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tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390Wed, 09 Oct 2024 02:36:36 +0000Look me in the eyePTSPTSD16 DAYS INSPIRATION5 DucksANDROPHOBIACPTSDCPTSD-SURVIVORChildrenDay EightDay ElevenDay FifteenDay FiveDay Four. Journey to the TempleDay FourteenDay NineDay OneDay SevenDay SixDay SixteenDay TenDay ThirteenDay Three. The JourneyDay TwelveDay TwoFood for thoughtGET OVER ITGay HusbandsGenerational TraumaISSUES OF FAITHIgnoranceIn My Sisters ShoesInterview Dr. Sam VakninMeditation: Walk with meNARCISSISTIC NIGHTMARENarcissist Video'sNightmaresPrincess DianaSuccess StoryTemporary InsanityTriggersWonderful TestimonyAbuse is no excuseThe battle to survive an abusive relationship goes way beyond just leaving.noreply@blogger.com (Caryl)Blogger88125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-7212981617039646890Fri, 06 Oct 2017 18:41:00 +00002017-10-06T11:41:57.101-07:00CPTSDComplex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> I'm sorry I can't make this any bigger but here is the <a href=" you can go there yourself and read up about Complex Post Traumatic Disorder -CPTSD and  BPD -Borderline Personality Disorder.</div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> If your therapist isn't correctly diagnosing your condition how can they treat you correctly. We cannot sit back and wait for miracles, we have to do our own research to find the solutions we are so desperately searching for. In my own case once I was diagnosed with CPTSD,  my therapy went into a whole new direction and healing came slowly but progressively over time. Can we heal? Yes absolutely.</div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1207" data-original-width="1600" height="301" src="; width="400" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1429" data-original-width="604" height="640" src="; width="270" /></a></div> 2017/10/complex-post-traumatic-stress-disorder.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-4758356588924477095Wed, 13 Sep 2017 09:52:00 +00002017-09-13T02:53:10.902-07:00GET OVER ITCPTSD - STOP BEING SO JUDGEMENTAL This is an extremely difficult condition to live with and the judgements from others make it so much more difficult, forcing those who suffer into silence and seclusion. Suicide is a always an option for those who cannot escape the symptoms or the <a href=" Judgements</a> from others. If you are struggling, or you know someone who has been diagnosed professionally with PTSD or CPTSD,  please click on the link and perhaps save someone's life. 2017/09/cptsd-stop-being-so-judgemental.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-8794971181382243509Sat, 19 Aug 2017 08:57:00 +00002017-08-19T10:15:38.853-07:00CPTSD-SURVIVORCPTSD -COMPLEX POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER SURVIVORThis is probably one of the most vulnerable posts I have ever made and my reason for doing so, is to share it with a group on FB, with a lot of other people who suffer with CPTSD, in the hope that it will help save someone's life. ..........................................YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE............................................................... THE DETAILS OF MY STORY ARE IN MY BOOK. My therapist said that I have probably suffered with this condition most of my life, but it was undiagnosed. The first signs or symptoms started when I was about 6 years old and my mother was married to the first of 2 step fathers. Their relationship was very violent and my step fathers behaviour with me was sexually highly inappropriate, that's when my nightmares first started and have continued periodically for 60 years. Although I 'existed' from that time onwards, I never ever felt normal. The symptoms of CPTSD plagued me my whole life, manifesting when triggered severely. Because my condition was undiagnosed no one else knew how much I struggled. I want to share the extreme torment I went through, alone. At 18 I had a nervous breakdown, attempted suicide by slashing my wrists to the bone and spent time in a psychiatric hospital having shock treatment. (CPTSD went undiagnosed.) I walked out of hospital and had to hide the symptoms as best as I could, never sharing with anyone, least of all my family, the extreme struggles with nightmares, panic attacks and an eating disorder, just in case I was sent to a mental home. My first marriage was to an extremely abusive man who became the father of my 2 oldest children.  I suspect he suffered with CPTSD as well and NPD. We knew nothing of those conditions back then. He was extremely aggressive and had constant nightmares from his experiences during the war in Angola. 6 years into our marriage I was told about the physical and sexual abuse he suffered as a child and I wasn't told by him, but a relative. This explains his alcoholic, controlling, violent, jealous, lack of trust behaviour that destroyed our marriage. Huge triggers for me as this marriage was a carbon copy of my childhood experience with my step father. Soon after my divorce I attempted suicide again, cutting my wrists again and taking an over dose to help it along. I spent a short time in a psychiatric hospital, but again CPTSD was undiagnosed. I truly believe that from that time onwards my condition was extremely severe and I just wasn't able to function like normal people. This condition actually caused the breakdown of my second marriage and not the financial problems. I was diagnosed with Petimol Epilepsy and put on medication, which I discovered after 30 years is a mood stabiliser prescribed also for patients with PTSD. I was told I had Petimol Epilepsy,  NOT CPTSD. My third marriage and the most traumatic was to a man diagnosed with NPD. I had no idea what that was and had never heard of the condition. I suspect looking back that he had CPTSD too, the same as my first husband. 14 years of torture. My own symptoms on a scale of 0 - 10 throughout that marriage were probably a 10. After my divorce they shot up to 20 and remained that way for 10 years. I was completely unable to function and suicide was a daily consideration. For 63 years I had seen 5 psychiatrists, 2 neurologists, 7 psychologists, read hundreds of books like, Why am I afraid to tell you who I am, The 5 love languages, The Cindarella Complex, Co Dependent No more.... and hundreds more. I have been hospitalised 4 times,  attempted suicide 4 times. I AM SO ANGRY that for 60 years not one single doctor mentioned PTSD let alone CPTSD.  Why did they not diagnose my condition? MY CONDITION WAS CAUSED BY THE NEGLECT, SEXUAL AND PHYSICAL ABUSE INFLICTED ON ME BY OTHER PEOPLE, I WAS NOT BORN THIS WAY.  Men and women have suffered and lost their lives from this condition for centuries. Well I won't harp on about that, I am grateful to be alive. I did survive. My life isn't perfect this condition has cost me dearly, but I have 3 beautiful daughters, 4 gorgeous grandchildren, 2 lovely son in laws, a handful of patient, loving understanding friends and 2 family members who have not judged me. There has to be a GOD because He orchestrated miraculously my introduction to Dr. Annemarie Norvello who treated me for this condition for 3 years, not once a month or twice a month, but every single week. I am alive because I never gave up and neither did she, I left no stone unturned. There was no FACEBOOK GROUP in my journey to heal, but there are many groups today that offer support. Use them. Not once in 10 years did I suppress my trauma with, denial, drugs, alcohol or new relationships, but if that's what you do, DON'T beat yourself up, this is an incredibly difficult illness to cure. Just take one day at a time,  by choosing to do the right thing. Loving yourselves enough to follow through with treatment.  I share my complete story in my book LOOK ME IN THE EYE -Caryl Wyatt and I have shared my healing journey too. I pray sincerely if you are reading this, you won't give up, but that you will believe with the right treatment, you can heal your life too. <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1288" data-original-width="1289" height="319" src="; width="320" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="627" height="400" src="; width="261" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> Click on the link below</div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href=" ME IN THE EYE - Caryl Wyatt</a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> Footnote: I did'nt win any prizes for being the best mother in the world, but my daughters always knew I absolutely loved and adored them enough to fight for them.</div> 2017/08/cptsd-complex-post-traumatic-disorder.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-55339795308130777Mon, 17 Jul 2017 16:21:00 +00002017-07-17T09:22:55.757-07:00Generational TraumaGenerational TraumaThe idea that we can carry generational trauma is not a great thought for anyone, when does it end. It makes me wonder? The Bible speaks of the sins of the forefathers being cast upon up to the forth generation. The things our parents struggled with become our problem, no one likes that idea, but it's the truth. None of us escape 'doing the work'. The work of owning our own stuff and working through it. The bible also says, 'work out your own salvation with fear and trembling', that means 'own your stuff' and work through it without blaming anyone. Click on the link to find out more about generational trauma. <a href=" Family Trauma</a>2017/07/generational-trauma.