From left, Annie Fritschner, Lisa Clark and Robin Reed show some of the hearth scarves created by women in a life-changing sewing project in Durgapur, India.
Halifax Media Group Correspondent
Published: Monday, October 27, 2014 at 5:01 p.m.
Shopping for fabric in India was an unexpected adventure, from navigating the dark narrow alleyways to drinking tea — then smashing the cups — after doing business with vendors.
In September, Lisa Clark, Annie Fritschner and photographer Robin Reed traveled together to Durgapur, India, to help women affected by human trafficking get a fresh start through a sewing project.
“I really want to see the women get a self-sustaining and confidence-building career in order to keep them out of trafficking and find a new place in society,” Clark says.
To address forms of modern slavery, specifically the trafficking of young women sold into marriage and indentured servitude, a nonprofit is being formed from Clark’s textile art business, The Artful Pear.
Using the traditional cotton sari fabric and decorative trim, four Indian women produced hundreds of “hearth scarves” under one master teacher during the time the Henderson County women visited.
Sales of the colorful, trim-decorated kitchen/bath hand towels will directly fund programs in India.
“There is the question of what to do with women who have been through trafficking — they have been rejected by society,” Fritschner says. “There is an economic piece.”
Fritschner — who is an Episcopal deacon serving as minister of congregational care at First United Methodist Church in Hendersonville — has been traveling to India since 2006, after Durgapur became a sister diocese to the Episcopal Diocese of Western North Carolina through the Right Rev. Porter Taylor.
Shopping for fabric in India was an unexpected adventure, from navigating the dark narrow alleyways to drinking tea — then smashing the cups — after doing business with vendors.
In September, Lisa Clark, Annie Fritschner and photographer Robin Reed traveled together to Durgapur, India, to help women affected by human trafficking get a fresh start through a sewing project.
“I really want to see the women get a self-sustaining and confidence-building career in order to keep them out of trafficking and find a new place in society,” Clark says.
To address forms of modern slavery, specifically the trafficking of young women sold into marriage and indentured servitude, a nonprofit is being formed from Clark’s textile art business, The Artful Pear.
Using the traditional cotton sari fabric and decorative trim, four Indian women produced hundreds of “hearth scarves” under one master teacher during the time the Henderson County women visited.
Sales of the colorful, trim-decorated kitchen/bath hand towels will directly fund programs in India.
“There is the question of what to do with women who have been through trafficking — they have been rejected by society,” Fritschner says. “There is an economic piece.”
Fritschner — who is an Episcopal deacon serving as minister of congregational care at First United Methodist Church in Hendersonville — has been traveling to India since 2006, after Durgapur became a sister diocese to the Episcopal Diocese of Western North Carolina through the Right Rev. Porter Taylor.
The sewing center is housed in a compound created by the Right Rev. Probal Kanto Dutta of Durgapur, whose social ministry focuses on education — lifting up some of the most needy youth in this eastern section of India.
This past December, a safe house near the border with Bangladesh was completed through a grant from St. Michael’s Church in Charleston, S.C., to address needs of those in danger of being trafficked.
Funding for a second year of operation is being sought for this safe house, where organizers hope to establish another sewing center.
Called to action
Last year, when Clark had suggested Fritschner read the book “Half the Sky,” which details the global issue of human trafficking that affects about 30 million people, Fritschner says, “It all came together for me.”
“I have always been interested in the issue of slavery,” Frischner says. After reading the book and hearing Bishop Dutta speak about indentured servitude, her interest in the project solidified.
Clark brought forth the hearth scarves idea, which she described as an inexpensive but usable art form — a decorative fabric covers a functional white cloth printed with The Artful Pear logo.
According to Clark, the sale of 10 hearth scarves (at $28 each) saves one woman from human trafficking.
“Life can be made extraordinary and beautiful just because, in doing something small like dressing up a space you might otherwise overlook, it makes your life just a little richer,” Clark says of the towels.
Combined with the intention of helping someone else, she says, “You’re creating immense abundance in your home.”
At the sewing center, women can gain a certificate in sewing skills — the certificate is akin to gaining a dental hygienist degree here in its ability to open a path to a steady income.
“The work gives them a purpose,” Clark says. “They feel the love from the people providing the safe house and the women back here supporting them.”
“You can see the bewilderment in their faces when they realize we’ve come from around the world wanting to help,” Clark says. “We know their story and want to help.”
