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Page not found – 123valentine My WordPress Blog Mon, 12 Aug 2024 10:20:26 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Generation Z and Designing the Future of Well-being /generation-z-and-designing-the-future-of-well-being/ /generation-z-and-designing-the-future-of-well-being/#respond Mon, 12 Aug 2024 10:19:54 +0000 /?p=41 Our world is constantly changing and uncertain. We live in a time of uncertainty and change. Profound social disruption can affect how we work, learn, and entertain ourselves. Existential threats to our existence due to climate change and environmental degradation pose serious challenges to our social fabric and emotional and physical well-being. These issues are felt more acutely by younger generations, particularly Generation Z and, to a lesser degree, Millennials. For instance, Generation Z is more likely to suffer from anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues. Nearly one-third of people between 18 and 25 have been diagnosed with a mental illness, compared to 14.1% for those over 50. Generation Z and Millennials were born into and grew up in a world they love and will continue to live in. These generations are also responsible for finding solutions to many of the problems in their world and around the globe. Effectively deploying their generation-particular experience and relationship with the internet, data and technology to effect positive change. Digital-first Generation Generation Z and Millennials have a unique developmental path connected to the internet. This has made them uniquely educated, ethically and emotionally equipped to face many of the world’s problems. This ability is largely due to their natural and easy relationship with technology, data, and digital. They also have the inherent ability to use these technologies to make positive changes in their lives and the world. Generation Z is a generation that has never lived without the internet. What does this all mean for their worldview, approach to problem-solving, and values? First, they don’t see the world as divided into the digital and physical as previous generations. Digital and physical worlds are now seamlessly integrated into one experience. Their identities, relationships, passions, and self-expression are all so interconnected with the internet that they are all connected. They view the internet as a source of information and knowledge and a way to connect with others. Everything they do online, from shopping to learning to hanging around with friends to creating and maintaining their physical and emotional well-being, is done online. Engine recently conducted a study that found that 40% of Generation Z cannot live without the internet for longer than four hours without feeling uneasy. Over 50% expect the internet to be their main source of daily decision-making within five years. Relationships that required some contact in person for the previous generations are no longer necessary for Generation Z. 51% of Generation Z value digital relationships and can be friends with anyone they only know online. These measures are far more than those of previous generations.  According to the same study, 74% of Generation Z believe they can join a social movement through social media. 68% of Generation Z think that websites will soon communicate with each other to create seamless experiences and, more importantly, provide highly personalized and predictive experiences. Generation Z expects highly personalized and predictive services when interacting with healthcare providers and related products. Get ahead of the Time Generation Z is the first Generation not only to be born online but also to grow up fully immersed in technology. However, they are more than just comfortable with technology and data. They don’t see technology and data as tools to enhance or impact the physical world. Instead, they view technology and data as an immutable part and parcel of their existence. They are happy to exchange data about who and what they are – including how they feel – if they believe the return will be of value. The global community has been slow to adopt technology-led solutions for reducing the negative effects of COVID-19-induced social isolation. This includes maintaining productivity and working relationships through internet-based technologies like Zoom and addressing well-being issues via telemedicine. Generation Z’s expectations and behaviour were set by the role the internet and digital technology played in their lives. Generation Z has long experienced the benefits of speed, ease of access, convenience and social connection. For example, Millennials have adopted digital access to healthcare services at a faster rate than any other generation when it comes to their well-being. One study found that 71% of Millennials would like to be able to access their personal information online or via an app, such as medical records and schedules. 