lecherous, feckless king.

The Heritage Foundation’s white paper kicks off with an almost comically goyish mistake, a tip-off that no Jews were involved in its creation: “In the Torah, the Book of Esther …”

You don’t have to be a rabbi to know that The Book of Esther is not part of the Torah, a.k.a. the Pentateuch, which is comprised of the books of Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers and Deuteronomy. The Book of Esther shows up toward the end of the Hebrew bible, in a section called “Writings,” which also includes Proverbs, Psalms and the beautiful erotic poetry of Song of Songs.

Project Esther dismisses right-wing antisemitism in a few short paragraphs, pronouncing the Klan and the American Nazi party relics of the past, which they ain’t. It reads:

America is no stranger to hate groups. In the aftermath of  the Civil War, the Ku Klux Klan initially focused on anti-black, racist policies. … In the mid-20th century, in reaction to the civil rights movement, the Klan once again refocused on its anti-black, racist policies … However, it was never a major target of concerted action by The federal government. In fact, by all accounts, the Klan petered out mostly due to the Great Depression and its followers’ inability to pay for membership. 

I beg to differ: the Klan’s white supremacist, racist, antisemitic, Christian nationalist, beliefs and fondness for violence are alive and well. Its offspring include the Proud Boys and members of various right wing militia groups. To wit: the infamous torch-lit Nazi chant “Jews Cannot Replace Us” march in Charlottesville, Virginia, an event Donald Trump characterized as having “very fine people on both sides” during his first term.

Protesters gather outside federal court ahead of a hearing for Mohsen Mahdawi, a Palestinian man arrested at a Vermont immigration office during an interview about finalizing his U.S. citizenship and a legal permanent resident who led protests against the war in Gaza at Columbia University.

According to data reported by the ADL, nearly all antisemitic murders and violence in the United States in recent years have been the work of far-right and antigovernment extremists.

Fun fact: a proposed Antisemitism Awareness Act has been held up in Congress because, in part, some members want to make sure they will still be allowed say that the Jews killed Jesus, an antisemitic falsehood. You can’t make this stuff up.

Meanwhile, Jewish leaders all over the country have been protesting the blatant weaponization of antisemitism. Last month, the Minnesota Rabbinical Association released a letter about constitutional rights and Jewish safety, which was signed by 40 of its 43 members. It reads, in part:  History has taught us that whenever a government restricts the rights of a given group, oppression of the Jews will soon follow. We have learned that our safety and freedom as Jews is irrevocably bound up with the safety and freedom of all people.

I’m not sure who needs to hear this, but you can’t make antisemitism go away by censoring antisemites.

According to Nazi ideology, Jews were an inferior race, responsible for Germany’s defeat in WWI as well as the economic depression of the 1920s. Nazis thought that Germany could only fulfill its manifest destiny by killing all the Jews and other “undesirables” including physically and mentally disabled people, Gypsies and gay people.

Both my parents lost family members during the Holocaust. My uncle survived in Auschwitz for two years. He was murdered at the age of 19.

That was 80 years ago.

Today, we’re seeing the demonization of immigrants, Muslims, Palestinians, drag queens, trans youth and anyone who holds up the Constitution as a bulwark against authoritarianism. And Rümeysa Öztürk is still in custody in a Louisiana detention facility — one of several international students who were arrested for their involvement in protesting Israel’s war in Gaza. Her “crime” as far as we know, was co-signing an op-ed in the Tufts Daily critical of the university’s response to the war.

There’s a Jewish notion, or tradition, or wisecrack, that you should always keep a packed suitcase by the door ready in case you have to flee for your life. I used to shrug it off as a holdover from centuries when we depended upon the unpredictable goodwill of non-Jewish authorities. Not here, surely.

America is not Nazi Germany or Spain during the inquisition, but I’m not scoffing anymore. If Trump gets the gigantic $100 million-plus military parade he wants in honor of his next birthday (which conveniently coincides with the 250th anniversary of the founding of the U.S. Army) I might consider getting some new luggage.

Published May 5, 2025 WBUR-Cognoscenti

I didn’t want to hear Carrie Underwood sing. Or watch Barack Obama and Joe Biden behaving with decorum while Trump told the world how terrible things have gotten in America because he wasn’t in charge.