There are numerous examples of young girls and women who have experiences such as being sold into marriage in a deal that sours or into servitude for small amounts of cash, reflecting the fact that in India sometimes oxen are worth more than children.
One woman’s husband was killed for his kidneys, leaving her bereft, as she has no death certificate that would enable her to remarry.
The case of another young woman, who was sold by her alcoholic mother for the price of a bottle of liquor, particularly affected Clark.
“It just summed it all up for me, Clark says. “We have so much, and we simply have to reach out to them in order for them to reach our level of self-respect and ambitions.”
Reed joined them in India at Fritschner’s invitation, to create a photographic document of the 10-day visit — something that was especially appreciated by the children there.
“I could see God in all their eyes, but in the women who were sewing, I could see hope,” Reed says.
Clark and Fritschner are looking for volunteers to help in any capacity — even by traveling to India with them, perhaps as early as January or February.
“This is not just the three of us,” Fritschner says. “If other women want to help, they are welcome to, through prayer, or through doing art and music there with the children, or even knitting.”
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To purchase hearth scarves, call Lisa Clark at 828-551-1461.
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I was in Washington, DC this week, doing some work with fundraising colleagues. I spent a little time in the Holocaust Museum.
A survivor was signing books about some of her experiences; I couldn’t introduce myself to her. I was already crying uncontrollably. The museum is designed so that the main hall into which one enters looks like a railroad station. It is steel and glass and cement and provocative in its simplicity.
Etched into a black granite wall is a verse from the book of Isaiah: YOU ARE MY WITNESSES.
It is haunting. It is taunting.
We are witnesses to the kindness of the world. We are witnesses to the unkindness of the world.
And is being a witness enough or are we called to do more? To speak more? To ask for more of ourselves and of others?
I am working with some amazing people to end human trafficking.
Our work is basically the same work as that of the resistance in World War II: we are working to release prisoners who are in bondage due to their gender or socioeconomic status.
We will not accept or tolerate the genocide of vulnerable women and of children.
We are gathering people to talk about the issue, to pray for those who are being used and killed and manipulated and abused and harmed, to sponsor children so they can receive an education and be free to be a child,and to sponsor positions in a safe house so women can be taken out of the sex trafficking slavery and given hope and rest and food and medical treatment.
As I sat on the steps under this taunting verse, in the presence of a survivor, I felt like the living link between the slaughter of the Jews and the slaughter of women and girls.
Later I opened my email and here are the quotations of encouragement that offered me hope:
At first dreams seem impossible, then improbable, then inevitable.
~Christopher Reeve
The most compassionate and helpful thing we can do is to make room for our own hurt
so that we do not have to look away when we see it in the eyes of another.
`Scott Morrison
Today, I pray for courage to persist. If there has to be pain,
let me accept it now, get on with it, and through with it.
~Days of Healing, Days of Joy
be bold. be brave. be hope.
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There are some amazing people who bring a meal and themselves to a place in downtown Hendersonville, so that others may feel loved and supported and heard.
The program is informally called “Hot Dogs and a Hug” and is a meal and dignity for the family members of men and women incarcerated in our local prison.
I’d like to call it jail, because that sounds better, gentler maybe, and because I live in a kind of “Mayberry”-like fantasy town. But the truth is the new prison looks just like every other new prison in America; it has a minimum security unit and a medium security unit and a maximum security unit, where men are kept in solitary confinement.
FRONTLINE on PBS did a horrifying story on the effects of solitary confinement on men in prison – how they basically go crazy, in need of affection and human touch and respect.
And when I learned that over 80,000 men in America are kept in solitary confinement for more than an average of 18 months, I have been wondering what, if any, is my role to help these men.
So I filled out the paperwork and got my background check completed and attended the two hour Correction System training that gives me credentials to be face to face with prisoners (as opposed to being separated by glass or on a video screen with one another). And I got scared. Really scared.
The part that scared me most was the training on where to stand so that the prisoner is in my ‘safe zone’ (which is about 3 feet on my right side and 3 feet on my left side). As a hugger, I know I can’t hug, but I also can’t be the best me God created by always being on guard to make sure an inmate is within my ‘safe zones’.
So Hot Dogs and a Hug might be my best option; no background check is needed. It only takes a commitment of two hours on the fifth Sunday of the months that have five Sundays, which in 2015 is only two.
And as person who lives day to day without abusing myself as best I can (no ciggies, no drinkies, minimal sugar etc. etc. etc) I know what it is like to need compassion and acceptance and hope. Especially at my worst I needed a whole lotta love as Janis Joplin used to belt out.
