Advice I’m paying attention to – 

From Verne Harnish: 

Assign Someone In Your Company to Track Aid – $2 Trillion US Economic Rescue Package passed the Senate – and other countries are sponsoring similar rescue packages.  Assign someone in your company the accountability to gather, track, and help employees and companies get all the aid to which you’re entitled.

Create Covid-19 Expense Line – Consider adding an expense line item called COVID-19 and dump off all expenses in there including your staff and personal time spent dealing with a crisis – this 30-second video by Ron Lovett, author of Outrageous Empowerment, will explain why it will make it easier to apply for government assistance if and when it comes available.

From the HBS Entrepreneur Center:

Effect of the Coronavirus on the Venture & Technology Ecosystem – An analysis looking at the impact of the virus on various industries and sectors.

How I’m responding to This Situation –

Stopping Selling – We’ve stopped promoting anything and everything that someone has to pay for.  It just feels tone-deaf in the current situation.  (Obviously, this isn’t true for all products and services and has to be considered on a case by case basis.)

Start Giving – Professionally, we are giving away a huge chunk of our content as a give back to our community.  (Almost everyone is).    Personally, I’m going through my home and giving away to my neighbors anything that will help them; extra workout equipment, outgrown games and movies and books.  Whatever will make their quarantine easier   Also, I’m sending money to people I know are directly affected, like William, the Ecuadorian server at my favorite restaurant and my cleaner who is no longer coming to my home to clean.

Responding to What’s Needed –

Going Virtual, Not Viral – On 3/16, my team brainstormed what our clients are needing, on 3/17 we emailed clients and prospects inviting them to a FREE mini-course we called Going Virtual, Not Viral to be held 3/19, to share how they could be taking their business virtual.   In two days, we had 132 people sign up and 68 people attended Going Virtual, Not Virtual, live.   We collected the questions and resources offered by the community during the call and shared them back to everyone who signed up.

Stepping into Mindfulness – We created a new FREE 6 weeks course on mindfulness, targeting people who are just beginning to be curious about mindfulness meditation.  We started promoting it on 3/23 and as of midday on 3/26, we have 104 people signed up.

What I’m Leaning on for Leadership Inspiration – 

“Scary Times” Success Manual: How to Be a Leader When Times Get Tough – Wisdom from the guy who’s seen it all, Dan Sullivan at Strategic Coach.  He provides strategies to allow you to keep the focus on opportunities for growth and progress when the world around us gets more turbulent.

What 9/11 Taught Us About Leadership In a Crisis – Former Army General Stanley McChrystal and Chris Fussell remind us that “the greatest leaders emerge from the darkest moments”.

How to Be Leaderly in Utter Uncertainty – A good reminder of how to behave as a leader to plan, communicate, and model what we are wanting to have happen.

What I’m Watching for Fun and Inspiration – 

Hillary – When my Republican brother from Florida suggested I watch this, it got my attention.  Frankly, I haven’t been a Hillary fan.  I felt she was too opaque and I was just plain mad at her for losing.  This documentary turned me around on Hillary.  I have a new respect and admiration for her truly remarkable devotion to this country and her resilience in fighting for it.  The attribute of resilience in the face of defeat, over-whelming negativity and bad odds is something I think we can all get behind right now.

What the World Needs Now – If ever there were a time for the world to come together, this might be that invitation.  I found this video inspiring, touching and hopeful.

Zoey’s Extraordinary Playlist – In challenging times, sometimes we just need a happy, easy escape from it all.  This silly, funny TV show on NBC fits the bill.  It’s about a young, nerdy, female engineer working at a tech start-up who by accident was endowed with the superpower of hearing people’s feelings in song (and dance).  The actors, singers, dancers are all phenomenal and somehow this show can come off as endearing versus cheesy.  Hope you love it as much as we do.  (It’s a COVID-19 date night show for Ken and me).

What I’m reading –

Realization – This may not be for everyone and it’s doing more to help me work through and be with what’s happening now than anything I’ve ever read.  First of all, this is a channeled text, which means it is a narrative that is being spoken through the author by who he calls the Guides.  (And if that’s just too weird for you, and no judgment if it is, I get it, that’s cool.  You can stop here.)  Through a series of synchronistic coincidences, I attended a workshop by the author, Paul Selig, a few weeks ago.  It was enough for me to buy into what he and the Guides are saying about the nature of humanity and being human.   I know that’s not a very satisfying description and I’m still getting my head around what it’s saying.  And it’s helping me.

Why We Sleep – A client suggested I read this book because he has problems sleeping (as so many do).  I read it and since then have gifted it to 3-4 other people who have challenges with sleep.   Because sleep is SO important to the quality of life, I’d read quite a bit about such things before.   And this book is hands down the best resource on sleep that I’ve come across.   Well researched, well written.   There too much in the book to synthesize it all down but here’s what I will say 1) If you are taking Ambien, you’ve GOT to fucking STOP.  2) The single biggest factor impacting sleep quality is waking and going to bed at the same time each day.  3) Good sleep hygiene is surprisingly beneficial.

Energy Anatomy – This may also be too way out there for some of you.  This audiobook is spoken at a series of live workshops by the author.  It’s dated at this point, however, one of the things she talks about speaks directly to what is happening now – which is what it is about the energy of humanity that generates epidemics.   It’s a way of making sense of this craziness.

A quote that is supporting me–

“You do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it is all going. What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage, faith, and hope.” THOMAS MERTON

I love you.   I believe in you.  You can do this.

Namaste!