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-7758970836998483877Mon, 17 Jul 2017 14:26:00 +00002017-07-17T07:58:20.949-07:00TriggersMental illness isn't funny<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="416" data-original-width="600" height="276" src="; width="400" /></a></div> What's the difference between a mental illness and a sense of humour? It's too late to ask Robin Williams but I can try and tell you. As a young child both my brother and I had an incredible sense of humour. I used to laugh at him a lot, though he didn't find me very funny. Throughout my life, if you asked all the people who have known me, they would tell you I have a good sense of humour. The problem is that at times I didn't know what was funny and what was a diversion from my pain. The thing is, neither did anyone else which made it difficult for me to communicate effectively, my struggles with CPTSD. There have been times in my life that I've done some pretty bazaar things, which others found amusing but in my heart I know came from extreme stress and anxiety and not from a humorous place. There are two stories that I can remember in particular. A friend of mine was getting married and at her bachelorette she had 2 male strippers. The function was held in my home. After the strippers finished their little act, I went upstairs and dressed up like a stripper,  nothing over the top, but very high shoes, teased big hair and heavy make up. Requesting that the male stripper sit in a chair I proceeded to act out a lap dance. Of course all the guests found it very amusing, but one of my daughters did not, she was highly embarrassed. On another occasion I went to the theatre with my ex husband and some friends. That night I was carrying a very pretty and unusual handbag that I loved. During the interval I went to the bathroom and a lady made an incredible fuss about my bag, saying it was the most exquisite bag she had ever seen. I looked at her grubby bag and asked her go give it to me. I emptied the contents of both bags out on the basin and filled my bag with all her goodies and gave it to her. Putting all my things into her bag I said 'you can have it'. While she stood in absolute shock I turned and walked out of the rest room. There are so many stories similar to these two. Of course other people wouldn't think much about these two examples, but years later when I started therapy I looked back over my life at all these incidents and I wept, with a broken heart, for my inner child,  constantly using humour to mask the pain.  Both these incidents and many more happened during my 3rd marriage to a man I absolutely adored, but who tortured my soul daily. When I was in therapy, I shared these stories with embarrassment, to my therapist. My question to her was why? She had no problem with anything I shared with her, if I was happy with the memories, which I wasn't, but I needed to understand why I had behaved so out of character on so many occasions. It wasn't difficult for her to explain, it was my way of coping with extreme anxiety and in all situations I was hugely triggered. Most people who don't suffer with PTSD or CPTSD wouldn't understand, what is a trigger, it's different for each victim, but I'm going to try and explain one of my biggest triggers by unravelling one of my worst  - crowds of people. Therapist : what is it about crowds that makes you anxious, what are crowds normally doing. Me: shopping, watching sport, at a concert, having a party. Therapist : what are they doing that you find stressful. Me: they are drinking or if they are shopping they are spending money. Therapist : why does that upset you? Me : because the drinking gets more and more out of control, everyone gets drunk, there is going to be an argument which might lead to someone being beaten up. If they are spending money it reminds me of the shopping sprees my husband used to go on where he spent so much money in a short space of time, on anything from a suit to a building. He had the money and never ever discussed with me what he spent it on. It was overwhelming. Therapist : why was that a problem for you? Me : because when people drink, the violence and abuse was often directed at me, from my husband, from my ex husband, from my mother and my step fathers. My 2 abusive husbands earned the money and I had no say how they spent it. I felt powerless. (I feel anxious even now while writing this). When my anxiety went through the roof that is when I would use humour to mask my anxiety. I've learned over time,  how to manage these triggers, but there are many many more. So specifically what triggered me on those two occasions? Both those incidents happened a few months before my marriage ended. The tension was mounting and I'd discovered some sordid truths. Everything was a repeat of what I'd been through with my first husband, I was re living the trauma, all over again. 2017/07/mental-illness-isnt-funny.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-2211355204196230662Wed, 12 Jul 2017 19:30:00 +00002017-07-12T12:36:29.825-07:00In My Sisters ShoesIn My Sisters ShoesThe other night I was thinking about my brothers, all 5 of them and wondering why we just aren't close and never have been. There is no doubt we love each other but none of us really connect. I have always thought it was because I was the girl, but it's more than that, we are all very different. <div> Then I started to think about my 3 daughters and how different they are too, but they adore each other and quite honestly when they were growing up, as a mother I worked really hard to help them respect and love each other as sisters, even if there were times they didn't particularly like each other. </div> <div> As they have got older and two of them have a family the differences between them are even greater. Sometimes they don't get along as well as I would like them too, life is busy and my daughter that isn't married often feels very left out.</div> <div> When we are in pain we often wish others could understand what we are feeling and going through, but each person is in their own world doing their own thing, the best they can.</div> <div> There have been times in my life when the pain was so bad and I wasn't getting the comfort from family that I needed, it would make me really angry, I'd feel sorry for myself and decide I didn't even care if I never saw them again. Pain does that, it can separate us from people we care deeply about.</div> <div> It's different today, in the process of understanding the Bible, which says we are to forgive 70 x 70, not in a life time,  but in a day if we have to. Many times when trying to fall asleep at night I would imagine myself literally in the shoes of who ever it was that I needed love and acceptance from, imagining what their life was like and how they had to cope with their own struggles. My attitude would often change instantly. There us so much we don't know about what goes on in other people's lives and how they feel, day to day.</div> <div> My prayer for my daughters would be that they understand, having the same parents doesn't mean their experiences growing up in an abusive home was exactly the same.  Each one of them experienced me as a mother, their father, 3 marriages and 3 divorces differently, and I pray they will try to wear their sisters shoes and imagine what life was like and is like now. </div> <div> Divorce affects children so badly, some kids bond better with the absent parent, therefore it's tougher on them.  Our children desperately need to be heard and understood, not just by parents but each other. It's the unspoken and not heard, that separates families forever sometimes.</div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="872" data-original-width="1600" height="217" src="; width="400" /></a></div> <div> </div> 2017/07/in-my-sisters-shoes.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-330988341415879041Sun, 09 Jul 2017 22:18:00 +00002017-07-10T03:39:56.769-07:00ANDROPHOBIAAndrophobia - what's that.This is something I haven't spoken about very much. In 2009 which was shortly after the publication of my book, I moved to Cape Town to get away from absolutely everyone that was connected to my ex husband. <div> One of my daughters was married with a baby and I just wasn't coping at all with the trauma of my divorce, faking  that I was just wasn't working.</div> <div> I found a cute little apartment on top of someone's house, with beautiful sea views. It wasn't going to be very permanent but I needed to heal and isolation was the only way I could do it. Long walks on the beach, hours and hours of painting and reading tons of self help books my CPTSD symptoms just weren't going away.  </div> <div> There was a Trauma Centre near where I lived so I made an appointment to see the psychologist. She was weird, very agitated and made me feel even worse, but I was totally committed to healing and willing to overlook her strange manner. After telling her my brief story she suggested hypnotherapy and told me to lay across the couch and close my eyes, which I did. She started to do the count down and my anxiety went through the roof. I opened my eyes to find her laying on the floor in self hypnosis. I couldn't believe my eyes. That session ended immediately and I never went back.</div> <div> A few weeks later I found another therapist who was sweet, but I just couldn't connect with her. I think I saw her 3 times and again chose not to go back. Several months passed nothing was changing. I loved the solitude but constant nightmares, panic attacks and absolute terror going into public places, it was torture.</div> <div> In desperation I made an appointment to see a psychiatrist and it was imperative to me that the doctor was female. My first appointment with her was 2 hours and I managed to pretty much put her in the picture. She asked to see my the following day. During that appointment she concluded that I needed medication which I refused. I'd made up my mind that medication was simply going to make me feel numb and I wanted to heal and face what ever I had to face, head on.</div> <div> My sessions with the psychiatrist were every day for a week and I had begged her to be honest and tell me if I had Borderline Personality Disorder,  Bipolar,  or any other mental illness and I wouldn't stop seeing her until she could come up with a diagnosis. She in the mean time had read my book so I was extremely hopeful together we would find a solution. In my last session with her, she said and I quote, 'Caryl if all my patients had as much insight as you, my wards would be empty'. Yes, and? She then said I was suffering extreme Androphobia, which I'd never heard of before. She recommended I see a male psychologist,  which didn't excite me, but I was willing to give it a try. She said absolutely nothing about either PTSD or CPTSD. </div> <div> After two appointments with this male psychologist who was a total chauvinist. Even with a referral letter from the psychiatrist he just wasn't getting it and I found him to be extremely confrontational, basically telling me to 'get over it'. Whaaaaaaaat?  That was him over with.  He tried to sue me for not continuing therapy. I was dumbfounded. Thank goodness I had a friend who was an attorney and he sent off a letter that shut him up very quickly, including a letter to the psychologist who lay on the floor self hypnosing, during my therapy session. One can imagine, I never wanted to see a therapist ever again.