I didn’t bother with the endless loop of postmortems either: the seating chart, the distance between Trump’s screed and reality; commentary on Melania’s outfit. (I did catch a glimpse. Black? Really?)

The United States that I inhabit is not a hellscape. It’s a mess in a lot of ways, but it’s not only a mess. So, to remind myself about things I still enjoy, respect and honor about the U.S. of A, I bundled up and went to Boston’s Commonwealth Avenue Mall — the linear park that runs from Charlesgate to Arlington Street.

The mall is a tourist attraction, and in fine weather, you hear languages from all over. No so much in January.

It’s also a city neighborhood park, however, so, on Monday, couples walked hand in hand, people with dogs were meeting and greeting. There was an exaltation of toddlers exploring the still-pristine snow: picking it up, tasting it, flopping down in it.

I left my dog at home because I wanted to spend time visiting the monuments that honor Americans who make me stand up a little taller. As it happened, I ended stopping at all of them and was surprised to find that, taken together, this group is a far more diverse crew than I’d assumed, and not without flaws.

There in one truly goofy monument honoring Leif Erikson, the Norse explorer who has absolutely no connection to the city. But it was commissioned and paid for by Bostonian Eban Horsford — the inventor of baking powder! — who believed that it was Ericson, not Columbus, who “discovered” America.

You gotta laugh.

It’s easy to assume that the statues of stern-looking men all referred to prominent, well-born, home-grown politicians or soldiers. But there are only two that fit that description: Revolutionary War hero John Glover, who helped Washington cross the Delaware. And Alexander Hamilton — founding father and first secretary of the Treasury, who was an illegitimate child and stowaway immigrant — things we all know, thanks to Lin-Manuel Miranda’s award-winning musical.

There’s a statue of Wiliam Lloyd Garrison, journalist and abolitionist. The Newburyport native founded and ran the anti-slavery newspaper The Liberator in Boston from 1831 to 1865, when the Thirteenth Amendment was passed. His words are etched on the pedestal: “My country is the world – our countrymen are all mankind.”

Like Hamilton, Patrick Andrew Collins was an immigrant who came from Ireland and made good in America. As a boy, he worked in an upholstery shop where he became a union member and a union leader. He served in the Massachusetts House of Representatives and then the Massachusetts Senate, while he earned a law degree from Harvard. He was the mayor of Boston from 1902 to 1905. Two figures of warrior-women flank his monument: one representing America, the other Ireland.

There is a monument to Domingo Sarmiento, a diplomat and the president of Argentina, whose connection to Boston was education reformer Horace Mann. Sarmiento came to learn from Mann, then based his country’s school system on his teachings.

They’re all white men until the Boston Women’s was installed in 2003, which celebrates not one, not two, but three women. Although each of them deserves her own, it is undeniably beautiful, and unique in several ways including the fact that the women are on the ground, at street level. The pedestals are part of their sculptures, and all the words are their own.

Abigail Adams stands against a post inscribed with part of the famous letter she wrote to her husband John Adams, second president of the United States.  Remember the ladies and be more generous and favorable to them than your ancestors. Do not put such unlimited power into the hands of the Husbands. Remember all Men would be tyrants if they could. If particular care and attention is not paid to the Ladies we are determined to foment a Rebellion and will not hold ourselves bound by any Laws in which we have no voice, or Representation.

Lucy Stone was the one of first women in Massachusetts to graduate college, in 1847. She held onto her birth name after marriage. A close associate of Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B. Anthony, she was an eloquent proponent of women’s abilities and convened the first national women’s rights convention in 1851. From the first years to which my memory stretches I have been a disappointed woman. In education, in marriage, in religion, in everything disappointment is the lot of women. It shall be the business of my life to deepen this disappointment in every woman’s heart until she bows down to it no longer.

Phyllis Wheatley, an African-born woman, leans over her desk, pen in hand. Captured in Africa and sold as a slave in Boston, she became one of the best-known poets of her time, popular in England as well as America.

I, young in life, by seeming cruel fate
Was snatch’d from Afric’s fancy’d happy seat:
What pangs excruciating must molest,

What sorrows labour in my parent’s breast?
Steel’d was that soul and by no misery mov’d
That from a father seiz’d his babe belov’d:
Such, such my case. And can I then but pray
Others may never feel tyrannic sway?