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Take care,

Alison

What I’m excited about–

Camp Maverick – I didn’t go to camp as a kid.  It wasn’t in the consideration set. As a result, I generally don’t like to camp and find being around lots of people for longer than a few hours, more than a little challenging.  And when I learned that a couple of people I know and love had a camp for entrepreneurs, I decided to go as a STRETCH exercise and to show support.  That was two years and two camps ago and I’m stoked to be going again in a couple of weeks.

Camp Maverick is a fantastical fusion of entrepreneurs, outdoors, magical-meaningful experiences, and plain silliness.  It’s super fun, with phenomenal people, and educational take-aways.   Join me!!!

TED2020 – I’m stoked to be attending the TED conference (main stage in Vancouver) in 2020.   I’ve attended TEDGlobal in Rio and three or so TEDActive conferences (where they simulcast the mainstage), but this will be my first main stage TED conference.

After organizing three TEDx conferences and attending four TED related conferences and many TEDx conferences, I got TEDed-out a few years ago.  I decided to reenter the fold because I’ve found that I can get pretty tunnel-focused these days, tuning out virtually everything that isn’t absolutely necessary for me to make it to the next day.  I can easily lose track of what’s going on in the world.  And watching 100, 10-20 minute talks over four or so days is a great way to catch up!

What I’m reading –

Happiness is a Choice You Make: Lessons from a year among the oldest old – I have to admit, this book title kinda ticked me off.  Don’t we all want to be happy?!  If it was as easy as choosing it, wouldn’t we all be happy?!  And I read the book anyway and got the point.

The author, John Leland, spent a year with six New Yorkers aged 85 and over to learn about what it means to grow old.  All six people experienced a significant financial, family, health and/or home challenge during the year.   And yet all six of the “oldest old” oriented themselves around what they still could do, what was still available to them, what still held value and meaning in their lives.  In short, they found ways to be happy.  And if they can, can’t I?

My orientation toward life is one of my own making.  My relationship with myself, my life, my friends and family, my circumstances, is one I have created.  And yes, it feels overly simplistic to say happiness is a choice, because there are SO many steps before I can get there – (e.g. detaching from my trigger response, getting curious, stepping back, getting perspective, looking for the lesson, focusing on the good).  I’m coming to believe that if I/we’ve created the life I/we have (and I/we have), then I/we can create a happy one.  (Says easy, does hard).

What I’m enjoying –

Creative Birthdays – One of the amazing entrepreneurs in my circle of friends had his 50^th birthday on Monday and invited me and a couple of others to his creatively designed birthday party.  He’s a big sailor/kayaker and his 50^th birthday wish was to kayak with a few friends through the marshes of the Potomac and have dinner under the stars IN the Potomac.  So he negotiated access to a floating platform that is anchored in the Potomac (which we kayaked out to) and is equipped with a grill, chairs, a battery for running lights, towels and floaties.

After a lovely, sunny paddle through the Dyke Marsh, we drank margaritas, ate perfectly grilled corn, meat and peaches with melted peanut butter caramel ice cream.  We talked about life, love, passion, poetry and what makes us feel alive.   Time stood still.  Birthday Present.

After cleaning and packing up, we paddled back to shore with headlamps to light the pitch-black night.  I fell into bed with Ken just after midnight on a Monday thinking, “We all deserve a little bit of magic, friendship and love on our birthdays.”

Ritz Carlton – Half Moon Bay – Last month, I was granted an amazing opportunity to present at the annual offsite for investors at the PE firm, Warburg Pincus, held at the Ritz Carlton at Half Moon Bay.  I’ve enjoyed a number of high-end hotels, and this one was a step above.

The staff was calm, helpful, warm and present.  The food and drinks were tasty, creative and carefully crafted.  The grounds were beautifully maintained and the view was stunning.  Go if you can!

What I’m creating –

On Demand Training Course – One of the projects that’s held my focus for the last few weeks has been an on-demand training course I’m creating for my company, Learning in Action.   It’s a series of short videos, reflection forms and exercises designed to complement and explain the results of our Relational Intelligence measurement instrument.

Due to a unique set of constraining circumstances, I had to shoot the 30ish short videos for the course in a little over 2 hours.   Which basically means, I had to nail almost all of them in one take.  And because I’m extraordinarily fortunate to be supported by partners like Yokoco, who make it all turnkey, I was able to make it all work.  Here’s a tiny sample of a less than 2 minute video where I had some fun introducing poetry into the mix.

Conflict Videos – The heart of what we do at Learning in Action is to shine the light of awareness on our relational blindspots. Part of how we do that is by inviting people into a common workplace interpersonal conflict and inquiring about their internal experience of the conflict.  Driven by the opportunity at Warburg Pincus, we decided to create new conflict videos to use in our presentations and trainings.

We worked with an amazing team of professionals at NXNW Digital Studio to select actors, create the setting and shoot relatable, evocative videos.   I feel great about the work we did together.  Here’s a sample conflict video we’ll use with leaders and teams.

Quote I’m pondering –

“Given the scale of life in the cosmos, one human life is no more than a tiny blip. Each one of us is just a visitor to this planet, a guest, who will only stay for a limited time. What greater folly could there be than to spend this short time alone, unhappy or in conflict with our companions? Far better, surely, to use our short time here in living a meaningful life, enriched by our sense of connection with others and being of service to them.” – Dalai Lama XIV

Namaste!

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Take care,

Alison

What I’m consuming – 

Lululemon – Men’s Pants– My husband has become the master of looking sharp while being extremely comfortable.   Now that he’s not going into an office every day, his daily activities vary a lot ,so his wardrobe needs to serve double duty.  He wears these pants when he wants to both be comfortable and look great.   He’ll pair them with a button down shirt from Lululemon (like this one I got him for Father’s Day) or this performance fabric shirt from Mizzen + Main (which I got him for his birthday).