</div> <div> The months and years passed with my symptoms becoming worse and worse. I missed my children desperately, but I didn't want to burden them. They needed a whole and happy mother which I couldn't be. Suicide was a constant thought, how much better off they would all be without this dysfunctional mother. Thank God I would force myself to think that if I chose that path, I would leave my beautiful daughters with the same pain I couldn't handle myself.</div> <div> Androphobia- fear of men was unbearable.  I hadn't connected the dots up to that point. I hated going to public places anywhere that men could possibly be. This went on for years. God was even a problem, in my mind God represented 'male'. But God is so Faithful even when we aren't.  I was new to Facebook and slowly over time I connected with a lot of men on Facebook who were all artists. It took a long time but I started to read their posts and experience these men very differently to the men in my life. These men were all happily married, not afraid to share their softer side, it was so refreshing. My healing towards men has come a very long way, although I am still very sensitive to macho, jock type men, they are and probably will always be a trigger for me.</div> <div> Thanks to my therapist Dr. Annemarie Norvello who has been a gift from God in my life. While I wasn't speaking to God, He orchestrated the best therapist I have ever come across and I will forever be thankful to her. More about that later, diagnosing CPTSD.</div> 2017/07/androphobia-whats-that.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-4735968752346701413Sun, 02 Jul 2017 15:52:00 +00002017-07-02T08:56:02.232-07:00Princess DianaPrincess Diana It was Princess Diana ' s birthday yesterday, she would have been 56. In August it will be 20 years ago that she died. If you are anything like me, I've read dozens of articles about her and watched hours and hours of videos, documenting the Royal family. It still saddens me today to think what that poor woman went through. She made some pretty bad choices during her marriage, her affair with Hewitt being just one of them and her questionable judgement in dating someone like Dodi. Playing with fire is putting it mildly. I've thought about her a lot over the past 20 years and there is no doubt her unhappy childhood wasn't the best foundation for marrying into the Royal family.  Insecure, young, inexperienced was a recipe for disaster marrying a man so much older than she was. She had her doubts about the wedding, red flags had already started waving in the breeze, which they both chose to ignore, after all, their names had already been embossed on everything from tea cups to dish towels. Diana did the best she could to cope with Charles affair with Camilla, her bulimia a symptom of extreme pain, rage and helplessness.  Those were the days before psychologists knew much about bulimia and nothing of CPTSD, which I am absolutely sure she suffered from. Was she emotionally unhinged when she gave her infamous TV interview, I'm sure. Quite honestly when things started falling apart during their separation and divorce she was on her own, fighting for her survival against the entire British Monarchy who accused her of suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder. Maybe that was true, in the dark ages people with mental illness were thrown into a padded cell and forgotten, but this wasn't the dark ages. The way I see it, is that Diana had to contend with years of abandonment issues, emotional abuse, her own struggle with bulimia,  possibly CPTSD, a divorce and separation from her beloved children.  What chance was there for her to make calm, wise, healthy choices at that time, she made some huge mistakes, who could blame her, sadly those choices ended her life, had she been entitled to Royal security, it may not have happened, but she lost that privilege soon after her divorce. We watch from our tiny insignificant lives the tragedies of the rich and famous, their stories are no different to our own. We witness their pain and shame on the world stage in front of millions, while we experience the same dramas unfold in our lives with family and friends, it can't compare. To honour Princess Diana in life and in death, we continue to fight for the down trodden, the weak and broken in society. May we all be less judgemental and more compassionate, reaching out to support those who struggle alone. <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1600" data-original-width="1149" height="320" src="; width="229" /></a><a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="393" data-original-width="600" height="209" src="; width="320" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> 2017/07/princess-diana.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-4816592427299284852Sun, 02 Jul 2017 09:27:00 +00002017-07-02T04:12:30.100-07:00Temporary InsanityTemporary InsanityOne hears this term often used in court cases, but we seldom even try and understand what exactly that means. Click on the link -<a href=" Insanity</a> When I was married to my Narcissistic ex husband who I believe was torturing me mentally for years there was an incident that occurred during one of our many fights, that pushed me to my breaking point, causing me to completely lose control and I proceeded to do some damage to ornaments, TV and various other things. It's important to put things in context, in a time line of events. A few weeks prior to this demolition I had a complete nervous break down, attempted suicide and spent time in hospital. The attempted suicide was completely unplanned.  No suicide letter for my precious daughters, just an irrational decision. After 3 days of laying in bed unconscious, with no interest or intervention from my husband, my domestic worker chose wisely to call my daughters who took me immediately to hospital, no visits from my husband of course. Anyone who has ever had a nervous breakdown will know, one is pumped full of medication and it's almost impossible to be rational. It was a few weeks later when I did the damage to my home. After I came out of hospital, my husband simply escalated the emotional abuse. I'm convinced that he was pushing me to commit suicide to escape any divorce settlement and make himself look like the victim. My husband had me arrested and I spent 15 hours in jail which was the most traumatic experience I have ever been through in my life, far worse than the beatings he dished out regularly. I was charged with malicious damage to property. Unbeknown to me, one cannot be charged for damaging property in the matrimonial home when the property was 'ours', not his. We were married with an accrual contract. Everything was OURS, but at the time I was so mentally tortured I could barely speak my own name. My husbands cousin was an attorney, between them they were determined to destroy me. Anyone who knows me, knows I don't have a raging temper, he did, but my behaviour that night was simply out of character. If you read my book, you may wonder what made me go back to my husband after this event? I was broken and simply submitted to 2 men who had the power to destroy me and my family, which they later did anyway. I spent the next 4 years, trying to hold on to my sanity so that I could figure out a way to escape unharmed. I may add, that from that day in 2000 to this I have never taken any medication for depression or anxiety ever again, in spite of the years of suffering with CPTSD, I was simply too afraid. I chose to heal my soul wounds consciously. Several years later when we were getting divorced I had laid charges against him for Domestic Violence, my violent, controlling husband used the previous charges against me as leverage. He bargained, if I dropped the charges against him he would do the same. In hindsight, what a fool I was. If I knew then what I know now, I would have pursued the case to the bitter end. I had mountains of evidence against him, but I obeyed his orders and dropped all the charges. He and his cousin attorney had won that round and would win many more after. Knowing that a violent guilty person can get off without even a rap on the knuckles can push any victim further into depression and mental illness, which in my case it did. Please read my next post on HEALING SOUL WOUNDS. <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1000" data-original-width="1600" height="200" src="; width="320" /></a></div> 2017/07/temporary-insanity.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-6109563247007548580Sun, 03 Jul 2016 19:39:00 +00002016-07-03T12:46:00.763-07:00NARCISSISTIC NIGHTMARENarcissistic NightmareThis is one of the most accurate descriptions of what it is like to date or marry a Narcissist. I could have written every word myself. I am filled with anxiety after reading this article.( <a href=" Nightmare</a> )- click on the link,  please read the scary truth.2016/07/this-is-one-of-most-accurate.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-946117874192852121Mon, 29 Sep 2014 08:56:00 +00002014-09-29T01:58:30.982-07:00<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="; height="320" width="209" /></a></div> The book I wrote in 2007 is still available. Please buy a copy and stand firm on ABUSE IS NO EXCUSE. Often people say to me, 'you need to move on with your life', well the truth is I have moved on, but one can never forget, being raped, sexually abused, beaten over and over again through ones life. One just tries to live the best we can. I chose to write a book, do public speaking and work with other victims but that is not right for everyone. 2014/09/the-book-i-wrote-in-2007-is-still.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-5475390314026577480Mon, 29 Sep 2014 08:47:00 +00002014-09-29T01:47:50.781-07:00Recovery from PTSD<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="; height="326" width="400" /></a></div> 2014/09/recovery-from-ptsd.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-8654225364549877344Mon, 29 Sep 2014 08:36:00 +00002014-09-29T01:37:41.302-07:00Painting Cats - Fight, Flight, Freeze, Submit, Attach.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="; height="400" width="313" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="; height="400" width="318" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="; height="400" width="307" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="; height="400" width="307" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="; height="400" width="310" /></a></div> FOR those of you who visit or have been following this blog for some time, I see a Dr. Annemarie Norvello who specialises in TRAUMA.  