The Vendome Fireman’s Memorial is a shrine to the nine firefighters who died on June 17, 1972, at the Hotel Vendome, in the worst firefighting tragedy in Boston history. Their names are listed on a bronze plaque nearby. The monument itself is simplicity itself: a curved wall of polished granite with a firefighter’s hat and jacket — cast in bronze — on top.  Whenever I’ve been there in temperate weather, someone has left fresh flowers

The tallest monument on the mall includes a 10-foot-tall granite boulder that serves the base for a statue of Samuel Eliot Morrison. Dressed for a hike, binoculars in hand, he sits, legs dangling over the precipice. On the ground, at my feet, bronze seashells and seaweed locate him — and us — at ocean’s edge. Until my recent visit, I assumed he was an environmentalist. And while he did love the sea, he was a Harvard history professor for 40 years, and a Pulitzer Prize-winning historian for two of his 50 books. And because history isn’t set in stone, his writings about racism and even slavery have been challenged for the paternalism that was mainstream for his time.

Boston’s newest monument is not on the Commonwealth Avenue Mall. To get there, I crossed Arlington Street, walked through a sleeping Boston Public Garden, crossed again into Boston Common and found The Embrace, the memorial to Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and Coretta Scott King. Dedicated in 2023, it got mixed reviews. Some thought it was too modern; disrespectful even. It is big and powerful, and it felt good to be there on this third Monday of January, the national holiday that honors their lives.

It is unsettling for what is arguably the most fraught inauguration in American history to fall on a day dedicated to peacemaker, a justice seeker, a bridge-builder.

I remember how, in 2017, then-and-now-President Trump was asked what he thought of the white supremacists who carried torches as well as Nazi and Confederate flags while marching in Charlottesville, Virginia, some of them chanting, “Jews will not replace us.” Donald Trump told reporters that there were very good people on both sides. And it cost him nothing.

In the sidewalks around The Embrace there are bronze plates engraved with the names of local men and women who worked long and hard to make Boston — and the country — more just, more peaceful, more loving:

Melnea Cass, Ruth Batson, Jean McGuire, Henry Hampton, Elma Lewis. I heard them speak.

Bob Moses, Sarah-Ann Shaw, Jeep Jones. I read about them in the paper and watched them on TV.

I once had the honor of meeting met Mel King at a South End diner.

They never gave up. They never let go. And we can’t either.

First published in WBUR’s Cognoscenti.

Fruit is also the most provocative food group. The apple was alluring enough to have caused original sin, and bowls of oranges and grapes have been immortalized in voluptuous still-life paintings for centuries. Fruit is the candy of the plant world — the vitamins, minerals and fiber are merely a nice bonus

And after a New England winter, summer fruit is irresistable.

On the occasions I get myself to a farmers market or farmstand, I lose control. There, the fruits and berries are heaped in piles or collected in those green paper boxes that beg to be reused in craft projects.  There, you can touch and smell everything  – which is how to identify the good stuff.

But I, like most Americans, do most of my produce shopping in supermarkets, where the fruit is ice cold and often bagged or cellophaned. And while it’s almost impossible to make  choose well without access to contact or scent, I poke and sniff anyway, like a detective searching for clues.

Recently, I was tempted by a display of dark purple plums well- formed and well-priced. But they were hard as rocks and sealed in a plastic bag, so I thought better of it … until I saw the little hand-lettered sign propped up in the bin:

I have eaten

the plums

 that were in

 the icebox

and which

you were probably

saving

for breakfast

Forgive me

They were delicious

So sweet

and so cold

The title of that poem by William Carlos Williams is “This is Just to Say.” I remember it from an undergraduate English class, where the teacher said, “This probably only makes sense if you’re married.”

So, I bought the plums, which were, alas, not delicious. Eventually I stewed, sweetened, pureed, and then poured them over vanilla ice cream.

Plums are not my favorite fruit; they’re not even my favorite stone fruit — also known as “drupes,” which may be one of the funnier nouns in the English language.