Stingers – GF Chocolate Mint Waffle – I stumbled upon these yummies at a bike shop in Frisco, CO last week.   Back when I was still doing endurance activities, I loved Honey Stingers because they were so tasty.   I got away from them because the waffles contained gluten and I didn’t really need them for endurance any more.  Well, these snackies are organic and gluten free and whether I’m doing endurance activities or not, I’ve decided to re-enter this low-glycemic, convenient 140 calorie snack back into my diet.

What I’m trying – 

CBD – I was in Colorado with my family last month (see more on that below) and was curious about the cute, little CBD store on Main Street in Breck, Pharmstrong.  Everyone reading this probably knows more about CBD than I do.  If not, here’s the skinny as I understand it:  CBD (cannabidiol) and THC are the two most prevalent active ingredients in cannabis (marijuana). It’s the THC that gets you high. The separate CBD component has been found to have some beneficial properties.   Some evidence shows that CBD has been used effectively to reduce seizures in children with epilepsy.  And while the jury is still out on its efficacy, CBD is also being used to promote sleep, calm anxiety and reduce pain and inflammation.  (BTW, CBD is legal in all 50 states.)

CBD is converted to an oil for sleep and taken sublingually, is converted to a cream and used topically to reduce pain and inflammation and is converted to gel caps and taken almost like a vitamin.  Everyone I have spoken with says that it needs to be used daily for a period of time to see the benefits.   I’m trying the pain and joint kit.   I’ll keep you posted.

What I’m reading – 

The Surrender Experiment – my journey into life’s perfection  – I can’t stop reading (listening to) this mesmerizing book.  It’s the true story of a brilliant, young man in the 1970s, who just wanted to live a simple, quiet, spiritual life, in the woods of Alachua, FL.   Along the way, he decided to conduct an experiment –  to surrender his life to what he calls the “invisible hand of the universe” by saying “yes” to what came his way, regardless of his own personal preferences and biases.  The remarkable result of his experiment was the creation of a 600 acre spiritual community, a construction business, and a personalized programming company that ultimately grew through merger and acquisition into what became WebMD.  (Here’s a summary, but only read it if you don’t mind spoilers.)

I’m not certain yet what I’ll do with my new found inspiration, only that I’ve come to believe 1) life can be easier than I’m making it 2) at most any moment in my life, if you would have told me 5 years before where I’d be and what I’d be doing 5 years hence, I wouldn’t have believe you and 3) there is a perfection to the universe, even if I can’t see it.

What I’m watching – 

The Biggest Little Farm –   I was genuinely touched by this beautiful documentary of an ambitious and passionate young couple who left their jobs in LA to start Apricot Lane Farms, 40 miles north of LA.  (91% on Rotten Tomatoes). But they didn’t want to start just any farm. They wanted to create what’s called a “traditional farm”, one that uses no chemicals or pesticides and where the plants and animals are left alone to do pretty much what they were meant to do.   The tension in the film comes from the couple’s success in creating the ideal eco-system for one set of creatures, only to find themselves overcome by them, that is until they could determine nature’s intrinsic balance.

This ~ 90 minute movie (a joy for all ages, though it’s rated PG for showing some of what happens between predator and prey) chronicles the 8 year quest of John and Molly Chester, as they attempt to convert 200 acres of dead, barren farmland into a well-balanced, Garden of Eden-like, eco-system with pigs, goats, ducks, sheep, chickens, cattle and 75 varieties of stone fruit.

What I found so touching about this film is how it reveals the perfection of nature, such that when man just gets out of the way, leads to balance, beauty and harmony.

Chernobyl – Holy S&*t! – This gripping new drama by HBO is a MUST WATCH! I’ve only watched the first episode, but everyone in my family who has watched it has said they’d watch it all again.   As you might have guessed, this mini-series tells the true story of 1986 nuclear accident.  It is, by all accounts, horrifying.  What happened, how it happened, why it happened, how denial of the truth led to death and destruction for the people, plants and animals impacted.

I found this drama disturbing, not just because it’s so painfully true, but because it hits so close to home now.  While we aren’t currently being faced with a Chernobyl-like emergency, the denial of things like climate change and its causes feel hauntingly similar to what led to the disastrous outcome at Chernobyl.

What I’m enjoying – 

BreckInnRidge Vacation – My extended family and I just wrapped up a week’s vacation in Breckenridge, Colorado.  We started going to Summit County for a week in the summer more than a decade ago.  My siblings and I would gather our families together at my father’s home in Dillon, CO and reflect on past memories while creating new ones.  Since my father’s passing a little more than a year ago, it became important of us to continue the tradition on our own.

I found this beauty on AirBNB –  9 bedrooms, 5 fireplaces, 3 dining areas, multiple in-door and outdoor gathering areas, hot tub, ping-pong, pool, foosball, air hockey, and full game room, all in 9000 square ft and with 25 ft ceilings.  It was walking distance to Main Street, Breckenridge as well as to hiking and biking trails.  It was spectacularly well-suited for our families who came from Seattle, Tulsa, OKC, DC, Orlando and Ft Meyers to be together.   We had a marvelous time, hiking, biking, cooking, eating, drinking and laughing together.

Why am I sharing this?  I suspect that there will be a lot of things I regret over the course of my life or at least things I’ll wish I’d done better and/or with more love.  And I’ll never regret a minute or dollar I spend with and for my family, creating memories together.   I hope you’ll do the same in whatever way works for you.

Quotes I’m pondering – 

“Let what’s holding you back be what wakes you up!”  – not sure who said this or where I heard it but it stuck.