I have SUFFERED with CPTSD for a hundred years, well that's what it feels like anyway. The response as we know to extreme stress is FIGHT, FLIGHT, FREEZE, SUBMIT, ATTACH. Dr. Annemarie absolutely loves cats which is why I decided to do these paintings for her.2014/09/for-those-of-you-who-visit-or-have-been.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-659331857555146023Tue, 13 May 2014 08:37:00 +00002016-07-03T12:53:13.136-07:00Oscar PistoriusAt the outset let me say that I am not accusing OP of domestic violence even though there have been reports of his abusive behaviour with women. But watching the trial and listening to the psychiatrist diagnosing his General Anxiety Disorder makes me think that most men who abuse women must suffer from the same condition. The reason I say this is because most men who abuse women have had some trauma in their childhood. The response to extreme anxiety is Fight, Flight, Freeze, Submit or Attach. By nature women would be more inclined to flight under threat where as with men it is perhaps more probable that they would fight under threat. No matter what one has been through in childhood we all have to learn to cope and make the best of bad situations and therefore there is never any reason that anyone should resort to violence unless our lives are being threatened. Let me remind anyone who might be reading this.... that the prisons world wide are full of women who have been abused and who have resorted to fitting back and have killed their partners therefore the same amount of violent men who have abused women should be sitting behind bars. The rules apply to both.2014/05/oscar-pistorius.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-1657132047052176646Thu, 17 Apr 2014 17:01:00 +00002014-04-17T10:01:55.296-07:00AWOLIt has been a long while since I have been blogging on all my blog sites. My computer crashed and what a mission to get things back on track. This isn't even really that safe for me as I haven't been able to sort out the problems and who knows when this computer will go on the blink again. But for now lets just hold out that things will be alright. A lot has been going on in my personal life and maybe soon I will be able to share some of that with my readers but for now I just want to talk about the Oscar Pistorius Trial. Much to the frustration of many I still am not able to form an opinion about Oscar. I am just not a person who likes to judge people at the best of times let alone when it comes to something as serious as this case. I am happy to sit back and wait for the outcome before voicing my opinion. I don't like what happened, my heart breaks for Reeva's family and I do want to see that justice is carried out in accordance with the law. But with a background like mine I tend to think deeply about why women stay in abusive relationships beyond the obvious and why do men treat women so badly. I don't think I will ever have the answers. All I care about is that women will be educated, seek counselling when they need it, search their own hearts as to why they choose abusive men and then move on with healthy partners and hopefully find happiness. It has taken be a life time, because 'in my day' we honestly didn't have the resources available to young women today. So with that being said I hope people will continue to read my book, scroll down for the link, and perhaps find something to relate to and make some decisions for their own lives. After all that was my intention from the very beginning.  Read my story.. could this be you?2014/04/awol.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-5138601312490331281Sun, 22 Dec 2013 08:02:00 +00002013-12-22T00:02:51.832-08:00An interesting article for you to read <a href=" ON THIS LINK</a>.2013/12/an-interesting-article-for-you-to-read.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-5245096438798478611Sun, 01 Dec 2013 09:19:00 +00002013-12-01T01:19:32.006-08:00PTSDFor anyone struggling with PTSD please read this blog the information is invaluable. I struggled for years and honestly thought at times I was losing my mind. This article will help you not only to identify with the symptoms but also when you know what you are dealing with you will know what to do about it. Please go to this <a href="; for more information. Don't give up on yourself - you are worth it.2013/12/for-anyone-struggling-with-ptsd-please.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-8312309909863984628Thu, 14 Nov 2013 18:15:00 +00002013-11-14T10:15:36.457-08:00Psycopaths and Love - don't go together !This article is a <a href=" READ</a> if you are struggling to understand how you got caught in this trap, with a man who said he loved you but tore your heart into pieces. The sooner you understand the tactics the sooner you will forgive yourself and walk away.2013/11/psycopaths-and-love-dont-go-together.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3239446455948104390.post-2115292187780642145Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:56:00 +00002014-03-28T05:36:24.320-07:00Look me in the eyeLOOK ME IN THE EYE - Second Edition<div style="margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center;"> <a href=" alt="" border="0" src="; /></a> The second edition of my book is now available. Please click on the <a href=" LINK</a>. Incase you are interested, for those who know me and know my love of art and my intense interest in the meaning of everything, the flower on the cover of my new book is called a Blushing Bride. The flower is part of the South African Protea family. The flower of this plant only blossoms in September and it is a difficult flower to find in florists. It is my most favourite of all flowers. The petals are tissue thin, it's exquisitly beautiful and delicate it resembles a beautiful slightly pink wedding dress. When the flower is out of water it makes a beautiful dried flower, but ... when dried the tissue paper thin petals become quite brittle and the ends of the petals become tiny thorns. Weddings, Oh the wedding. That one special day our lives are changed forever. If only things remained as happy in the future as they were on that day - but abuse turns the softness of our hearts into thorns. Interesting thought, I was married in September to a man who brutalized my soul.</div> <div style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="; target="ext"><img align="middle" alt="Posted by Picasa" border="0" src="; style="-moz-background-clip: initial; -moz-background-inline-policy: initial; -moz-background-origin: initial; background: 0% 50%; border: 0px currentColor; padding: 0px;" /></a></div> 2013/11/look-me-in-eye.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Caryl)

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Dealing with verbal, psychological & emotional abuse and personality disorders. This is an informational blog NOT a chat site. If you have questions or need support, Facebook has numerous groups for Narcissism Victims, Narcissistic Family and Domestic Violence Survivors (both female and male) Or call 1-800-799-7233 noreply@blogger.com (Unknown)Blogger409125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6084884.post-110579724592094919Tue, 02 Jan 2024 05:43:00 +00002024-01-03T12:32:51.627-05:00abusedisabilitiesemotional abusefemaleshelplessnessverbal abusevulnerableDisabled Women & Abuse<center style="font-weight: bold;"> <img src="; height="240" width="320" /> Violence Against Women with Disabilities</center> Patricia E. Erwin, MA Department of Criminology, Law & Society University of California Irvine, California, 92697-7080 e-mail: perwin@uci.edu An article commissioned by: Battered Women’s Justice Project-Criminal Justice Office 2104 Fourth Avenue S., Suite B Minneapolis, MN 55404 800-903-0111, ext. 1 In the 1990's the Federal government passed two pieces of legislation that had a major impact on the disabilities rights movement and the battered women’s movement in the United States. The Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) of 1992 and the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) of 1994 served notice that both communities were being afforded new protections, new resources, and renewed recognition by the Federal government. The ADA significantly broadens the scope of what is considered a disability and guarantees access to jobs and public places (Section, 1998) for the approximately 54 million Americans with disabilities (Tyiska, 1998). The VAWA adds several federal domestic violence crimes and provides for a civil rights remedy for victims of sexual assault and domestic violence. However, at the intersection of disability and domestic violence is a population of women that has been rendered invisible by a lack of services in the battered women’s movement and a lack of recognition of the violence in their lives by disability service providers. In the words of one researcher, the experiences of violence against women with disabilities have been neither voiced nor heard. (Chenoweth, 1997). The multiple oppressions of being female, being disabled and being battered leave this community extremely vulnerable to intimate partners and to caregivers. In fact, all of the barriers an able-bodied victim of domestic violence might face are simply compounded by the victim’s own disability as well as the paucity of services available to help her lead a violence-free life. If women’s helplessness and vulnerability generally are seen as an opportunity as well as an excuse for male violence, disabled women’s vulnerability is seen as a blanket invitation. Disabled women are attacked again and again by partners, caretakers and strangers (Burstow, 1992). Although reliable statistics are few, some researchers who have delved into this area call the problem an “epidemic” (with most conceding it is a vast unknown. (Nosek & Howland, 1998) (Groce, 1990; Grothaus, 1985; National Clearinghouse on Family Violence, 1998; National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 1996; Sobsey, 1994; Strong & Freeman, 1997; Tyiska, 1998). DEFINING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE The term domestic violence is the most commonly used term to describe assault between intimates and usually includes a two-part statute: the description of what constitutes an assault and the relationship required between the parties to qualify as a “domestic” assault. For example, California statute defines abuse as: <blockquote style="font-weight: bold;"> “Intentionally or recklessly causing or attempting to cause bodily injury, or placing another person in reasonable apprehension of imminent serious bodily injury and “domestic violence” as: Abuse committed against an adult or fully emancipated minor who is a spouse, former spouse, cohabitant, former cohabitant, or a person with whom the suspect has had a child or is having or has had a dating or engagement relationship.” (California Penal Code Section 13700(a)(b).)