So I am inviting you to join in this ministry of presence. Fixing a meal twice in 2015 is not a big deal. It can be chili and crackers and dessert or anything easy. That isn’t the ministry – that is just a barrier lowerer.
The ministry is showing up and accepting the family members, listening to them talk, holding them if they need a hug, being a non-judgmental presence of compassion.
Do you feel called to help family members of inmates (some of whom have not been brought to trial)?
If you are interested, please contact Frank Hintz and tell him annie sent you; hintztm@aol.com
be bold. be brave. be hope.
I received this email from a friend today:
be bold. be brave. be hope.
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I belong to a fellowship – a humanity-ship – of people trying to stay sober one day at a time.
One of the rituals we enjoy as we open our time together is to recite a portion of a prayer written before World War I:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
and the Wisdom to know the difference.
The prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr (it is his picture above) continues with these words:
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
As it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
If I surrender to His Will;
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life
And supremely happy with Him
Forever and ever in the next. Amen.
One of the most serious questions I ask myself and I ask God, on a daily basis, is: Today, what shall I accept and what shall I change?
Acceptance is a complicated issue – always has been for me, and one I struggle with because I do not accept that some people in my hometown are going to bed hungry while others go to bed stuffed. I do not accept that some people have money to burn and some have no heat. I do not accept that some parents were tortured as children so they torture their own children.
It is hard for me to accept situations which can be changed, so I push on and suggest change and ask others to join me in changing the world.
What causes you to be “reasonably happy”? Change? No change? Acceptance? Approval? Denial? Isolation? Playing well with others? Being better than others?
So many challenges to our hearts.
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Niebuhr claimed he wrote the short Serenity Prayer. Fred R. Shapiro, who had cast doubts on Niebuhr’s claim, conceded in 2009 that, “The new evidence does not prove that Reinhold Niebuhr wrote [the prayer], but it does significantly improve the likelihood that he was the originator.” The earliest known version of the prayer, from 1937, attributes the prayer to Niebuhr in this version: “Father, give us courage to change what must be altered, serenity to accept what cannot be helped, and the insight to know the one from the other.”
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Children of the Pyre is a compelling real-life, self-narrative of seven extraordinary children who make their living out of the dead. They collect, snatch or steal used coffin shrouds and sell them for petty amounts in order to ensure their own and their family’s survival Tempered by the heat of the pyre, strengthened in the face of adversities and crafted by a volley of abuses, these imps weave through the pyres and struggle through disdain in this land of the dead. Laughing, smiling, weeping, fighting and shouting, these children run the race for survival – winning it again and again – everyday. The film is a terrible saga of exploitation that celebrates the victory of innocence over the most harrowing realities of life. It’s a torturous journey through seared bodies, callous minds and dead consciences that constitute the human reality of the ghats at Varanasi Written by Anonymous
The film was awarded “Best Documentary” at the 2008 Montréal World Film Festival, 2008 Sao Paulo International Film Festival, 2008 Indian Film Festival of Los Angeles, 2009 Asiatica Film Mediale, 2009 IDPA, and the “Silver Lotus Award” for “Best Audiography” at the 56th National Film Awards.[5]
I just saw this movie and am still undone by its beauty. Bring your hankies! It is difficult to see and experience, and is beautifully acted.
It is a true story about an Englishman and a Japanese man who meet again after World War 2. Their original meeting was as captor and captive.
Although I don’t want to minimize the war theme of this movie, for me it was really about what we hold onto, what we let go of, and the purifying qualities of forgiveness.
While I sat sobbing at the end, “watching the credits”…..I was so soft and asking God for help where I am still hanging on to issues and hurts that need to be let go of, sort of laughing at myself about the stuff I think is so important that really only harms me; like the concept of drinking poison in order to hurt others.
And as I got into my car and turned on the radio, there was life.
A report about Russia and the Ukraine and new deaths.
A report about Arrests over hanged Indian girls…At least three men, including a police officer arrested after two teenage girls are gang raped and hanged from a tree in northern India.
A report from Africa about group of Christian youths in the Central African Republic who sacked a mosque and barricaded streets with burning tyres in the capital, Bangui…
And I thought about the danger of letting resentments fester and control our souls, because that is what war is. We are told it is geopolitical, necessary for clarity over resource allocation, for religious purification or for a bunch of other arguments that may sound reasonable, but underneath it all, we are simply babies in the sandbox, deciding who gets to play with the one shovel.