“The mind is an excellent servant and a terrible master”.  David Foster Wallace

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Take care,

Alison

What I’m trying – 

Hyperice Sphere – Vibrating Therapy Ball –  I started working out with a new trainer recently and I think he was trying to figure out my baseline or something.  After a first workout that included a grueling series of pull ups, chin ups (assisted, of course), sled pushes and pulls, tire flips and TRX pikes, I was toasty, achy and sore.   I’ve started using this vibrating ball like a combo pack of trigger-point and massage therapy.  The muscles definitely feel way better after using this tendon tenderizer.

What I’m reading – 

My Grandfather Would Have Shot Me – A Black Woman Discovers her Family’s Nazi Past – A couple of years ago, Ken and I bought a house in Duck, North Carolina, a tiny town on the strip of land in the state’s Outer Banks.  We love it because we can walk everywhere, including to a small, local bookstore/coffee shop, Duck Cottage.  The bookstore’s owner must be curating their limited offerings just for me because I find a book I love every time I go. That’s where I found this book.  It’s the story of a black woman who was browsing through the self-help section of the central library where she lived in Hamburg, Germany and stumbled upon a book titled “I Have to Love My Father Don’t I?:The Life Story of Monica Goeth, daughter of the Concentration Camp Commander in Schindlers List.”  She recognized the black and white photo of the author on the cover – It was her biological mother.

It’s a fascinating story of how this young black woman uncovered her biological family’s dark past.  While the author isn’t a professional writer, the story is compelling enough on its own.  Definitely worth the read.

My Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She’s Sorry – I’m not sure why I originally picked up this book.  I don’t read much fiction.  But since reading this book by author, Fredrik Bachman, I’ve read pretty much everything he’s written and loved it.  It’s the story of seven-year-old Elsa and her seventy-seven-year-old grandmother, who is her best and only friend.  Elsa’s grandmother spins stories of make believe that entrance and connect them both.  When Elsa’s grandmother dies, she leaves a series of letters apologizing to people she has wronged, sending Elsa on a treasure hunt of sorts to deliver them.  It’s one of those books you just have to read.  (And oh when I thought of the book with Grandfather in the title I remembered this one by coincidence.)

What I’m watching – 

Rocketman – I came of age listening to Elton John.  He’s had 57 top 40 hits, second only to Elvis. Ken and Cole and I can’t wait to see Taron Egerton in Rocketman, the movie.  We’ve been mainlining Elton John’s originals and Taron Egerton’s interpretation of them.  I’m loving how Taron hasn’t seemed to have felt compelled to sing all of the songs exactly like Elton John sang them.  He’s bringing his own interpretation to them which profiles his enormous talent.  (We loved him in Kingsman too)

LastWeekTonight with John Oliver – I don’t watch much TV.  I’ll find a series a like (which isn’t easy), I watch all of the episodes and then suffer a long dry spell (where I am now) when I’m not watching any TV because I can’t find anything I like.  That said, my treat when I eat lunch on Mondays is to watch John Oliver’s installment of LastWeekTonight, a hilarious grilling of topics/people in the news.  Oliver is very smart, very funny and passionate.  And he goes to extraordinary lengths to make a point, like creating the best-selling book, A Day in the Life of Marlon Bundo, a children’s story about Vice President, Mike Pence’s rabbit, Marlon Bundo and how he finds love in the form of another boy bunny.

What I’m consuming – 

Farmers and Distillers –  This is my favorite all time restaurant located in downtown DC.   Ken and Cole took me there for Mother’s Day and I didn’t want to leave.  Theirmenu is crazy eclectic featuring items that range from chicken spring rolls and sweet potato dumplings (super yum) and Yankee Pot Roast and Southern Chicken Fried Steak and a Glazed Donut.  (The donuts are SO worth all of the exercise I have to do to get them off!)

Poppy – I forgot how much I LOVE this restaurant until I went back again recently when in Seattle.  It’s Seattle casual, yet elegant.   The menu changes regularly and there is rarely anything on it that I would typically order so I just close my eyes and see where my finger lands and it’s always fresh, deliciously flavorful and unique.  They have both small and large plates so it’s perfect for family style gathers.  (We celebrated a family gathering there recently).  Sooooo good.  And I don’t leave feeling horribly guilty, just happy.

Quotes I’m pondering – 

“What you are to be, you are now becoming.” – Carl Rogers
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are” – Anais Nin

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Take care,

Alison

What I’m trying –
The Math Behind Successful Relationships –  Of the myriad of topics that can burden the mind of the entrepreneur, their marriage and their relationship with their spouse/partner is among the most common.  How we attend to and acknowledge our spouse makes an enormous difference in the quality of our relationship.   The good news is that if we honor the golden 5-1 ratio, affirming/acknowledging our spouse 5 times more than we criticize/negatively acknowledge them, our relationship will get better. While it’s not a magic bullet, it’s pretty awesome.  I’ve been trying it myself and all I can say is that things are softer/easier now.  I was talking to my husband on the phone during a recent Uber ride and when I hung up the driver said “It was nice how you thanked your husband for what he did.  Really nice!”.  I think he was wishing he got a little more of that. Who wouldn’t?
Jazz Dance Basics –  A few months ago, I developed a “move it or lose it” philosophy and convinced a female colleague in my CEO group to join me for a weekly dance class.  Since I really wanted to her to join me, I let her pick the type of dance.   So, we are doing Bob Fosse-style Jazz Dance. It’s hysterical.  We are AWFUL and having SO much fun.  For an hour every Sunday, we can’t worry or focus or plan on anything else.  We are completely present, in the moment, performing some really hideous dance moves. So fun!