74% also prefer online consultations. Generation Z, who prefer to have both online and in-person medical consultations, is more likely to use online reviews and social media to make health and wellness decisions. They use the digital world to make social connections and seek advice, reviews, and referrals from their friends and communities to help them choose providers or doctors who can provide digital well-being experiences. Generation Z is more likely to use technology to monitor their behaviour and track their habits, including their diet, sleep patterns, finances, and well-being. More than 40% of Generation Z uses wearable technology to monitor their emotional and physical well-being and use this data to make better health decisions. Positive Transformation Generation Z uses the internet, social media, data, and technology to create happier, healthier lives for themselves and positively impact the world. Their use of technology and data revolutionizes how they approach the key pillars of a happy, fulfilled, and fulfilling life: work, social interaction and entertainment, creativity, health, and well-being. We are increasingly turning to the talents and ambitions of Generation Z and Millennials to develop technologies that will enable the world to transition to a more sustainable lifestyle and ensure the well-being of future generations. In particular, has been able to use technology and data to expand their self-care capabilities and provide information better to serve the needs of healthcare providers and well-being professionals. Perhaps the most obvious benefit of Generation Z’s technology-focused approach to engaging with the world is its ability to use data and storytelling to inspire action. When we consider, for instance, the future of well-being and health, it is becoming increasingly one that is being created in the image of the digital behaviours and beliefs of Generation Z. ]]> /generation-z-and-designing-the-future-of-well-being/feed/ 0 Experts have identified 11 more important things than love in a relationship /experts-have-identified-11-more-important-things-than-love-in-a-relationship/ /experts-have-identified-11-more-important-things-than-love-in-a-relationship/#respond Mon, 12 Aug 2024 10:17:35 +0000 /?p=38 It is easy to become engrossed in strong feelings for someone else. It’s easy to get caught up in strong feelings for another person. Experts agree that many things are more important to a relationship than love. It is important to keep these things in mind as you move forward together. However, this doesn’t mean that you have to be romantic all the time. These love poems are incredible. The best thing about dinner dates is the food. Nothing beats getting flowers or pizza from your partner. You can do these sweet little things together to show your love for one another. They aren’t the only thing that will keep you together, just as your big heart-shaped eyes. Being able to trust each other No matter how much you love someone, if you don’t trust them, it won’t work. Trust is vital to healthy relationships. This is why experts always look for it when assessing a couple. Klapa asserts that we are not talking only about cheating but also trust with personal information, vulnerability, and trust that they will prevail in difficult times. This means that your partner has got your back, and you have theirs. Respect: Having a solid sense of respect This conversation is something you’ve probably witnessed or heard. “My partner is such as .” “Then why are you staying with them?” ” I love them. This classic exchange illustrates how love can blind us to the reality of bad situations, even if we are with people who don’t respect us. It can be tempting to ignore the possibility of losing someone you love, and it can be easy to look away.  Feeling secure around each other   Is your relationship secure? Are you secure? If you don’t feel secure, it doesn’t matter how much you love that person, especially if the relationship has become emotionally abusive. No matter how you frame it, a toxic relationship is still toxic. These types of relationships can be more difficult than others. According to “If you’re in a relationship because you love it, it’s likely you will stay there because one or more of your inherent needs are being fulfilled.”  It is often safer to seek a safe exit from a toxic relationship.  Work on your overall sense of happiness as a couple Everybody wants to be happy, and happiness is very important, even though it’s impossible to be happy all the time. It’s quite normal to feel unhappy for long periods, especially during a crisis. However, when you combine happy and unhappy times, it’s clear that happy times are more common than sad times. This is true even in the most loving and supportive relationships. Klapa believes it’s important to keep learning about your partner and sharing your hopes, dreams, and fears.  It not only makes you feel closer, but it can also help you give each other a lift when things get difficult.  Truly like each other It is more common for people to remain in relationships with people that they don’t like but love. It’s not hard to understand if you think of a family member who is always judgmental or difficult to get along with. Although you love them because they are family, you don’t enjoy being around them. You can do the same with your partner.  Maintaining your sense of self You were a “you” before you were “we”, and you should remain a “you” when you are in a relationship. It’s not worth sacrificing the essence of your self-worth to get love. If you are in a relationship and lose yourself, you will eventually lose interest and give up on your goals. Holding on to Your Independence in a Relationship Similar to the previous point, it is essential to feel free in a relationship to do what you want, to be yourself, and to have all your thoughts and feelings.  