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By: Rachel
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Oh boy, this sooo resonates with me.
Over 7 years ago now I chose to leave a job I loved and was very comfortable doing to support my husband in a new business venture. On one hand BIG mistake. We lost the business in the credit crunch, we were not established enough to ride out the crisis and selling high end luxury products was one of the firs things people stopped purchasing. We're still paying business debts off now and have very little disposable income but the light is at the end of the tunnel.
On the other hand I had to visit areas in my life I was not at all happy with....I had to sell! (I was a Nursery Nurse for goodness sake) I had to do accounts (a fear of numbers from primary school). So on the face of it not good!! But sell I did and accounts I did too!! I developed skills I didn't know I had, I gained confidence I'd never ever had, I leapt over hurdles that were always far to high to even attempt.
Now I work as an Office manager, with a company that turn over and profit that would please any company owner and I deal with all of the accounts, payroll etc.
I'm not happy any longer and want to train in Holistic Therapy and rather than think.....I can't do it, I'm not clever enough, I don't have the confidence I have met challenges head on before that had cost me in my health, due to nerves and fear and anxiety.....this time I can and will do it and will enjoy my working life once again.
The challenges out there are to be met, dealing with them does cause huge anxiety but my oh my, it's worth it...DO IT
By: Cila
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"Unless I force myself, I tend to avoid doing things I’m not already good at because I still hate not being perfect or letting other people see I don’t know everything."
You took the words right out of my mouth. Only in the past couple years have I begun to realise how much I've shortchanged myself by being afraid to be less-than-perfect. It's still a struggle but I'm working on pushing out of my comfort zone. Courage!
By: Taking off the mask I didn’t even know I was wearing | 17000 Days
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[...] pride myself on being open, being congruent, being real. I used to do the opposite, being careful to hide everything about me that I thought others might [...]
By: Cara Stein
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Thanks, Caroline! Congratulations on facing your unhappiness and taking action. It may be a bumpy road, but I wish you all the best in finding fulfillment. It's so worth the struggle.
By: Caroline Harper
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Hi Cara,
What an inspirational read, I'm currently where you were and it scares me literally to death! I'm about to separate from an eight year marriage and twelve year relationship ... a wonderful kind gentle loving man , so why am I unhappy ? I'm not 100% sure but what I am sure about is that I need to find out!
Your story has given me a little courage to take the steps , I just hope I remember everyday how life could be and not step back into what it has been , unfulfilling
Caroline
By: Cara Stein
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Hi Honour! Thanks for writing, and good for your for taking action! When I talk to people in their 50s, most of them say "Oh, that sounds so morbid! I could never do the "days left" calculation because I'm afraid of what I might find out!" I say better to find out and start doing something about it!
I should probably do a follow-up on this post, because a <em>lot</em> has happened since I wrote this. I agree with you, the list above is wretched, and I was so intimidated and scared of everything when I wrote it! Since then, I've been doing all kinds of things I was afraid to try. I've started approaching the technology stuff as an opportunity to learn and grow instead of proof that I'm inadequate, and I've changed my view from "people are scary" to "people are nice"--those are the two biggest things. Also, I stopped worrying about The One great thing I'm supposed to be doing with my life and started focusing on something I love (writing and building this blog). If it turns out later that I love something else more, I'll switch my focus to that, but meanwhile, I'm learning to accept not knowing all the answers.
Trying scary stuff is so great. Well, it feels awful at first, but it has such a self-building momentum! I'm finding it really exhilarating.
Thanks again for writing! I'll be looking forward to checking out your site when it's ready! :)
By: Honour
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Hi Cara,
I've just been looking at an article by Ethan on Cloud Coach(Ethan helps people who have techno blocks!),and it reminded me about how we create our own reality with our attitude.When you look at your long list above Cara, please cringe at what you are creating for yourself! :[
I had the same thoughts as you have re computer technology, and it stopped me in my tracks for years. Just this past month I did a blogging bootcamp, and when the inevitable techno glitch came up, I vowed to persevere instead of giving up like I always did. It was really stressful, and really hard, but the result is that I now have a blogsite! I'm ecstatic!
I really love your blog. I'm 70, and if I live to be 90, I've only got 7,150 days left! I envy you your 16,604! ;]
By: Cara
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Thanks, Ed! And good for you already being real!
As for responsibilities and obligations and shoulds, that can be tough. If you can, I recommend looking at each one and considering whether it's really of value to you, and quitting the ones that are not. Ex. doing stuff for your wife or kids, maybe you don't exactly want to do it but find worthwhile because you love them. But for the stuff that's not like that, that doesn't contribute in some way to your goals for your life, remember that you're allowed to change your mind, and there are other people who could be doing almost anything you don't want to do.
By: ed
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I can relate sooooo much...you are brave (not foolish) to send this out to the world - to those of us still stuck in what may feel like hopeless situations we don't have the courage to change.
I feel quite real now, but still feel trapped inside a constraint of "responsibilities and obligations and shoulds" that I can't figure an easy way out of. I fear I am just looking for the easy way out.
Thank you Cara! : )
By: Cara
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I'm glad you enjoyed it. Happy birthday again! <3
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Most awesome cake, for the win!
By: Cara
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I'm glad you enjoyed it. Happy birthday again! <3
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Most awesome cake, for the win!
By: Get On With It! | Escape Flatland
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[…] days – via a friend’s post on Facebook. I loved this post she wrote back in 2011 - 10 Tips for Getting Out of Your Own Way, especially this tip that I plan to use to keep up with all my projects in the next few […]
By: Get On With It! | phoenix rising
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[...] - 17000 days - via a friend’s post on Facebook. I loved this post she wrote back in 2011 - 10 Tips for Getting Out of Your Own Way, especially this tip that I plan to use to keep up with all my projects in the next few [...]
By: 7 Links, 7 Quotes, and 7 Steps Toward Building Freedom | Taking Tokyo
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[...] 3) 17000 Days | 10 Tips for Getting Out of Your Own Way [...]
By: Cara Stein
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Hell yeah, I'm with you!! :D
By: Rob
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Sweet article.
Fear is a kller. Fear of the unknown keeps more of us in place than any other thing. Let's kick it to the curb. We will be happy we did:)
Thanks.
Live it LOUD!
By: Cara Stein
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Thanks, Tom! I love when that happens! :)
By: Tom (Aquatom1968)
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Thank you once again, Cara, for another great post. I'm very fortunate that I come across important messages at the right time - your post has served as a great reminder to me today!
By: Get On With It! | Escape Flatland
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By: Get On With It! | phoenix rising
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[...] - 17000 days - via a friend’s post on Facebook. I loved this post she wrote back in 2011 - 10 Tips for Getting Out of Your Own Way, especially this tip that I plan to use to keep up with all my projects in the next few [...]
By: 7 Links, 7 Quotes, and 7 Steps Toward Building Freedom | Taking Tokyo
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[...] 3) 17000 Days | 10 Tips for Getting Out of Your Own Way [...]
By: Cara Stein
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Hell yeah, I'm with you!! :D
By: Rob
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Sweet article.
Fear is a kller. Fear of the unknown keeps more of us in place than any other thing. Let's kick it to the curb. We will be happy we did:)
Thanks.
Live it LOUD!
By: Cara Stein
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Thanks, Tom! I love when that happens! :)
By: Tom (Aquatom1968)
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Thank you once again, Cara, for another great post. I'm very fortunate that I come across important messages at the right time - your post has served as a great reminder to me today!End of feed