What I’m reading –
Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself –  I listened to this book as I walked my dog and my neighbors must have thought I was nuts as I shouted “YES!” every few steps.  This book was mind-expanding, mind-blowing and affirming, all at the same time.  While I’m normally quite able to synthesize the meaning of books, I’m stealing this one because I’m still reeling from what it all means.  In short, the premise of the book is: “There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind—you are the one who hears it.”   I’ve known this and yet the author’s simple illustration of it made it come alive in ways it hasn’t for me before.  It’s a must read for anyone into self-development.
North: Finding My Way While Running the Appalachian Trail –  I loved this book by ultra-runner legend Scott Jurek.  It’s a testament to what the body can endure when the mind is unwavering.  Without much of a plan or many resources, Scott determined to set the speed record for running the 2,189 miles of the Appalachian Trial.   And just to keep it interesting, he decided to run it South to North, instead of the easier and more common, North to South.   To set the record, Scott would have to run 50+ miles every day for 7 weeks.  It’s crazy and so good! (I’m not going to spoil it!)

What I’m consuming –
Mizzen and Main =  I learned of these athletically cut, insanely resilient men’s shirts from Tim Ferriss, bought them for my husband and now he wears almost nothing else.  They look like dress shirts but behave like high-end athletic gear.   They travel amazingly well, can be thrown into the washer and they come out looking great.  No dry cleaning.   You’ve got to get one to believe it.
P90X3 –  A few years ago, my son’s schedule changed and mine with it.  His school started earlier and he began having breakfast at 6:30 am (prime workout time for me) and I wanted to be there to start the day with him.  So, I changed my workout routine to doing 30-minute workouts at home.  Tony Horton (as puffed up as he is) and P90X3 made this challenging transition a bit easier and helped me retain (most of) my fitness level, while shortening my workouts.  I still do Insanity Max 30 when I want to do a “cough up a lung” cardio workout, but the Core workout in P90X3 is one I swear by and do every week.    My sense is that if I can have a strong core, it’ll make everything else better and easier.   So far so good.
Door-Dash =  Some weekends, I don’t want to cook and the family is too tired to go out and we have next to nothing in the frig.  So, we Door-Dash.  Door Dash is well established in the DMV area and using their app, I can order lunch or dinner from almost any restaurant in town and it’ll arrive at my door in 30-45 minutes.  Sure, there’s a delivery fee and a Dasher Tip, etc, but, we don’t care.  It’s worth it to us to cocoon at home and eat well.

Quotes I’m pondering –
“The fault we see in the face of another is the fault we hide within us.  We want the other to change so we’ll feel better.  But, that’s like looking in the mirror when we have dirt on our face and rubbing the mirror to get it off.”   – paraphrased from Kelly Lynn Gitter

If you liked this (or not), let me know and feel free to forward it to someone who might benefit.   They can subscribe to C-lever POL here.  If you’d have a thought or comment, I’d love to hear it!

Take care,
Alison

What I’m learning –
Eco-leadership – I’ve been studying various forms of leadership for quite a while, but I’d never heard of Eco-leadership until recently when preparing for my interview of Dr. Simon Western.  Eco-leadership is an exciting concept (that little is written about and frankly, I’m still trying to figure out) that focuses on the idea of distributing leadership and decision-making throughout an organization. It’s a more organic and nimble form of leadership that treats organizations as eco-systems.  If you are curious, you can learn more about it from Dr. Western’s book, Leadership: A Critical Text.   I genuinely believe there is something to learn here, it just needs to be teased out.

What I’m trying –
How to Set up Your Iphone for Productivity, Focus and Longevity   – In terms of segments of technology adoption, I’m pretty much a laggard.  That said, even I recognize that sharpening the saw will make the tree go down faster.  There’s something in this article for even the tech-savviest of you.

What I’m reading –
Can’t Hurt Me, by David Goggins – David Goggins is one crazy mother f$%ker!!!  David Goggins, the hard-charging Navy SEAL that Jesse Itzler writes about in Living with a Seal, takes pride in his ability to endure pain (maybe even to the point of masochism).   He’s proven that his mind and body can take an inhumane amount of punishment from his ultra-endurance events to his attempts at the Guinness Book of World Record’s most pull-ups in 24 hours.   He has run on broken legs, he’s done hundreds of pull-ups on split up hands, he’s run a 100 miles in 24 hours with zero training.   This book makes the point, over and over again, that the limits of our bodies are in our own minds.

Wise Heart: A Guide to the Universal Teachings of Buddhist Psychology, by Jack Kornfield. – I “read” this book on audible, where the warm, gentle Jack Kornfield reads it himself.  I let his tender book wash over me as I ran and walked our Ladradoodle, Libby.  I suspect I’ll be returning to it again and again as I work on learning to be with what is, accepting myself and others and living from a loving heart.  It’s definitely a work in progress for me. 

What I’m watching –
Bill Murray Stories – I’d been a Bill Murray fan for years (Who doesn’t like Caddy Shack and Groundhog Day?) before I heard of the Bill Murray Stories.  I came to know and like him even more after being at the Kennedy Center a few years ago when he was awarded the Mark Twain Prize for humor.  But after watching this documentary, OMG, I LOVE the guy!   I see him in a completely new way now.  I see him as embodying much of what I seek to be  – present, in the moment, connected and accepting of who and what is.  Watch and enjoy!