While you can and should include your partner in all decisions, you should still be free to make your own decisions and follow your heart. This might mean you go to graduate school on the other side of the country for a couple of years.  Creating A Fair Partnership Nothing is better than being with a true partner. If that is the case, you’ll feel like you can handle any situation life throws at your couple. If there is an unequal relationship and one person is trying, things will quickly get worse. To create a lasting relationship, it is important to find a balance between chores and emotional support. You can be there for each other and help them when needed.  Kissling states, “When determining the whole of a relationship, keeping love at its centre can distract from other questions or feelings such as, ‘Does he want the same things? ”Do we negotiate well? ‘, Do we support one another? ‘, Are we emotionally available to each other? Among other things.  You can update each other about your needs You can have a happy, healthy relationship with little or no sex if it’s what you want or if there’s a way to make it work. If sex is something you care about, and you don’t agree on the sexual side, you will have some difficult times. We are back to the idea of happiness being more important than love. You can improve your sexual compatibility.  Klapa states, “Nothing in a relationship is static.” If you want your relationship to last, it is important to accept that people and circumstances change over time. It is possible to keep the relationship alive by talking more about sex. Improve your communication skills Communication is essential for love to be a true, lasting relationship. Communication is essential in a relationship. It allows you to communicate, set boundaries, express your feelings, solves problems, discuss your needs, and even have great sex. Dub row states that a relationship can quickly fall apart if it gets sucked into misunderstandings, avoids difficult topics or focuses too heavily on one issue in the relationship. This leads to cyclical arguments.  Are You Ready for a Relationship? Sometimes, the heart can be complicated. It is possible to love someone but not want them to be there. There are many reasons why you might not want to be with someone. You may have other goals or feel emotionally unavailable.  ]]> /experts-have-identified-11-more-important-things-than-love-in-a-relationship/feed/ 0 Destination Wedding Etiquette /destination-wedding-etiquette/ /destination-wedding-etiquette/#respond Mon, 12 Aug 2024 10:15:48 +0000 /?p=35 With the cost of traveling and accommodations, plus the cost of a wedding gift, and the cost of special attire (for members of the wedding party), many guests are unenthusiastic when invited to a destination wedding. Guests can be irked that the couple was so “selfish” to choose a wedding that involved major expense for invitees who intend to be in attendance. So the common questions many couples – and their guests – often ask are: Who is expected to pay for the bridal party’s travel costs? Is it unreasonable to plan a destination wedding if friends and family can’t afford the trip? What is the etiquette for a destination wedding? Costs and who pays: Airfares: The bride and groom are only responsible for their own flights. They should choose their destination with the understanding that many friends and family (including their chosen bridesmaids and groomsmen) may not be able to afford the trip, and so may not come at all. If the couple can find cheaper flights, or group booking discounts, they should relay this information to their bridal party and guests, but understand that it may still be too much. If there is a special friend or family member that they truly want to be there, but who considers it to be too costly – the bride and groom can offer to pay that person’s flights (assuming they can afford it themselves). Accommodation: Once again, the bride and groom are not obliged to pay for the accommodation of others. Ideally, they will provide a variety of options to their guests and bridal party so that they can find something within their price range that they would enjoy. An excellent place to find a link with a huge variety of choices is  By simply selecting the desired destination, your guests can choose from bed and breakfasts, cabins, beachside apartments, boutique hotels, motels and hotels, and even backpacker or camping accommodation! Even better, if your guests have pets or kids, they can do a special search for a place catering to their specific needs. You may even find an accommodation option that could be economically rented out for your whole party. Equally, when you’re planning your honeymoon, you’ll find a search function at takeabreak.com.au to help you select the most romantic options. Gifts: It can be a hassle for guests to transport their presents to a far-off destination, and even more of a problem for the bride and groom to transport them all back home. You might want to consider a bridal registry that delivers the gifts to your home after the event (and you can request a later delivery date if you’ll be away for a lengthy honeymoon). Alternatively, you may decide that given the cost to the guests of coming to the destination wedding, you’d prefer to write “no gifts please” in your invitations. This may make it easier for some guests