Nectarines, which are nicer than plums, have been immortalized in interviews with “The Two-Thousand-Year-Old Man,” embodied by master comedian Mel Brooks, who attributes his longevity to fruit — nectarines in particular.

“It’s half a peach, half a plum. It’s a helluva fruit. It’s not too cold, not too hot. Just nice. Even a rotten one is good. That’s how much I love ’em. I’d rather eat a rotten nectarine than a fine plum.”

The Romantic poet John Keats shared Mel’s opinion in a letter he wrote in 1819, “Talking of Pleasure, this moment I was writing with one hand, and with the other holding to my Mouth a Nectarine — good God how fine.”

Nectarines are wonderful, but I prefer peaches (another drupe), which satisfy all the senses: rose-gold and yellow, the color of dawn; an aroma that is that is aphrodisiacal; and velvety thin skin that yields to soft, juicy pulp that melts in the mouth. For my money, peaches are the sexiest fruit of summer.

Also a big fan on Bing cherries, another member of the drupe family. They seem sophisticated somehow – maybe it’s because they’re the color of Merlot, or that the gleaming peel suggests evening wear … although rid of the pits discretely can be a challenge.

At the start of summer, I grumbled about the way supermarkets display cherries in bags that can hold up to three pounds of fruit – a transparent marketing ploy. But those bags are unsealed, which would make it easy to offload what you don’t want or need. But the open bags are an invitation to taste, and once you taste a good cherry you realize that there is no such thing as too many cherries.

You can’t say that about watermelon — the big kahuna of summer fruit.

On a steamy hot day, a slice of cold watermelon cools you off all the way down. And for some reason, you almost have to smile while eating it.

Buying a whole watermelon is like buying a lottery ticket. It seems more prudent to choose a bright red pre-cut portion, swathed in plastic., but that’s not a guarantee of sweetness. And it’s pricey.

At least once a summer I buy a whole watermelon, using criteria gleamed from the Internet to make an informed selection: uniformity in size; rounder rather than elongated; a dull rather than shiny surface; an orange field spot (where the melon rested on the ground) rather than a white one; it should be heavy for its size and sound like a drum when slapped with an open hand.

Following those criteria doesn’t always yield a winner but this summer I got a one that would have delighted Chilean poet Pablo Neruda, who wrote “Ode to a Watermelon.”

He called it the “the green whale of summer,” “firmament of coolness, “jewel box of water,” and “queen of the fruit shop,”        He wrote:

“we

Want

To bite into you,

To bury our

Face

in you, and

our hair, and

the soul.”

But as much as I love watermelon, peaches, and cherries, (also blueberries, plums, nectarines and all varieties of melon), for me, the queen of the fruit market is the raspberry.

I mean red raspberries the caviar of fruit, furry rubies the color of a heart newly fallen in love. Each berry is a tiny architectural wonder: 100 little beadlike druplets (real word) each of which contains a tiny seed. These are clustered around core that stays with the plant when picked – leaving behind what looks like an empty chalice.

The flavor of raspberries has been described variously as tart, floral, sour, sweet, with notes of rose and cherry. In other words, there are no words.

Raspberries are so fragile a thoughtless word can bruise them. Tossing them into fruit salad is a kind of desecration.

The flavor of raspberries has been described variously as tart, floral, sour, sweet, with notes of rose and cherry. In other words, there are no words. That said, redder berries are sweeter, and pale berries do not ripen once picked.

     You can buy raspberries all year long, packed in those half-pint plastic clamshells. They are always expensive – even on sale. In winter most are an almost ghostly pink and nearly tasteless. Adding sugar doesn’t help. And even though I know better, I buy them sometimes – nostalgic for last past summer’s cornucopia, and looking forward to the next.

Published in Cognoscenti, August 1, 2024

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The massacre at Columbine High School occurred six months before my daughter started high school, and she took to heart the frightening idea that something like that could happen “anywhere.” Personalizing the cliché given voice by so many commentators and public officials, Emilia said, “Newton, Massachusetts is not so different from Littleton, Colorado.”

My daughter was frightened on behalf of friends who were already attending our high school, and she was worried about her own safety, too. She thought that the teachers ought to devise an escape plan, just in case something awful happened. She could not tolerate the idea that it was impossible to safeguard against the contingencies of madmen. She wanted a guarantee, and it was my job to tell her that there are none.