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29 May 2014 Last updated at 15:17 ET
Why do families kill their daughters?
By Gerry Holt BBC News
The stoning to death of a pregnant Pakistani woman by her own family has thrust the issue of so-called honour killings into the spotlight.
What is an ‘honour killing’?
It is the killing of a member of a family who is perceived to have brought dishonour upon relatives.
Pressure group Human Rights Watch says the most common reasons are that the victim:
- refused to enter into an arranged marriage
- was the victim of a sexual assault or rape
- had sexual relations outside marriage, even if only alleged
But killings can be carried out for more trivial reasons, like dressing in a way deemed inappropriate or displaying behaviour seen as disobedient.
“The perpetrator seeks to excuse it as some sort of protection of their family’s honour, reputation or values,” says Mustafa Qadri, Pakistan researcher for Amnesty International.
Last year, three women were killed in Pakistan after being captured on video “smiling and laughing in the rain outside their family home”.
Men may also be targeted, by members of the family of a woman with whom they are perceived to have had an inappropriate relationship.
Last year in India, a young couple were murdered in Haryan state because they planned to marry despite being from the same caste. Nidhi Barak, 20, was beaten to death and Dharmender Barak, 23, dismembered alive.
But Rothna Begum, researcher on the Middle East and North Africa for Human Rights Watch, says women bear the brunt of such punishments because they are more widely perceived as “keepers” of family or community honour.
How do families justify the murders?
The idea that a murder can be honourable is believed to come from tribal customs where an allegation against a woman can be enough to defile a family’s reputation – the idea that “a life without honour is not worth living”.
Perpetrators have sometimes tried to justify their actions on religious grounds – but none of the world’s main religions condone honour-related crimes.
In some countries, these tribal customs have been codified into law, which may constitute legal grounds for killing a family member.
In Pakistan’s Federally Administered Tribal Areas for example, “rivaj” – or tribal custom – is codified without being defined. This could be interpreted to provide a legal basis for a killing, says Mr Qadri.
The killings are also more prevalent in disenfranchised or remote communities.
A collective failure by the authorities to prosecute such crimes, and the tacit endorsement by local clerics, contribute to them being more accepted, says Mr Qadri.
But above all else, they are a feature of deeply patriarchal societies where there is a belief that a woman’s actions reflect on the men around her, he adds.
How widespread are such murders?
The United Nations Population Fund estimates that 5,000 women globally are murdered in this way each year. Last year, 869 women were said to have been killed in Pakistan.
Women’s advocacy groups suspect the global figure is likely to be closer to 20,000 victims per year – but Mr Qadri thinks the figure is probably hundreds of thousands.
Although prevalent in the Middle East and Asia, it is a widespread global phenomenon, he says.
The UN describes it as a “growing problem”, and says estimates are difficult because killings are rarely reported to police, and families often “cover up” the crime, disguising it as an accident or suicide.
In the UK, figures suggest about 12 such killings take place each year.
One recent high profile case was that of 17-year-old Shafilea Ahmed, whose parents were convicted of suffocating her with a plastic bag. Prosecutors said her parents believed she had brought dishonour on the family by wearing Western-style clothing and mixing with white friends.
“In the name of preserving so-called family honour, women and girls are shot, stoned, burned, buried alive, strangled, smothered and knifed to death,” said a statement from the UN on International Women’s Day.
Sometimes killings happen spontaneously, but in other cases they may be formal and organised. A meeting may be held by male family members and senior women who decide if a woman should be killed, and work out the method.
In the latest widely-reported case, Farzana Parveen, who was three months pregnant, was pelted with bricks and bludgeoned by relatives furious because she married against their wishes.
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Is this really the best we can do today?
be bold. be brave. be hope.
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….and not a drop to drink.
A Britta filtration system costs about 1/10th of the income of an average Indian family. Plus they have to have extra filters…..but the Britta only works if there is water to filter.
But what can we do about their water needs? A few things:
Give a well as a gift at your next family holiday or celebration. Imagine how cool that would be to have an intergenerational well as a Christmas or Hanukkah gift rather than another thing.
Pray for folks without water, with diseased water, without adequate sanitation or with diseased sanitation. Just holding these special people in the light of your love and good thoughts will help you and them.