</blockquote> In addition, domestic abuse is commonly referred to as a pattern of coercive behaviors that involves physical abuse or the threat of physical abuse. It also may include repeated psychological abuse, assault, progressive social isolation, deprivation, intimidation or economic coercion (Denver, 1998). While the criminal justice system usually focuses only on a single incident that brings a domestic assault to the police or the courts, research shows that there are usually multiple incidents that have taken place and multiple interventions. A 1970's study demonstrated that in domestic homicides police had been called to the home at least once before in 80% of the cases, and more than five times in 50% of the cases (Ferraro, 1993). In addition, Dobash and Dobash (1979) found that on average, battered women leave and come back six to seven times, with the most commonly cited reasons for returning as children, lack of resources, and fear of retribution. This ongoing pattern of physical assaults coupled with other tactics of control is often termed battering (Pence & Paymar, 1993). SCOPE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN WITH DISABILITIES The problem of domestic violence generally is a well-documented and very serious phenomena. According to the Federal Bureau of Investigation’s (FBI) Uniform Crime Reports (UCR) in 1995, female murder victims were more than twice as likely as men to have been killed by husbands or boyfriends; and for those cases in which the victim-offender relationship was known, husbands or boyfriends killed 26% of female murder victims, whereas wives or girlfriends killed 3% of the male victims’ (Craven, 1996). The rate of battering is similarly lopsided against women. The same report said that women experienced seven times as many incidents of non-fatal violence by an intimate than did males. And in the latest Department of Justice (DOJ) study, the National Violence Against Women Survey, the authors concluded: <blockquote style="font-weight: bold;"> “The survey found that women were significantly more likely than men to report being raped and physically assaulted by a current or former partner, whether the time frame considered was the person’s lifetime or the 12 months preceding the survey. Moreover, women who were raped or physically assaulted by a current or former intimate partner were significantly more likely to sustain injuries than men who were raped or physically assaulted by a current or former intimate partner. Given these findings, intimate partner violence should be considered first and foremost a crime against women.” (Emphasis added.)</blockquote> National crime victim surveys on the prevalence of violence against women in intimate relationships estimate that approximately 25% of all women will experience violence by a partner at some time in their life. The National Violence Against Women Survey (1998) found that 25% of surveyed women, compared with 8% of surveyed men, said they were raped and/or physically assaulted by a current or former spouse, cohabitating partner, or date at some point in their life. The survey revealed that most physical assaults consisted of grabbing, pushing, shoving, slapping and hitting, but that as the level of violence and injury increase, the “difference between men’s and women’s rates of physical assault . . . become greater. Women were two to three times more likely than men to report an intimate partner threw something that could hurt or pushed, grabbed or shoved them. However, they were 7 to 14 times more likely to relate that an intimate partner beat them up, choked or tried to drown them, threatened them with a gun, or actually used a gun on them” (Tjaden & Thoennes, 1998). A 1996 U.S. Department of Justice (DOJ) report on female victims of violent crime - based on several reports from the BJS and the FBI’s Uniform Crime Reports - found that in 1992-93, females experienced 7 times as many incidents of non-fatal violence by an intimate as did males. Each year women experience more than 1,000,000 violent victimizations committed by an intimated, compared to about 143,000 that men experienced (Craven, 1996). Clearly, the rates of violence against women by intimates in this country are significant. Given the high rate of violence against women in general, the question arises - what about women with disabilities? According to the National Council on Disability there are approximately 54 million Americans reporting some level of disability; of these, females have a disability rate of 20.2% and a severe disability rate of 11% (Tyiska, 1998). Disabilities range from mental retardation to being wheelchair bound, from being sight-impaired to total hearing loss. But getting a handle on the number of victims with disabilities who are victimized by any types of crime has proved elusive so far. The Office for Victims of Crime, in a special bulletin on the subject says it “offers no authoritative ‘census’ describing the numbers and characteristics of the victim population under review” (Tyiska, 1998). There are approximately a half-dozen studies looking at the subject of physical assaults against women with disabilities. Most of the studies that have been conducted in this area are from North America. They range in their estimations of the prevalence of this problem from 39% to 85% of women with disabilities experiencing some type of physical or emotional abuse at the hands of an intimate partner or caregiver. The DisAbled Women’s Network of Canada did a study of 245 women with disabilities in 1989 and found that 40% had experienced abuse (Nosek & Howland, 1998); the Institute for the National Clearinghouse on Family Violence reports on a study that found 40% of women with disabilities had been assault, raped or abused, and 39% of ever-married women with a disability had been physically or sexually assaulted by their partners (L'Institut Roeher Institute, 1994); the National Institute of Health studied 860 women, 439 of whom were disabled and found matching levels of reported physical abuse (36% in both groups) and sexual abuse (40% with disabilities vs. 37% for women without disabilities) but differences in the length of time abuse was experienced - 3.9 years compared to 2.5 years on average in favor of women with disabilities (Young, Margaret A. Nosek, Howland, Chanpong, & Diana H. Rintala, 1997); and the Colorado Department of Health reports that 85% of women with disabilities are victims of abuse (Tyiska, 1998). Unfortunately, most of these studies do not separate out abuse by an intimate partner versus abuse by a non-intimate caregiver, and as noted earlier, do not distinguish between types of abuse committed, e.g. physical versus verbal. Only the National Institute of Health (NIH) broke down abuse by attendants and health care providers and found women with disabilities are “significantly” more likely to be abused by this population (Young et al., 1997) THE INTERSECTION OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND DISABILITY Given this, it seems obvious that women with disabilities will also be victims of this type of crime (McPherson, 1991). However, none of the national surveys done to date address whether or not female victims are disabled, and the studies that have been done with this population mostly lump together all violence against women with disabilities (i.e., domestic violence, rape, sexual assault, stranger assault etc.) and do not distinguish as to whether or not it was committed by an intimate partner (Nosek & Howland, 1998). According to Sharon Hickman, Executive Director of the Domestic Violence Initiative for Women with Disabilities, most policy makers, service providers and researchers simply do not see the population. “ . . . they think if they don’t see a wheelchair or a guide dog there is no disability. Nobody has had the money, the interest or the clout . . . to do a good definitive study on this,” she said. “It is mostly a hidden population” (Hickman, 1998). Societal attitudes about women with disabilities may be the cause of this exclusion as many people assume that women in this population do not have significant others. <blockquote style="font-weight: bold;"> “Women with severe disabilities are not expected to have relationships. We are perceived as asexual, as not desiring love or sex or a committed involvement” (Grothaus, 1985). A recent study, however, confirms that women with disabilities are involved in intimate relationships, and very concerned about the issue of violence within these setting. The survey found that abuse and violence was one of the top five concerns according to 92% of the participants and that 85% rated it as "very important" (Freeman, Strong, Barker, & Haight-Liotta, 1996). “The results of the Delphi survey indicate that women with disabilities themselves recognize abuse and violence, especially caretaker abuse, as a high priority issue that gets little attention from most service providers and policy makers. Women with disabilities share with non-disabled women the fact that their intimate partners may physically, emotionally, or verbally abuse them. However, they can also be subject to the types of abuse that are not issues for non-disabled women, such as denial of medications, withholding of attendant services, or preventing use of assistive devices. Assistive caretakers may be parents or other family members, or paid staff, as well as intimate partners, and the consequences of separation from these caretakers may be life-threatening.”