In the copy-cat aftermath that swept the country, there was an empty bomb threat at my daughter’s high school. There were swastikas in the bathroom, and hideous, threatening letters. It was my job to tell her that most human beings do the right thing most of the time. I said things like, “If you don’t believe in the basic decency of humanity, you might as well not get out of bed in the morning.”

But my daughter had been studying the Holocaust in Hebrew school.  Why should she listen to me?

I hated those two murderous boys in Littleton, Colorado. I hated their parents and their teachers, and the principal and the probation officer. I hated the jocks and the cheerleaders, the guidance counselors and the idiots who bought guns and ammunition for 17-year-old kids. I grieved for them, too, but how dare they not see what was going on in their own houses? It poisoned the air, half a continent away, in my house.

I waited for some story that would enable me to understand the cause, which would then permit me to set the danger to one side. I wanted it to be the parents’ fault. Not very nice of me, but maybe that would explain things, something at least. Listening to clips from the funerals on the radio and reading the eulogies in the newspapers unsettled me even more than the lack of explanations.

“She is with God.”

“He is in a better place.”

“I’ll see you in heaven, darling.”

This kind of consolation sounds strange in my Jewish ears. Although some Jews believe that there is a life after death, our funerals offer no guarantees. Jewish eulogies remind us only of what has been lost and can never be replaced.

Of course, when a grandparent dies, full of years and mourned by his generations, we can number the memories and smile through tears. But when a child is taken, there is no minimizing the agony: we howl at the injustice and even hold God accountable. We accept the blow, because we have no other choice, but there is no silver lining in the loss.

The obituaries for the children of Littleton, Colorado were obscenely brief. “He liked to play video games.” “She had just gotten her driver’s license.” Those lives were unredeemed promises, gone to the grave.

The Littleton funerals frightened me no less than the shootings. Why safeguard this life if the afterlife is better? Why limit gun sales if heaven awaits the victims of cruelty, senseless violence, accidents, suicide?  Why set up metal detectors?

Jews answer those questions with a commandment from the Bible: “Choose life.” This life. Here on earth. Temporal and corporal, beautiful and holy, and when children pick up guns, agonizing and raw and wrong.

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I never met the woman in the flesh, but I did spend a couple of hours in 2009 with a selection from the contents of her amazing closet.

It was a freezing, damp, overcast New England winter day, the kind of day where the existence of the sun is purely theoretical. I was dressed for the weather: parka down to my calves, gloves and hat — all in shades of black.

I looked like a shadow or a ghoul. And so did virtually every other woman crowded into the Peabody Essex Museum to view “Rare Bird of Fashion: The Irreverent Iris Apfel,” a show culled entirely from her voluminous collection.

The exhibit came to Salem following its debut at The New York Metropolitan Museum of Art, which attracted huge crowds and was greeted by the press with breathless, respectfully snarky amazement. Her clothes were clamorous, irreverent, gaudy, kooky, bizarre, vulgar, otherworldly, and artfully clashing. All apt. But I would add “subversive” to the list.

As I walked through the exhibit of ensembles, the rods and cones in my eyes went nuts. The colors! The textures.

Every mannequin was loaded with layers upon layers (upon layers) of garments and embellishments and gewgaws that challenged propriety, common sense, and in some cases, gravity.  Elaborate fabrics in shocking combinations were accessorized with feathers, bells, mirrors and so much jewelry: bangles stacked from wrist to elbow, strands of enormous beads that formed a kind of breastplate. Pins the size of small birds. A flock of small birds.

And as nutty as the juxtapositions seemed, they created a kind of harmony. A triumph of muchness.

Iris and her husband, Carl Apfel, founded “Old World Weavers,” a company that sold and restored textiles they collected on trips around the world. Their clients included residents of the White House, from the Truman administration to Clinton’s.

Before the Met exhibit, Adler was a local treasure, a New Yorker zany famous for her oversized glasses, creative attire and a “I Yam What I Yam,” attitude that put Popeye to shame.