to attend your happy event. Clothing: Traditionally, the bridal party pays for their own outfits. For groomsmen, this may be as simple as renting a tux or suit from a place at the wedding destination (or better – if it’s part of a chain, choosing the desired outfit from an outlet at home and picking it up at the destination). For bridesmaids, the bride should try to select outfits that take consideration of the extra costs associated with their destination wedding. Special outings: Destination weddings often comprise side-trips including rehearsal dinners at wineries, or pre-wedding festivities at a nearby attraction. If it is an official part of your wedding (for example, the rehearsal dinner) then the couple should be responsible for all associated costs. Additionally, the couple may offer up a list of suggested outings that all or some of the guests and bridal party can attend at their own expense. “Am I selfish to want a destination wedding?” This question is frequently asked. A bride and groom should have their wedding wherever, whenever and however they please. It is their special day and if they want to say their vows at Uluru or sit in a mineshaft in Coober Pedy, that is their choice to make. Equally, it is the choice of any of their friends and family to say, “No, thank you” to the idea of lashing out for an expensive trip. If this is the case – the bride and groom may choose to wed privately at their chosen destination, and then arrange a gathering when they return home in order to celebrate with those friends and family who couldn’t share their happy day. ]]> /destination-wedding-etiquette/feed/ 0 50th Wedding Anniversary – Gift and Celebration Ideas /50th-wedding-anniversary-gift-and-celebration-ideas/ /50th-wedding-anniversary-gift-and-celebration-ideas/#respond Mon, 12 Aug 2024 10:12:44 +0000 /?p=32 Any couple reaching the 50th wedding anniversary surely needs to celebrate the occasion. The couple has managed to live with each other for half century with all ups and downs of life. The couple has built a legacy that cannot be measured. But surely they have touched each others life’s in various ways. This anniversary is also known as Golden anniversary. As the couple has touched a milestone hence the gift should also be such that would fill the moment with joy. Let us look into few symbols for 50th year anniversary. Traditional and Modern Gift: Gold Gemstone: Gold or Imperial or Golden Topaz Color: Gold Flower: Violet and in case you plan to give rose that is symbolic to the golden anniversary. Few examples are golden Beryl, Golden Future, Golden Memories, Goldfinch, Golden Wedding, and many more. Gift Ideas for 50th Wedding Anniversary Wedding anniversary gifts for the 50th anniversary should be very precious as well as memorable gift that could be remembered for years. Let us look into few 50th anniversary ideas: Gold jewelry such as earrings, bracelets, gold chains, bangles, rings, and much more can be gifted to your spouse on this special occasion. Both of you can exchange the gold rings with each other. This would be a perfect gift of this special occasion. A photo frame with a golden lining along with your favorite photo or a wedding photo is also another perfect gift for the couple. Real roses coated in 24k gold are another good option. 50th anniversary plate can also be given as the 50th anniversary gift. Gold colored gift such as sculpture of an embracing couple or artisan glass is good option for gift for the 50th wedding anniversary. A poem that can be framed and gifted to the spouse. Gift basket consisting of candles, champagne, cake, flowers, and much more is also good option for the couple. Crystal champagne glasses are also a festive addition to 50th wedding anniversary. Candle set is another elegant gift for this occasion. These can be set in the gold plated pillars. A handmade album of pictures of time spent together could be another memorable gift on this special anniversary. Celebration Ideas for 50th Wedding Anniversary The 50th anniversary being a great milestone should be celebrated with friends and family. You should plan to throw a grand party on the occasion. First of all you should plan for the date of the party. Decide for the location where you want the party to be held. The number of guest should be kept in mind while finalizing the place. Further, decide about the decoration you would love to have in the party. Being golden anniversary theme can be gold. Decide for the menu that would be liked by everybody. And last but not the least plan for the music which you want should be played on this occasion. With help of the gift and celebration ideas you can make your 50th wedding anniversary the most memorable. ]]> /50th-wedding-anniversary-gift-and-celebration-ideas/feed/ 0 Food: An Essential Part Of The Wedding Anniversary Celebration /food-an-essential-part-of-the-wedding-anniversary-celebration/ /food-an-essential-part-of-the-wedding-anniversary-celebration/#respond Mon, 12 Aug 2024 10:11:04 +0000 /?p=29 A wedding anniversary party reflects the joy and togetherness a couple shares and also reminds them of the importance of marriage in today’s society. Most people today arrange for a wedding anniversary party to enable their friends and relatives to join in their celebration. Serving food at the party is a nice gesture for the host to show his love and gratitude towards all his well-wishers. Therefore