</blockquote> Caregiver violence is another aspect of interpersonal violence that women with disabilities face. Many rely on a paid or unpaid personal assistant to help them with a host of daily activities ranging from grocery shopping to bathing. The types of violence perpetrated in this relationship are outside of the usual definition of domestic violence, but can be just as impactful and can include the same physical violence many women suffer (literally - delete) at the hands of their partners. Once in an abusive relationship, women with disabilities are motivated to stay by the same host of factors that keep non-disabled women in these relationships - fear of further violence, belief the batterer will change, love of the abuser, having children in common, having no economic support if they leave, religious beliefs, and many other concerns. But for women with disabilities there are additional factors that can limit their ability to leave such as physically not being able to exit the house, fear of losing caregiver service if they report the abuse, not knowing if the local shelter is physically accessible (i.e., wheelchair ramp, workers who know sign language), fear they will be institutionalized if they leave their partner and lack of resources. The latter is particularly important as many women with disabilities either do not work or are not employed full time. The unemployment rate of women who are disabled is reported to be 74%, and those who do work earn only 64% of the wages of able-bodied women (Burstow, 1992). Magnifying all of these issues is the fact that society’s message to women with disabilities is they are lucky to have anyone. “Disabled women may have little confidence in themselves because they have been told by society that they are not attractive . . . (they) have greater difficulties finding a spouse than non-disabled women or disabled men” (McPherson, 1991). When a woman with disabilities does get into a relationship, “she may feel validated as a woman and as a sexual being. It may be very hard for her to reject the role of lover/wife that she never expected to have in the first place” (Grothaus, 1985). And “for many young women with an intellectual disability, having a boyfriend or a fiancee is a highly desired status” (Chenoweth, 1997). Fear of losing that status may keep many of these women from reporting abusive behavior by their partner. RESPONDING TO THE BATTERED WOMAN WITH A DISABILITY The intersection of being a woman in today’s society and having a disability converge to enhance the negative impact of domestic violence. <blockquote style="font-weight: bold;"> “Being a woman with a disability has been described as a “double jeopardy,” as “two strikes,” and as having an “added layer of oppression.” These metaphors speak powerfully of the experiences of simultaneous discrimination through both having impairments and being a woman . . . Identifying differences in this way is a complex process involving discrimination, marginalization, and oppression through the points where multiple identities intersect.” (Chenoweth, 1997 :116) Additionally, support services for battered women who are also disabled are very limited with many shelters not fully accessible (Nosek, 1998). Women with disabilities “often find themselves in the situation where they not only are victims of violence in their homes, but may also be unable to apply for even the few community programs designed for the non-disabled . . . without a TTY for example, a hotline is of little help to a deaf woman . . . a shelter without a ramp is inaccessible to a wheelchair user who has been repeatedly battered and needs to leave home” (Groce, 1990). Furthermore, many of the tools offered to able-bodied battered women simply don’t work for a woman with a disability. For example, “few of the strategies listed in the classic safety plans are possible for women who must depend on their abuser to get them out of bed in the morning, dress them, and feed them” (Nosek & Howland, 1998).</blockquote> If a woman seeks help from a disability service provider or other community provider she may face a lack of understanding or knowledge of domestic violence. The Center for Independent Living in Carson City, Nevada did a study in which they sent surveys to 41 local agencies with three scenarios involving women with disabilities and domestic violence. The agencies were first asked what services they might provide to the women and then were asked what information and referral they would provide to the women. Of the 16 agencies which responded, 80% failed to identify domestic violence as an issue in the three scenarios (Hammon, 1999). Although this is a very small sample, it indicates that similar surveys are needed to determine whether or not domestic violence is being correctly identified by disability service providers. The issue of caregiver abuse raises further impediments for a woman with a disability. Reporting the abuse may result in the loss of her caregiver, whether they are an intimate partner or not. According to a review of the literature, women relying on caregivers are reluctant to report abuse because of threats that the caregiver will withdraw their services, threats by social workers that children will be taken away and threats by family members that the individual will be institutionalized or re-institutionalized (L'Institut Roeher Institute, 1994). Police response in these situations is likewise inadequate due too few protocols instructing line officers how to handle situations when either the victim or the suspect has a disability. If a victim is in a wheelchair and wants to go to a shelter, the police need to know whether the shelter is accessible and then how to transport the victim. Police also exhibit some of the same prejudices as society at large concerning the disabled and this may be reflected in their response (L'Institut Roeher Institute 1994) (Sanders 1997). If and when a prosecutor receives a case of domestic assault or caregiver abuse against a woman with a disability, issues of credibility, corroborating evidence, and accessibility will face her once again. Furthermore, the crossover of domestic violence and disabilities brings up two unique cause and effect scenarios. The first is the impact of battering on a pregnant woman and her increased chances of giving birth to a disabled child. Sobsey (1994) says that battery of mothers during pregnancy causes an “unknown number of disabilities in their children” and that “low birth weight babies are born 2 to 4 times as frequently to mothers battered during pregnancy.” Second, there is the issue of the number of domestic violence victims who become disabled as a result of the abuse perpetrated upon them. This figure is unknown, but the Office for Victims of Crime (OVC) estimates that there are at least 6 million people each year who suffer a permanent or temporary disability as the result of crime-related incident (Tyiska, 1998). ABUSIVE TACTICS AGAINST WOMEN WITH DISABILITIES Most women who are victims of domestic abuse not only suffer from physical assaults, but also are subject to a variety of other tactics that serve to keep them in the abusive relationship. According to the Power and Control Wheel these tactics include: intimidation, emotional abuse, isolation, minimizing, denying and blaming, using children, male privilege, economic abuse and coercion and threats. For women with disabilities in an intimate relationship, these tactics can be exacerbated by her disability. The following table gives examples of abusive tactics used against women with disabilities by intimate partners and by caregivers. Table 1 Examples of Abusive Tactics Against Women with Disabilities by Intimate Partners and Caregivers TACTICS OF ABUSE Isolation Dismantling wheelchairs; disconnecting phones; using medications to sedate a woman; breaking or hiding crutches; not equipping a vehicle to be driven by someone with a disability Controlling access to family, friends and neighbors; controlling access to phone or destroying communication devices; limiting employment opportunities; discouraging contact with social work case manager or advocate Emotional Telling them no one else will want them; calling them names i.e., ugly gimp; telling them “you’d be better off dead;” withholding medication Punishing or ridiculing her; refusing to speak or ignoring her requests; using a negative reinforcement program Minimizing, Denying and Blaming Denying or making light of the abuse; blaming her disability for the abuse; Denying her physical or emotional pain; justifying rules that limit autonomy and dignity; excusing abuse as behavior management Using Children Threatening to get custody if she tries to leave; threatening to report her to social workers so that children will be removed Male or Caregiver Privilege Speaking down to her; treating her like a child, telling her what she can eat and wear; telling a blind woman she dressed like a prostitute; telling her she is lucky to have him Treating her as a child or servant; making unilateral decisions; denying right to privacy; providing care in a way to accentuate her dependence and vulnerability Economic Forcing her to sign over checks; telling her she cannot support herself; not allowing her access to money Using person’s property and money for self; stealing money; making financial decisions without her consent; limiting access to financial; pressuring person to engage in fraud Physical Abuse Withholding a wheelchair, forcing her to slide along the floor; hitting, kicking, biting, punching, slapping, dragging by hair; putting something in the path of a blind person; abandoning her in a dangerous situation Withholding food, heat, care; failing to follow medical, physical therapy or safety recommendations; missing medical appointments, not reporting serious symptoms or changes; hitting, slapping; Sexual Abuse Making her do sexual things against her will; telling her if she doesn’t have sex he will leave her; physically attacking the sexual parts of her body; treating her like a sex object Being rough with intimate body parts; forcing sex against wishes; taking advantage of physical of developmental disability to engage in sex Withholding sex because she is "too sick" or unable and blaming her for it Note. Sources: (Groce, 1990; L'Institut Roeher Institute, 1994; Mandeville & Brandl, 1997; National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 1996; Strong & Freeman, 1997; Tyiska, 1998) ---------- By looking at all these tactics one can see that very often a partner or caregiver who is abusing their victim may have to use physical violence very rarely, as the other tactics at their disposal can be very effective in keeping the victim in line. Women who are battered and who have a disability face both personal and system-wide barriers to being able to leave an abusive situation. Whereas the battered women’s movement has drastically improved the intervention services available for non-disabled women - with increased shelter beds, criminal justice intervention systems, legal advocacy for individual women, police and prosecutor training, and a host of other initiatives - the same cannot be said for this more vulnerable population. In her discussion of a hate crime for violence against people with disabilities, Waxman (Waxman, 1991) summarizes the complex nature of the problem:

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tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9496088Sat, 03 Oct 2026 21:40:19 +0000Free Iraqnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)Blogger4855125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9496088.post-193551019501905518Sat, 03 Oct 2026 21:40:19 +00002026-10-04T00:40:19.979+03:00Update .. Schools of Sufism المدارس الصوفية and We do not like Goyim Updates: (These are Updates to the original posting posted on  October 9, 2025 which is found near the bottom of this post).20- October 3, 2026:"Schools of Sufism  المدارس الصوفية"“In Every School of Sufism Explained, we look beneath the striking differences between the Sufi paths to ask what each one actually believes, how its methods developed, and what ultimately connects them. To make that story clear, we focus on six major traditions as illustrations: the Qadiriyya القادرية, Chishtiyya التشستية, Naqshbandiyya النقشبندية, Shadhiliyya الشادلية, Mevleviyya المولوية and Kubrawiyya الكبروية, revealing radically different approaches to the same underlying aim: remembrance.”<a href="; target="_blank">What each school of Sufism actually believes</a> September 25, 2026        30 minutes<o:p></o:p> "We do not like goyim .. Our students should be well aware of that" The first picture is the US Liberty: An American Navy technical research ship that was attacked and sunk by Israeli air and naval forces on June 8, 1967, during the Six-Day War.<o:p></o:p><a href="; style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;" target="_blank"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="900" height="320" src="; width="320" /></a>19 -  March 14, 2026:<div><div style="text-align: center;">"Abraham was not real"</div><div><div><a href="; target="_blank">7 Lies about Abraham the church still can not explain</a> Spinoza Mar 11, 2026       36 minutes<div class="separator" style="clear: both; font-weight: bold; text-align: center;"><a href="; style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="242" data-original-width="431" height="180" src="; width="320" /></a></div><div style="text-align: left;">18 -  January 12, 2026:</div>"King David did not move to Jerusalem"King David was the second king of Israel. He united the Israelite tribes, conquered Jerusalem from the Jebusites, and made Jerusalem the political and spiritual capital of Israel. False. According to biblical tradition, David brought the Ark of the Covenant to Jerusalem.“According to ancient tradition, King David united the tribes of Israel and laid the foundation for the Temple in Jerusalem. Yet for a long time, many scholars believed that finding physical evidence of his palace in Jerusalem was unrealistic. A small group of Israeli archaeologists excavated in places others ignored, and continued working even as skepticism grew. Then they made one of the greatest discoveries of modern archaeology in <a href="; target="_blank">Khirbet Qeiyafa  خربة قيافا </a>.”<o:p></o:p><a href="; target="_blank">Israeli Archaeologists found evidence of King David's palace</a> January 11, 2026   22 minutes<o:p></o:p>18 -  January 11, 2026:"7 من مواليد 25 كانون الأول""الولادة العذرية للمسيح هي عقيدة أساسية عامة في المسيحية، حيث يؤمن المسيحيون بأن مريم العذراء حملت بيسوع بقوة الروح القدس (متى 1: 18 ولوقا 1: 27) دون أن يمسّها بشر، إتماماً لنبوة إشعياء القائلة: "وَلكِنْ يُعْطِيكُمُ السَّيِّدُ نَفْسُهُ آيَةً: هَا الْعَذْرَاءُ تَحْبَلُ وَتَلِدُ ابْناً وَتَدْعُو إسمهُ "عِمَّانوئِيلَ"" (إشعياء 14:7).  يشترك المسيحيون والمسلمون بالإيمان بولادة المسيح من العذراء مريم دون تدخّل رجل، ولكن مع وجود إختلافات في التفاسير الروحية والعقائدية لهذه الولادة. ويحتفل الكاثوليك من أتباع الديانة المسيحية في مولد السيد المسيح في 25 ديسمبر/ كانون الأول من كل عام، أما الكنائس الأرثوذكسية فمعظمها تحتفل بالمناسبة نفسها في 7 يناير/ كانون الثاني، وتحتفل الكنائس الأرمنية به في 6 يناير/ كانون الأول.  ليس السيد المسيح وحده الذي ولد في تاريخ 25-12، بل هناك من سبقوه في أعياد ميلادهم في هذا اليوم وهم: أتيس، بوذا، ديونيس، هيراقليس، كريشنا، أوزيريس، ميترا، وآخرين.. فكل هؤلاء كانوا قبل المسيح بزمن طويل وفق الأسطورة التي تتحدث عن يوم 25 كانون الأول، أي أن هذا التاريخ الذي أُعتبر ميلاد السيد المسيح هو ذلك التاريخ المُستوحى من الأديان اللاإبراهيمية، ويضاف لها تضحيته من أجل إنقاذ البشرية؛ أم أنها أسطورة مأخوذة من أساطير وقصص لحضارات وأديان قديمة بعضها إندثرت وإختفت من التاريخ."<a href="; target="_blank">الولادات العذرية قبل السيد المسيح</a>د خزعل الماجدي - 10 كانون الثاني 2026     18 دقيقة 17 -  January 9, 2026:"7 Genesis Contradictions"“Baruch Spinoza, a 17th-century philosopher and rebel spirit of modern thought, dared to look at God without fear, at reason without filters, and at freedom without asking for permission.”<o:p></o:p><a href="; target="_blank">7 Genesis contradictions the church cannot explain</a> Spinoza   <span style="font-size: 14pt; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-bidi; mso-bidi-language: AR-QA; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-bidi;">January 7, 2026<span style="font-size: 14pt; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-bidi; mso-bidi-language: AR-QA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-bidi;"> 48 minutes<o:p></o:p>"Sodom and Gomorrah"<a href="; target="_blank">7 dark truths about Sodom and Gomorrah that the bible can not defend</a> Spinoza<span style="font-size: 14pt; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-bidi; mso-bidi-language: AR-QA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-bidi;"> January 6, 2026   46 minutes<span style="font-size: 14pt; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-bidi; mso-bidi-language: AR-QA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-bidi;"><o:p></o:p> 16 -  January 5, 2026:"Dark truths about the bible’s account of King Solomon"<a href="; target="_blank">7 dark truths about King Solomon that the bible can not explain</a> Spinoza  -  January 4, 2026     39 minutes<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="; style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;" target="_blank"><img border="0" data-original-height="165" data-original-width="301" height="165" src="; width="301" /></a></div> <o:p></o:p> 15 -  January 4, 2026:"7 Lies About the 10 Commandments"<a href="; target="_blank">7 Lies about the 10 commandments so absurd you’ll never see them the same way again</a>Spinoza  January 2, 2026          50 minutes<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="; style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="135" data-original-width="298" height="135" src="; width="298" /></a></div>14 -  January 3, 2026:"Moses and the Exodus are a myth"  <o:p></o:p>“Were Moses and the Exodus ever real, or are they legendary stories later added to scripture? In this video, we examine archaeological evidence, historical records, and internal biblical contradictions that challenge the traditional Exodus narrative. From the absence of evidence in Egypt to timeline inconsistencies in the Bible, we explore why many scholars argue the Exodus story is a myth shaped by theology rather than history.”<o:p></o:p><a href="; target="_blank">Moses And The Exodus Are A Myth</a>Spinoza  January 1, 2026       21 minutes<div class="separator" style="clear: both; font-weight: bold; text-align: center;"><a href="; style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;" target="_blank"><img border="0" data-original-height="168" data-original-width="305" height="168" src="; width="305" /></a></div><div style="text-align: left;">13 -  January 1, 2026:</div> "Religious Duty"The following is a translation of the below article, in Arabic, by <a href="; target="_blank">Ahmad Al-Sarraf "What does Sand’s book say?</a>", published in Al Qabas newspaper on December 31, 2025.<o:p></o:p>"The prominent Israeli historian Ilan Pappe says: “It is important to understand that the Zionists, who built Israel, were secular until the 1970s, and their goal was to modernize Judaism. Yet, they used the sacred text politically, not religiously, after realizing that many Christians would support their movement based on what is in the Old Testament, and they succeeded in this. Over time, they managed to convince the religious among them (e.g. the evangelical Christians) that the 'colonization of Palestine' is a religious duty, even though their goal was never to establish a religious state. Rather, it has always been a colonial project, similar, especially with colonial expansion on different continents, to other colonial projects carried out by Europeans, particularly by those groups who felt unwelcome, had issues they wanted to escape, or whose remaining, for one reason or another, posed a threat to them. Therefore, they decided to build a new life on someone else's land, similar to Europe, which had rejected them. In the case of Palestine, they chose land in the heart of the Arab and Islamic world, where human citizens lived, but they did not care, because the Zionist movement believed from the beginning that it had the right to ethnically cleanse the Palestinians and remove them in order to build a state. Shlomo Sand, a professor at Tel Aviv University, like Babié, Benny Morris, Simha Flapan, and Avi Shlaim, is among the Israeli historians who challenged the traditional narratives of Israeli history and debunked the myths of Israel's founding, relying on government sources declassified thirty years after Israel's establishment, especially after in-depth archaeological research carried out over decades. He asserts that there is no evidence in Jerusalem or Palestine of the existence of Solomon's or David's Temple, or of something called Israel, or a people or land of Israel. Consequently, it was no easy task for Shlomo Sand to refute the founding myths of Zionism and Israel in his books 'When and How Was the Land of Israel Invented?' and 'When and How Was the Jewish People Invented?', as well as in the book 'How I Stopped Being Israeli?', in which he denied the existence of a Jewish people who were forced to leave their homeland for the diaspora, and affirmed that most Eastern European Jews are descendants of communities and individuals who converted to Judaism during various historical periods. Due to his books, 'Sand' is subjected to hatred and continuous threats of death, and his consolation is that his book 'When and How Was the Jewish People Invented?' has been translated into more than twenty languages, including Arabic and Chinese.<a href="; target="_blank">ماذا يقول كتاب ساند؟