Iris was 84 when the Met show lofted her to international celebrity, which she then parlayed into a stint on the Home Shopping Network, and two best-selling books. Award-winning documentarian Albert Maysles made a charming film about her. (Streaming. Not to be missed). The New York Times called it “an eyeopener about life, love, statement eyeglasses, bracelets the size of tricycle tires and the art of making the grandest of entrances.”

There were no little black dresses to be found in the “Rare Bird” exhibit. If there was a black skirt or blouse, it was merely the backdrop for a dramatic vest, a feathered shawl, and a cascade of necklaces.

Her style was an unlikely success of beautiful and weird stuff. She collected and wore anything and seemingly everything that caught her eye – figurines, antique keys, stuffed animals, Tibetan bells. No tchotchke was off limits.

I left the museum determined to change my life. I walked into PEM’s gift shop, intending to get some Iris-inspired earrings or maybe a scarf. I looked, I pondered, but walked away empty-handed.

When I got home and opened the door to my closet, my first thought was: Morticia Adams.

Not that there’s anything intrinsically wrong with black on the body. Black is chic, classic, grown-up and professional. It’s a wardrobe essential, a building block, a frame. And of course, it goes with everything.

But wearing black is also a way to retreat, to hide, to disappear. Black is the color of widowhood, of veils and habits, of the burka.

Black stockings on a fit young woman can be sexy; black stockings on grandma are camouflage for what time hath wrought.

Lunching ladies of a certain age, dressed in purple or wearing red hats, are often called “cute” in a condescending tone that indicates disapproval that has less to do with aesthetics than with an unspoken discomfort – or is it distaste – for non-nubile women out in public, taking up space, yucking it up. Our culture prefers unretouched old ladies to retire to their kitchens — unless they are Dame Judy Dench or Dame Maggie Smith.

Iris Apfel called herself a “geriatric starlet.”

Ever since my 2009 encounter with Iris’s oeuvre, my mantra when shopping for clothes has been, “No more black!” When I try on anything in a bright color or (even scarier) a bold pattern, I ask myself, “What would Iris say?”

I know the answer, of course.

I once picked up an interesting, modestly priced necklace in a consignment shop, put it on. I took it off. I put it back on the rack, walked away, and then summoned the spirit of Iris for advice. She said, “Are you kidding? This is a single, interesting bead on a black silk cord. Are you a gal or a mouse?” So, I bought it. And wear it!

Iris changed my sartorial life. I now own two orange sweaters that are among my favorites. And I recently bought a pair of wide-leg pants in a vaguely bohemian pattern that I’m determined to wear in public as soon as the weather warms up.

So, here’s to you, Iris Apfel, born in Queens to an immigrant mother, who owned a clothing store, and grew up to be a fashion icon like none other. She taught us all: “When you don’t dress like everyone else, you don’t have to think like everybody else.”

First appeared WBUR’s Cognoscenti

And so it is that three of my Jewish guidebooks are being released as audiobooks this year.

My novels became audiobooks soon after their print publication, but that was not the case for the five non-fiction guidebooks to contemporary Jewish life I wrote.

It was no big surprise that the publishers of those books – at three different houses– decided against producing  audiobooks. At the time of their release — in the mid-1980s and early 1990s — audiobooks were still a very small slice of the publishing pie and a Jewish how-to book was unlikely to get much traction.

Audiobooks have been around since 1934, when the American Foundation for the Blind made recordings on vinyl disks, which held about 15 minutes of speech per side. In the 1960s, books recorded on cassettes popularized the format, as did compact disks in the 1980s.

The big shift came in 1995, when audiobooks became available for download to computers. By 2022 they were generating $10.8 billion in sales, which is about 10% of the book market. That may not sound huge but the audience skews young, which means a lot in what is politely called a “mature” industry.

 I did not give voice to any these books. While my earliest career dream was a life on stage, and I am not shy about speaking in public, but I know that I lack the skill required to record a manuscript in an efficient (ie: cost-effective way) was pleased to be given a chance to vote on the audition finalists.

The Jewish Wedding Now (previously The New Jewish Wedding)  first published in 1984, updated in 2001, and again in 2017. Available in audio April, 2024.

Living A Jewish Life, first published in 1991, updated in 2023, available on audio now.

Choosing a Jewish Life  first published in 1997 and updated in 2019, available on audio now.

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