Free Solo – You’d have to live under a rock not to have heard about this raw, authentic, thrilling, academy award-winning documentary of Alex Honnold’s attempt to free solo (climb alone without a rope) El Capitan, a 900 meter, vertical rock face in Yosemite National Park.   The film takes you inside the life and mind of the most successful free solo climber alive.  (Honnold is the most successful free solo climber alive partly because of how phenomenal a climber he is and partly because most free solo climbers don’t live long.)  They did an fMRI of Honnold’s brain and guess what? It doesn’t register fear in a neurotypical way, which won’t surprise you as you watch this.  (If you like this movie, you might like Meru, another climbing documentary also filmed by the remarkable Jimmy Chin).

Trip of Compassion – This absorbing documentary tells the compelling story of how MDMA has been used to treat successfully previously untreatable PTSD.   This film invites the viewer into the traumatic experiences of three individuals, their therapist-guided treatments with MDMA and their miraculous recovery and reintegration into their lives.  I believe plant-based medicine therapy will become mainstream in the next 20 years and is going to change lives, alter the health care system and create a niche of new business opportunities.

What I’m consuming –
Rogue Chocolatier – I heard about this chocolate by way of an interview with Seth Godin in which he said Rogue was one of the best chocolatiers in the world (many experts agree).  But don’t expect to jump online or pop by your local Whole Foods and pick some up.  Their product stays sold out and is completely pre-ordered in advance.  It’s tough to get, but if you can, OMG! It’s like no other taste experience.  It’s a smooth, velvety delight.  Simply exquisite.

Meomi Pinor Noir – I discovered this wine about 5 years ago in Dillon, CO where my family goes every summer.   It’s been my go-to wine ever since.  When my family gets together each summer, we do a wine tasting contest of sorts.  We change it up each year – sometimes it’s “pick the varietal”, sometimes it’s “pick the price point” to see if we can taste the difference between cheap and really expensive wine and sometimes it’s “match the wine to the Wine Spectator description” (that’s the toughest).  Anyway, I always ask the local wine guy for his recommendations and since Meomi, I haven’t looked back.  (Also, I’ve been a fan of pinot noir, ever since Sideways.)

Quotes I’m pondering –
“Normal waking consciousness is but one of many potential forms of consciousness… Our account of reality is incomplete at best”. – Michael Pollan

“Our brains are biased to encode most strongly those feelings that are accompanied by endangerment….Our memories are Velcro for painful experiences and Teflon for pleasant ones.” – Tara Brach

“The chances that you will wake up are in direct proportion to the amount of truth you can take without running away.” – Anthony De Mello

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Take care,

Alison

What I’m learning –

• Power of Awareness  – Six months ago, I applied for a 2 year Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Certification Program (MMTCP) led by Tara Brach and Jack Kornfield.  (I got in and it just started!).  One of the pre-requisites for the MMTCP is this program offered by Sounds True.  The intention of the program (open to anyone) is to support the development of a mindfulness meditation practice.  It’s one of the most impactful trainings I’ve ever experienced, both in its simplicity and its depth.  It’s a 7 week, self-directed program with ~ 12 short (20 min) video classes and 3 live (1 hour) virtual sessions with ~ 7 classmates led by a Mindfulness Meditation Mentor.  (My cohort included people from Norway, England and the Middle East).  I had meditated before, but I didn’t learn to love meditation until this course.  If you’ve ever been interested in developing a mindfulness practice of your own, I can’t recommend this enough!

Habits that are supporting me –

• 5 Minute Journal –  I started using this simple, yet profound little journal ~ 4 years ago.  It’s perfect for those of us who want to do some form of daily self-reflection, but don’t want to spend a lot of time doing it.  With this journal, you spend three minutes in the morning naming three things you are grateful for, three things you want to do to have a great day and one affirmation for the day.  At night, you spend two minutes writing three things that were amazing about the day and one thing you might have done differently.  Nothing has helped identify the patterns that don’t serve me faster than this practice.  (About 3 years ago, I was horrified to see how many Friday or Saturday night entries of what I could have done better said “drink one less glass of wine”.  Ugh, not pretty, and SO important for me to see and change – and I have.)

What I’m reading –

• How to Change Your Mind – What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression and Transcendence – Michael Pollan, author of In Defense of Food and The Omnivore’s Dilemma, and one of the best science writers of our time, turns his attention to the controversial topic of psychedelics and their responsible (and not so responsible) use.  In his meticulously researched book, he documents the history of psychedelics and their uses (both on and off label), the evidence of their benefits for a myriad of conditions (from PTSD to smoking cessation) and his own personal experience of the best-known psychedelics.  And so what?  I firmly believe these plant based medicines exist for an organic reason.  They exist to remind us of who we are, how we are connected and what matters.

What I’m watching –

• I’m Sorry  – OK, this may not be for everyone, but it’s one of the few shows my husband, Ken, and I watch and laugh at together.  It’s hysterically funny (we think) and a useful model of coupleness.  The couple (he’s a lawyer and she’s some kind of sex comedy writer, not really sure) talk about everything, make fun of every crazy situation and are insanely transparent, with each other and their friends.  I’m intrigued by the way this fictional couple relates to one another and think there’s something here I want to learn.  It’s definitely for mature audiences.

What I’m listening to –

• How I Built This – Ken and I listen to this podcast on the long drive to Duck in the Outer Banks of North Carolina, which we make 4-5 times a year.  The podcast is hosted by Guy Raz (same guy that hosts the TED radio hour) and he talks to successful entrepreneurs like Blake Mycoskie of TOMS, Melanie Perkins of Canva, and Andy Dunn of Bonobos to find out the good, the bad, the ugly of how they made it.  One of my favs is the episode with Joe Gebbia, co-founder of Airbnb.  I’m inspired by what these entrepreneurs do when faced with what might seem to anyone else like certain failure.