Give up your daily shower….or bath. I don’t work on the railroad or the highways so I don’t really need to shower every day. I do need to be clean every day. So I have learned how to wash with a “bird bath” which is a sink of hot water. On birdbath days when I wash, I pray for the women and children who are schlepping water from miles away. Then, on shower days, I give thanks and pray for the women and children who are schlepping water from miles away. It helps me stay in touch with those in need and with the extreme abundance I have in my daily life.
What a joy to wake up in the morning and turn on the taps and have safe water – plenty of safe water – come out. It is only through the circumstance of birth that I receive this bounty and that someone else doesn’t.
Here are some more sources of information, ideas on how to conserve water, and some facts to help explain the real water story in the world.
Reducing showering time to five minutes can save an average of 20 to 40 gallons of water
Millions lack safe water
More than 3.4 million people die each year from water, sanitation, and hygiene-related causes. Nearly all deaths, 99 percent, occur in the developing world.3
- Lack of access to clean water and sanitation kills children at a rate equivalent of a jumbo jet crashing every four hours.1Of the 60 million people added to the world’s towns and cities every year, most move to informal settlements (i.e. slums) with no sanitation facilities.6780 million people lack access to an improved water source; approximately one in nine people.2“[The water and sanitation] crisis claims more lives through disease than any war claims through guns.” 7An American taking a five-minute shower uses more water than the average person in a developing country slum uses for an entire day.7
Over 2.5X more people lack water than live in the United States.2
More people have a mobile phone than a toilet.2,4,5
Resource Links
Look for more facts in our collection of Water Resource Links.
1. Estimated with data from Diarrhea: Why children are still dying and what can be done. UNICEF, WHO 2009
2. Estimated with data from WHO/UNICEF Joint Monitoring Programme (JMP) for Water Supply and Sanitation. (2012). Progress on Sanitation and Drinking-Water, 2012 Update.
3. World Health Organization (WHO). (2008). Safer Water, Better Health: Costs, benefits, and sustainability of interventions to protect and promote health; Updated Table 1: WSH deaths by region, 2004.
4. International Telecommunication Union (ITU). (2011). The World in 2011 ICT Facts and Figures
5. United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA). (2011). State of World Population 2011, People and possibilities in a world of 7 billion
6. UN Water. (2008). Tackling a global crisis: International Year of Sanitation 2008
7. United Nations Development Programme (UNDP). (2006). Human Development Report 2006, Beyond Scarcity: Power, poverty and the global water crisis
8. Map data sourced from “Progress on Sanitation and Drinking-Water, 2010 Update.” WHO/UNICEF Joint Monitoring Programme for Water Supply and Sanitation.
If showering, place small, plastic buckets in shower with you. This will capture water, prior to showering while waiting for water to warm and while showering, that would normally go down the drain.
Where does Southern California’s water come from?
Posted by: Aquafornia on April 29, 2008 at 8:16 am
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California is a beautiful fraud; a magnificent put-on, an exquisitely lush illusion. From the farmlands of the Central Valley to the swimming pools, green lawns and flowering landscapes of Southern California, it is all a brilliantly engineered masterpiece, an extensive rearrangement of the existing natural order, created by the ingenuity and will of man, and costing billions of taxpayer dollars in the process…In the West, it is said that water flows uphill towards money, and nowhere else could that be truer than here in Southern California. About half of the water that flows freely from our taps started as snow in the Sierra Nevada Mountains, and has traveled 444 miles from Northern California. It has leapt up 3000 feet to traverse the Tehachapi Mountains, and traveled through gigantic siphons, pumps and tunnels to reach us.
As early as 1900, Los Angeles had already outgrown its meager water supply, the Los Angeles River. William Mulholland found the water the growing city needed in the Owens Valley, and embarked on an ambitious project to bring it here….Since the Gold Rush era, California has been transformed from a vast, sparsely populated area into one of the world’s leading agricultural and food production regions…These water projects have helped make California a leading agricultural producer, a major manufacturing center, the most populated state in the country, and the eighth largest economy in the world.
No other state has rearranged their environment to the same extent as California. The truth is, most of California is an arid semi-desert, with a climate similar to that of the North African Plain. Los Angeles is drier than Beirut. About 65 percent of the state receives less than 20 inches of rainfall per year, most of that in the winter months. While 70 percent of California’s runoff occurs north of Sacramento, 75 percent of California’s urban and agricultural demands are to the south.
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Through your generosity, the 10 spaces for women in the safe house in the Church of North India, Diocese of Durgapur are paid for for ONE YEAR! that means that 10 women can stay for up to one year and receive food, shelter, encouragement, medical treatment and time to heal before returning home or creating a new life.