the anniversary party food is an indispensable part of the celebration. The host has to devote considerable time in deciding the party food for his guests and while doing so, he has to take various aspects into consideration such as the number of people who will be attending the party, the type of food the guests will like to have, the venue of the party and also the timing of the party. The caterer plays an important role in preparing and serving the food and therefore the right choice has to be made in selecting the same. In today’s parties, the buffet style of serving food is the most preferred one as it enables to serve different varieties of food. It also enables the guests to eat according to their choice and quantity. The starters for the occasion might include coffee/tea, meat balls, cheese balls, rolls, drinks etc. The most popular food items that are included in the main meal are salads, rolls, varieties of vegetable curries, fish curry, sea food, chicken curry, red meat, dessert etc. However one must not forget to make arrangements for the wedding cake which will be an essential part of the celebration. The young couples generally love to have a theme for their wedding anniversary celebration and decide the food items accordingly. The theme could be food from a certain region such as Chinese, Thai, Continental, Indian, Italian, Mexican etc. Cookies, chocolates and candies might be included in the food items as they would be appreciated by all people esp. the children. It has been observed that a few older people prefer to serve the same food as was served on their wedding day. The ambience only brings back fond memories of the past and enables them to re-live the moments once again. If the anniversary couple has a favourite dish of their own, it would be the best part of the celebration Satisfied guests are very important for a party to be successful and it is the delicious food and drinks that can make the guests truly happy. Anniversary food planning should be done much in advance of the party so that no chaos is created at the last minute. ]]> /food-an-essential-part-of-the-wedding-anniversary-celebration/feed/ 0 6 Types of Romantic Relationships and How to Define Yours? /6-types-of-romantic-relationships-and-how-to-define-yours/ /6-types-of-romantic-relationships-and-how-to-define-yours/#respond Mon, 12 Aug 2024 10:09:32 +0000 /?p=26 It’s common to hear the term “relationship” used so often that people assume it has a single definition. The truth is that the word “relationship” encompasses many types of human connections, both romantic and nonromantic. No two people probably have the same definition of what makes a relationship. Here’s a quick guide to the basics. What is a relationship? A relationship can be any connection or association between people, whether intimate, spiritual or positive. When people refer to “being in relationship, ” they usually refer to a particular type of romantic relationship that involves both emotional and bodily intimacy, ongoing commitment, and monogamy. Monogamy is romantic and sexual exclusivity where members have no other relationships. However, romantic relationships can come in many forms: from casual dating to marriage to ethical nonmonogamy. There are four main types of relationships: friendships, family, acquaintanceships and romantic. Work relationships, teacher/student relationships and relationships with members of the community or groups are some other examples of more complex relationships. These relationships may overlap or be inseparable. For example, close friends and colleagues can both be work colleagues.  These are the basic types of relationships: Familial relationships are also known as family members and relatives Friendships Acquaintances Sexual relationships Work and professional relationships Relationships between teacher and student Relationships between groups or communities Different types of romantic relationships People use many relationship labels to describe their relationships with others. Here are some of the most basic types of romantic relationships. Dating There is no consensus on the level of commitment implied by two people stating they are “dating”. Some people use the term only when they have a committed relationship, while others indicate that they are just exploring the possibility of a relationship. Committed relation When referring to couples, “in a relation” often refers to being in a long-term, committed romantic relationship. A committed relationship is when two or more people agree that they will continue to be in a relationship for the future. The two of them agree to continue spending time together, working on their relationship, and continuing nurturing their relationship. People in committed relationships might use identifiers such as boyfriend or girl to signify their commitment to another person. Traditional monogamous relationships mean that a couple is romantically and sexually exclusive. This means they will not have other romantic or sexual partners. Exclusiveness is not required in non-monogamous relationships. One form of a committed relationship is marriage. It’s when a couple publicly swears to be together and forms a legally binding union. Casual relation A casual relationship is one in which two or more people are dating and spend time together. They may also engage in sexual or romantic activities, but there is no expectation that the relationship will last. These relationships are more temporary and may not last for long. Casual relationships are often characterized by a strong attraction and a mutual liking for one another. However, there may not be a deep emotional connection or desire to strengthen the relationship. People in casual relationships might not see themselves as life partners as people in committed relationships. They won’t often use terms like a boyfriend, girlfriend, or partner. Casual sex A casual sex relationship involves two or more people who spend their time together solely to have sex. They may see one another regularly for sex or just once. Although they may enjoy each other’s company, they might not be interested in a relationship.  