Quotes I’m Trying On –

• “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I change.” – Carl Rogers.  More and more, I’m seeing how I can be expectant rather than acceptant and noticing the unhappiness that brings me (and others).
• “The world is divided between the people who think they’re right….”Yeah, that’s pretty much the whole quote.  And so, so true.  (Not sure who said it first.)
• “If you come here, you will find a hidden treasure.  It’s the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary; only wise men are able to understand them.  Whoever you are, or whatever it is that you do, when you really want something, it’s because that desire originated in the soul of the universe…” – Paul Coelho.    The treasure we seek is closer than we can imagine.

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Take care,

Alison

What I’m reading –

• Fearless  – The Undaunted Courage and Ultimate Sacrifice of Navy SEAL Team SIX Operator Adam Brown– by Eric Blehm  – Thank you Jon Wilkenfeld for this recommendation, inspired by our dinner/workshop on Fear.  I’m encouraged and inspired by reading true stories of courage and perseverance and boy, does this one deliver!  Plus, I’m fascinated by Navy SEALs.  (If you are too and want a laugh-out-loud read, try Living With A Seal. I used their workout as one of my annual challenges.  Tough, but so good!)
• Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood – by Trevor Noah.   This book is fantastic!  5 star reviews by 6,000 customers on Amazon.  Trevor Noah is perhaps more brilliant, adaptable and entrepreneurial than he is funny.  (And he’s very funny).  He was quite literally Born a Crime.  His mother was black, his father was white and during apartheid, when he was born, black and whites having sex could get you 5 years in jail (if you were the black one of the couple).

What I’m watching –

• The Amazing Mrs Maisel –  I don’t watch much TV, but when I do, I want it to be good and to transport me from my day to day.  And this Amazon Video Series doesn’t disappoint.  The acting is sensational and the script is comic genius.  5 star reviews by ~ 18,000 customers.  (clearly 3x more people watch TV than read

What’s keeping me going –

• Apple AirPods – I can’t believe it took me so long to get these.  (A gift from my hubby for Christmas).   I’ve been dinking around with wired headsets way too long.  These fit snug in my ears and sound great.  I can listen to my audio books while I run or walk Libby, our labradoodle.
• Nature Wise’s Organic Ashwagandha Energy Drink –  Coffee doesn’t agree with me, diet cola drinks make me sleepy, and I don’t love tea, though I drink it.  I LOVE these energy drinks that I discovered at Camp Maverick – the Entrepreneur sleep-away camp.  I can only drink one (and I should probably only drink about ¾ of one, because I get pretty amped up.). It’s got 60 calories and 15 grams of sugar, but so worth it!

What I’m asking myself –

• How do I be with someone who doesn’t accept me as I am?   – That’s a tough one.  I’m still noodling my way through that.
• How do I apologize and take responsibility for what’s mine in a conflict, without taking everything that’s being heaped upon me?  –   I was tested with this recently.  It was incredibly challenging to keep my cool while I was being berated and devalued.  And really tricky taking responsibility for what was mine in the conflict, when so much more was being attributed to me that I was being expected to apologize for.  Ugh.   I think I did all I could do, and I’m still rethinking it.

What I’m trying –

• Notice, Name and Accept without Change Exercise – I do this a part of my meditation practice.  I notice and name every aspect of my experience, my emotions, my sensations, my thoughts, my distractions, being present and curious and accepting of each.  And even if I’m uncomfortable or in pain, instead of changing something or resisting it, I notice it, name my experience of it and accept it.    I’m still putting this in practice and I’ve found it to be remarkably powerful at helping me to process through feelings, notice my thought patterns and helping me manage through aches and pains.   Try it during a 5 min sitting practice.
• Use it or Lose it – In a recent conversation with my Mom, she shared with me that she can no longer jump.  Why this came as a surprise to me, I don’t know.  I guess it never occurred to me that at some point I might not be able to lift my body from the ground.   To be fair, she’s 86 and she learned she could no longer jump while in an aerobics class where the instruction was to skip (which requires both feet being off the ground at the same time).   So this year, I’m planning to do things I don’t typically do.  I’m considering ice skating (I didn’t learn growing up.  I would have to take lessons), tennis (I love tennis and it’s been ages since I played), dance (I’m not a good dancer and don’t have the occasion to dance often and I love it).  I’m going to use my body while I still can.  I turn 59 this year, hopefully, and I want to move my body in all the ways I can, as long as I can.  BTW, I was further inspired by Dick Van Dyke’s performance in Mary Poppins Returns.  At 93, he can still sing and dance.  Amazing!!!!

If you liked this, let me know and feel free to forward it to someone who might benefit.  And if you didn’t like it, let me know.  I’ll take that in.

Hugs.  And Happy New Year.
Alison

We put bounds on almost every aspect of our life, except work.   We don’t bring our families to work, but we’ll be heads down in our email during our annual family reunion.  We don’t stop in the middle of a work project to take a nap, yet, we’ll truncate sleep to work into the wee hours.  We don’t cancel a meeting so we can work out, but we’ll easily cancel a work out to go to work.   Why?  Possibly because we find work and its rewards addictive.

Reward

At work, most of us are pretty clear about what to do, how we’ll measure it and how our performance will create a beneficial result. (e.g. more customers, lower costs, better employees) We can see a fairly predictable correlation between what we do and the “reward” we get.  And that reward keeps us addicted to our work, like rats running through a maze and getting tasty pellets at the end.

In the “rest of life”, expectations, measurements and rewards are less clear.  The “do this, get that” relationship is tenuous at best.  We could sleep some more, exercise some more, or spend more time with family or friends, but the benefit of that is hard to see, at least at the margins.