</a><o:p></o:p>أحمد الصرّاف، 31 كانون الأول 2025"يقول المؤرّخ الإسرائيلي الكبير إيلان بابيه: "من المهم أن نفهم أن الصهاينة، الذين بنوا "إسرائيل"، حتى السبعينيات، كانوا علمانيين، وكان هدفهم تحديث اليهودية، ومع هذا إستخدموا النص المقدّس سياسياً، وليس دينياً، بعد أن أدركوا أن الكثير من المسيحيين سيدعمون حركتهم على أساس ما ورد في "العهد القديم"، ونجحوا في ذلك، ومع الوقت إستطاعوا أن يقنعوا المُتديّنين منهم بأن "إستعمار فلسطين" هو واجب ديني، مع أن هدفهم لم يكن يوماً تأسيس دولة دينية، بل كان ولا يزال مشروعاً استعمارياً، مشابهاً، خاصة مع التوسّع الاستعماري في مختلف القارات، للمشاريع الاستعمارية الأخرى، التي قام بها الأوروبيون، وبالذات من الفئات التي كانت تشعر بأنها غير مُرحّب بها، أو عليهم قضايا يريدون الهرب منها، أو أن بقاءهم، لسبب أو لآخر، فيه خطر عليهم، لذا قرروا بناء حياة جديدة، على أرض الغير، مشابهة لأوروبا، التي رفضتهم. وفي حالة فلسطين، إختاروا أرضاً في قلب العالمين العربي والإسلامي، حيث يوجد بشر مواطنون يسكنونها. لكنهم لم يكترثوا، لأن الحركة الصهيونية اعتقدت منذ البداية أن لها الحقّ في التطهير العرقي للفلسطينيين وإزالتهم، من أجل بناء دولتهم "الأوروبية"، التي يريدونها، بدلاً من أوروبا التي لم ترغب بهم."<o:p></o:p>يقول "شلومو ساند"، الأستاذ في جامعة "تل أبيب"، وهو، مثل بابيه، وبيني مورس، وسيمحا فلابان، وآفي شلايم؛ من المؤرخين الإسرائيليين الذين تحدّوا الروايات التقليدية للتاريخ الإسرائيلي، ودحضوا أساطير تأسيس إسرائيل، إعتماداً على مصادر حكومية رُفعت السرية عنها بعد ثلاثين عاماً من تأسيس إسرائيل، خاصّة بعد أن توصّلت بحوث آثارية مُعمّقة، جرت على مدى عشرات السنين، أنه لا توجد في القدس ولا في فلسطين أية دلائل تدُل على قيام هيكل سليمان أو داود، أو شيء إسمه إسرائيل أو شعب أو أرض إسرائيل. وبالتالي لم يكن سهلاً على "شلومو ساند" تفنيد الأساطير المؤسسة للصهيونية وإسرائيل، في كتابيه "متى وكيف تم اختراع أرض إسرائيل؟"، و"متى وكيف تم اختراع الشعب اليهودي؟" إضافة لكتاب "كيف لم أعد إسرائيلياً؟"؛ حيث نفى فيه وجود شعب يهودي تمّ إرغامه على الخروج من وطنه إلى الشتات، وأكّد أن معظم يهود أوروبا الشرقية هم من نسل مجتمعات وأفراد تهوّدوا خلال مراحل تاريخية.<o:p></o:p> يتعرّض "ساند"، بسبب كتبه، لكراهية وتهديد مستمرين بالقتل، وكمّن عزاؤه في أن كتابه "متى وكيف تم اختراع الشعب اليهودي؟" قد تُرجم إلى أكثر من عشرين لغة، منها العربية والصينية.<span dir="LTR" style="font-size: 14pt; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-bidi; mso-bidi-language: AR-QA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-bidi;"><o:p></o:p>12 -  December 27, 2025:"Who persecuted Jewish communities?"For nearly 2000 years, <a href="; target="_blank">the Europeans have been persecuting Jewish communities</a> that lived within them, not people from the Middle East.<o:p></o:p> <a href="; target="_blank">Is Israel the guardian of Christianity in the Middle East?</a><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="; target="_blank"><iframe allowfullscreen='allowfullscreen' webkitallowfullscreen='webkitallowfullscreen' mozallowfullscreen='mozallowfullscreen' width='320' height='266' src='; class='b-hbp-video b-uploaded' frameborder='0'></iframe></a></div><o:p></o:p><a href="; target="_blank">Jon Stewart of The Daily Show with Peter Beinart, author of “being Jewish after the destruction of Gaza”</a><o:p></o:p> 11 -  December 12, 2025:"Who Invented the 10 Commandments - And It Wasn’t God "“What if the most sacred laws in history were actually a political fabrication? In 1665, philosopher Baruch Spinoza made a dangerous discovery that cost him his family, his community, and nearly his life: the Ten Commandments were not written by God. By analyzing ancient timelines and biblical texts, Spinoza found that these "divine" laws were likely adapted from <a href="; target="_blank">the Code of Hammurabi</a>- a set of civil laws written by a Babylonian King 1,000 years before Moses supposedly walked the desert. This video exposes the forbidden history of the Bible, revealing how human leaders turned practical laws into "divine mandates" to establish absolute political control. Discover why Spinoza believed that true spirituality is found in reason and nature, not in obedience to stone tablets.”<o:p></o:p><a href="; target="_blank">Who invented the 10 Commandments - and it wasn’t God  Some of them were set in stone by Babylonian Hammurabi</a>  Spinoza    December 5, 2025  31 minutes<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="; style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;" target="_blank"><img border="0" data-original-height="741" data-original-width="795" height="298" src="; width="320" /></a></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-bidi;">The code of Hammurabi king of Babylon about 2250 B.C.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="; style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;" target="_blank"><img border="0" data-original-height="608" data-original-width="697" height="279" src="; width="320" /></a></div> <o:p></o:p>10 -  December 10, 2025:"The political slanting of the New Testament gospels, whose authors are unknown""“In the winter of 1670, the Jewish philosopher Baruch Spinoza sat in a cold room in The Hague and uncovered a contradiction in the sacred texts so dangerous that religious authorities tried to bury it for centuries. By analyzing the Gospels in their original languages, Spinoza discovered that the "Virgin Birth" was likely not a divine miracle, but a political strategy, a necessary cover-up invented by early Christians to survive the brutality of the Roman Empire. This documentary takes you through the forensic evidence Spinoza found: the conflicting genealogies of Joseph, the silence of the earliest texts, and the political maneuvering of the Council of Nicaea. We deconstruct how the real, human Jesus- a revolutionary teacher—was erased and replaced by an imperial deity to serve a system of control. But beyond the history, this is a story about personal liberation. It explores why we fear doubt, and how facing the truth about our religious origins can lead to a profound spiritual freedom.” <a href="; target="_blank">Spinoza Uncovered the True Father of Jesus</a>   Spinoza   December 3, 2025           21 minutes<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="; style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="173" data-original-width="303" height="173" src="; width="303" /></a></div><o:p></o:p> 9 -  December 9, 2025:"The awakening of American Christians""What if everything you were taught about Israel, prophecy, and Christianity was engineered - not revealed?  In today’s documentary, we uncover the agenda that Christians were never supposed to question, and why 2025 is the year the truth finally broke open. When Tucker Carlson exposed the untouchable narrative surrounding Israel, he didn’t start a controversy… He exposed one. And millions of Christians instantly knew he was right—because the moment he asked "Why is questioning Israel treated like questioning God?" …Church leaders, media networks, and political commentators scrambled to shut him down. <a href=" style="color: #2b00fe; font-size: medium;">00:00</a> - The Question No One Was Allowed to Ask <a href=" style="color: #2b00fe; font-size: medium;">01:02</a> -Tucker Carlson Breaks the Silence <a href=" style="color: #2b00fe; font-size: medium;">02:41</a> - How Christians Were Slowly Conditioned <a href=" style="color: #2b00fe; font-size: medium;">04:34</a>  Why Questioning Israel Became Spiritually Forbidden <a href=" style="color: #2b00fe; font-size: medium;">06:15</a>  The Media System That Controlled the Narrative <a href=" style="color: #2b00fe;">07:55</a>  The Awakening Begins Across Churches <a href=" style="color: #2b00fe; font-size: medium;">09:20</a>  Midpoint Engagement: Help Us Reach 10,000 Subscribers <a href=" style="color: #2b00fe; font-size: medium;">10:01</a> - The Power Structures Behind the Alliance <a href=" style="color: #2b00fe; font-size: medium;">11:58</a> - Why 2025 Triggered a Global Spiritual Shift <a href=" style="color: #2b00fe; font-size: medium;">13:36</a> - Christians Reclaiming Their Faith From Politics <a href=" style="color: #2b00fe;">15:02</a> - The Collapse of the Old Narrative <a href=" style="color: #2b00fe; font-size: medium;">16:27</a> - The Truth Christians Were Never Supposed to See <a href=" style="color: #2b00fe; font-size: medium;">17:40</a> - Final Revelation Before the Call to Action.<o:p></o:p>"<a href="; target="_blank">The Israel agenda Christians were never supposed to see!</a> December 3, 2025  15 minutes<o:p></o:p> 8 -  December 7, 2025:    "This is what the Talmud teaches"<a href="; target="_blank">Anti goy</a><a href="; style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;" target="_blank">Herzel was atheist</a>5 Richest Jewish families in US (in French with Arabic subtitles)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen='allowfullscreen' webkitallowfullscreen='webkitallowfullscreen' mozallowfullscreen='mozallowfullscreen' width='320' height='266' src='; class='b-hbp-video b-uploaded' frameborder='0'></iframe></div> 7 -  November 26, 2025:<div style="text-align: center;">"This is what the Talmud teaches"</div><div dir="rtl" style="text-align: right;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; font-size: large; font-weight: bold; text-align: center;"><a href="; style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;" target="_blank"><img border="0" data-original-height="590" data-original-width="417" height="320" src="; width="226" /></a></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: center;"> <a href="; target="_blank">Ben Gurion in 1954</a> (on the Druze and Damascus)</div></div><div dir="rtl" style="text-align: right;"> </div>6 -  November 13, 2025:<div style="text-align: center;"><a href="; target="_blank">The hidden origin of ‘AMEN’ - Are Christians praying to a pagan god?</a>  </div><div style="text-align: center;">SPINOZA  November 9, 2025  28 minutes</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; font-weight: bold; text-align: center;"><a href="; style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;" target="_blank"><img border="0" data-original-height="171" data-original-width="305" height="171" src="; width="305" /></a></div>5 -  November 4, 2025:"Israel was founded by  terrorists"“If you only get your news from mainstream media, you may not know that Israel was founded by Zionist paramilitary groups once labeled as terrorist organizations by the UK and UN - specifically the Haganah, Irgun, and Lehi - whose leaders later became Israeli prime ministers. In this segment Jimmy outlines violent incidents attributed to these groups before 1948, including bombings, assassinations, and even alleged biological warfare operations. Jimmy acknowledges that there’s some question whether these actions constitute terrorism or acts of self-defense, seeing as how many governments, including the U.S., engage in similar violence for political ends.”<o:p></o:p> <span style="font-family: &quo

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