Positions Situation ships are romantic relationships that have not been defined explicitly, often by omission. Although the relationship might have the same characteristics as a committed or casual relationship, the people involved have not placed labels on it. This could be because they are still trying to figure out what they want or because they don’t want to make things too complicated. Generally speaking, situation ships usually have more emotional involvement than a friends-with-benefits scenario but not the explicit romantic feelings and commitment of a committed relationship. According to psychology, there are 7 types of relationships Passion only: infatuation Intimacy only: friendship No love at all: commitment only Romantic love: passion and intimacy Unfaithful love: passion and commitment Companionate love: intimacy + engagement Consummate Love: Passion + Intimacy + Commitment How to define a relationship? Couples must communicate their desires and goals regarding dating and romantic relationships. These are some questions you can ask one another to help define your relationship. What are you looking for in a relationship? A casual, in-the-moment relationship? Perhaps something more forward-oriented? Are you unsure and want to find out now? Do you want a long-term relationship with someone? Do you see the potential? Do you see other people? Do you feel romantic? Do we want to explore those feelings or keep it casual? How often do you want to see and talk with each other? ]]> /6-types-of-romantic-relationships-and-how-to-define-yours/feed/ 0 Valentine – The Day of Love and Gifts /valentine-the-day-of-love-and-gifts/ /valentine-the-day-of-love-and-gifts/#comments Mon, 12 Aug 2024 10:07:58 +0000 /?p=23 Yes, Valentines day! Its the day for lovers. The day meant for sending heart shaped candy’s and red roses to the people you love. Its that special day that is meant to celebrate love. To celebrate love for that special person in your life who is your spouse or your significant other. Valentine is the day of romance. On this day the paper maches, love letters and candy hearts are used by one and all to express their love for that special one. There is huge demand of gifts on this day. In fact today it is being speculated that it has become just another marketing gimmick used by the major corporate houses. If we look back into history, you will find the reason and the significance of this day. The valentines day is also known as the St. Valentines day. This day is celebrated by many people all over the world. In catholic history you will come across many variations in the spellings of the name of the saints. They are both known as Valentinus and Valentine. One of these was a bishop of Terni while the other was a roman priest. Apparently both these priests lived in the same period and also they died on the same day. Eventually, it was St. Valentine who went on to become the lovers patron saint. Originally, if you look at it then there is no direct connection between the saint Valentine and lovers festival. But the fact is both these events take place at the same time of the year. There are many customs which are associated with this day since the middle ages. One such custom is of serving some special food which referred to as the food of love. These special foods would include items like meats, fruits and other delicacies. They would also use lanterns for decoration on this day and would use the lanterns which resembled jack – o – lanterns. These lanterns were of firm textures and made of vegetables and fruits. The center of this structure was hollowed so that it could hold a candle. The outside of this lantern like structure would have a carving of a smiling face. They would also wear a detachable love sleeve incorporating it as a part of their costume. They would thus express their love for some special individual. In modern times, however, the holiday has been transformed. Today, it basically means bestowing your loved ones with all kinds of gifts in order to express your love for them. There are all kinds of gifts bestowed by the lovers but red roses are the quintessential gifts for Valentines day. Apart from the cut roses, there are other flowers bought by people like the carnations and mixed flower bouquets and other kind of single stemmed flowers. As a rule though, it is the men who buy cut flowers. Women on the other hand buy dried flowers or potted plants. Talking about men and women celebrating this day in their own way, one significant difference is that men buy these gifts only for their wives or their significant other. Women on the other hand buy gifts for their relatives