Consequence

The consequence of non-performance in work is typically concrete and frequently immediate.   If we miss a critical deadline, fumble a major presentation, or forget an important meeting, we will likely feel the consequences quickly.  We can skip our work out, miss dinner with our family or friends, forget something on the honey-do list and not experience much consequence (at least not directly and not immediately).

Urgency

Unless someone is bleeding, work almost always feels more urgent that the rest of life.  Someone is almost always wanting something specific from us now (or soon).   And we know exactly what to do, so doing it is relatively easy.  In our non-work relationships (with our spouse, kids, friends), what is being asked of us is often less tangible, less specific, and less time-bound.   And in some ways, that makes it harder.  The other aspects of our lives that could help us feel more balanced, like exercise, sleep, relaxation, spiritual practice, are rarely ever urgent.

Gradually and Then Suddenly

A quote from the Ernest Hemingway novel, “The Sun Also Rises” sums up well what can happen when we neglect our “rest of life”.  “How did you go bankrupt?” “Two ways.  Gradually and then suddenly.”   We can go from healthy to sick, from chubby to obese, from married to divorced, gradually, and then suddenly.  We perceive the consequences of neglecting our non-work lives as negligible until they are insurmountable.  So, what do we do?

Work the “Rest of Your Life”

Approach the rest of your life the way you approach your work.   Set a vision for your non-work life, including every aspect that is important for you: health, relationships, community, creativity, spirituality.  And paint a picture of what you want.  And just as you would your customers, ask the key people in your life, what’s most important to them and what they most want from you.  Then create plans and activities to achieve your vision, tell the important people in your life about it and follow through with the same discipline that you’d apply to work.

Put the Boundaries Back

Place some boundaries between your work and non-work life.   Establish times that are off-limits for work so that you can be present with the people in your life and so that you can unplug and renew yourself.    The disconnection from work and the reconnection with yourself and the important people in your life will make space for creativity and ultimate benefit your work productivity.

Resist the temptation to look at email when you first get up.  Decide first, what you want for your day and how important that is, before you get hijacked by the email that snuck in during the night.    Unplug 30 minutes before bed (truncating work and not sleep).  You’ll sleep better and your bed partner will be more available to you.  And for goodness sake, keep your work tools (iPhone, iPad, PC, Mac) out of the bedroom.  Unless it’s an iVibrate, it’s not a turn on.

Determine Your Non-Negotiables

Determine what you need to prioritize for your “rest of life” to be sustainable and then don’t compromise on it.  (e.g. 60 min work outs, 3x week, no matter what, Sunday night call to parents every week, no matter what.  At home for dinner with the family by 6:30, 2 x /week, no matter what.) You decide, then tell your friends, family, co-workers so that they can support your commitment to your non-negotiables (and so they feel the tacit permission to do the same).

Working on your life, putting back boundaries and staying true to your non-negotiables will help you create work/life harmony that is sustainable and helps you prioritize all of your life, not just work.

Bob was making the mistake that virtually every hiring manager makes: viewing his employment opportunity from only his perspective.   Bob had scoped the job narrowly to fit the duties of the last underperformer in the role.  And the decision about where and to whom the position would report was like a bad organizational “comb over” to hide a known dysfunction.   Finally, he was focused on the filters he was going to apply to the candidates:  What qualifications should he require? What questions should he ask?  Bob, ever the outdoorsman, was about to go fishing for a new hire with bait likely to attract only  people who are either desperate for any job or hate the one they have.

Jim Collins in his book, Good to Great, taught us all about the critical importance of getting the “right people on the bus”.   Not that we needed someone to tell us that.  Every one of us who has ever had an employee knows how much easier life and business are when we have a great one.    And yet, when most employers begin the recruiting process, the main question they are asking is “How do I select the best person for my job?”  Instead, the first and perhaps most important question they should be asking and answering is “Why would anyone great want to work for me?”

Here’s the thing:  Every superstar performer is already rocking it somewhere.   And if their employers are paying attention, they are compensating their stars well, giving them new and broader responsibilities, recognizing them for their accomplishments and praising their good work.   Why would anyone want to leave that!?  (Granted, not all employers are paying attention to their superstars.  Are you?  Just checking.)

So, “Why WOULD anyone great want to work for you?”  Short answer:  To get something their current employer can’t or isn’t giving them.   Most people think money is the answer.   But money is rarely the reason superstars go looking and is frequently out-ranked by non-financial motivators.  (And if a superstar is leaving their employer solely because of money, beware.  You may not want them.)

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Some differentiators that could be authentic and unique to your company and attract superstars include:

1. Your vision and your purpose are bold, clear and compelling and star performers want to be a part of it.
2. Your product or service is in an exciting, emerging space and superstars want to learn it
3. Your company is like the university for your industry where people are taught best practices, learn new skills, techniques and approaches, and are constantly learning and growing.
4. You offer flexible work arrangements.  (A handful of savvy business owners are using this approach to attract superstar moms who want to be home when the kids get back from school.)
5. You’ll train the person who is a superstar at something, but has no relevant expertise for the position you’re offering.  (One of the best hires I ever made was someone who had no relevant experience for my opening.  But she was a double major from U Penn in Math and Chinese.  And no, she was not Chinese.)

BTW, Bob ended up increasing the scope of his opening, cleaning up its reporting relationship and hired a bright, capable raw talent with a great attitude and minimal experience.  One month in, he’s thrilled with the hire.

Having an attractive answer to the “Why?”question can shake loose those great performers from other companies.    Now, you may be feeling that none of the possibilities above apply to you or your company.  That’s ok.   So, how WILL you differentiate your next opening so that great performers will want it?  It’s up to you.  You’ll get what you attract.   The better your bait, the better the fish you’ll catch.