apart from their spouse and lovers. Though there are different ways used by different people to celebrate this day. But the significance remains the same and the essence of the day remains to be love! ]]> /valentine-the-day-of-love-and-gifts/feed/ 1 15 Things That Are Most Important in a Relationship /15-things-that-are-most-important-in-a-relationship/ /15-things-that-are-most-important-in-a-relationship/#respond Mon, 12 Aug 2024 10:06:31 +0000 /?p=20 Open Communication Open communication is key to any successful relationship ( 1). You cannot tell your partner what you are thinking. Communication is key. It’s important to voice your emotions, expectations, and needs. Communication is essential to solve conflicts and strengthen relationships, even if you’re in conflict. You can create resentment and misunderstandings by not communicating. This will lead to bitterness. All of these can lead to a breakdown in a relationship. Trust in each other Trust in a relationship is a sign of permanence and longevity. If you lack this ingredient, your relationship will not be secure, healthy, and stable. Trust can be built over time if you are open to working together on your relationship and getting it back on track. You can’t make your relationship exciting and fulfilling if trust is lacking. Respect for each other Disrespecting your partner can also cause a loss of love, no matter how cliché it may sound. You cannot use love to justify disrespecting or sacrificing your self-worth. Respect is key to a happy and healthy relationship. Respect each other’s differences, not try to force your views on the other. Respecting and celebrating differences is the best way to strengthen your relationship. Resentment can lead to resentment, which can cause irreparable damage to any relationship. Loyalty Unfaithfulness is the worst thing that can happen to a relationship. Loyalty and love that are paired with loyalty are sacred and long-lasting. Loyalty is the foundation of any relationship. You must commit to your partner if you want it to work. You may not be as smart as your co-worker or as outgoing as your ex. But there’s a reason you chose them over all others. This should be the foundation for your loyalty. Relationships can be disastrous if a third party is involved, whether you reveal their identity to them or keep it secret from your partner. Compromise Both of you must be open to making concessions for a thriving relationship. For your relationship to flourish, you need to find common ground. Successful relationships are built on compromises from both sides. No one person can have everything they want. It can lead to resentment or even the end of your relationship if you continue to deprive your partner. Upholding Independence That is fine if you live, breathe, and eat together as a couple. It is just as important to have your own time. You don’t have to lose yourself in a relationship. While you may both experience changes, it doesn’t mean you have to lose your individuality. You can still retain the qualities that make you unique and instil them in your relationship. The feeling of safety Stay in a relationship if you feel safe with your partner. If your safety is in doubt, all other emotions will fail, and your relationship will eventually end. In a committed relationship, you must keep the sacred vow to protect and love your partner in all circumstances. This sense of safety can be both emotional and physical. Being Happy Your relationship can suffer from the hustle and bustle that is everyday life. Finding ways to make your relationship more fun, exciting, and happy is important. It is impossible to have a happy relationship without smiling and laughing. However, it is important to ensure that happy times outweigh unhappy ones. Nothing will stop you from smiling at the problem and facing it together as a couple. Laughter unites two hearts and takes away all worries. Being A-Team While you may need your own space, it is important to keep the relationship strong. You must be able to do different things at different times in a relationship. Sometimes, you will need to be a therapist to your partner. You can listen to them and offer support. Sometimes, you may have to be a teacher or therapist to help them avoid making bad decisions. Your partner may have to take over these roles from time to time. It would help if you worked together as a team to improve your relationship. Forgiveness Forgiveness is an important virtue. No one is perfect. While you might have a list of qualities you want in your partner, in the end, it is just human to make mistakes and forgive. Forgiveness is possible if you are sincere and offer an apology. It is not acceptable to cheat on your partner. You can still make grievous errors and offer apologies. Spending quality time together How can two strangers fall in love and become inseparable? It’s about spending quality time together and prioritizing your relationships. Spending time together can help you get to know your partner better. It helps you to build trust and friendship with your partner. You can make a difference in your relationship by taking a walk or watching a movie together. Feel emotionally available A relationship is not just about love and happiness. It is also about being there for your partner emotionally in difficult times. If your partner is struggling with their emotions, be there to listen. Insensitivity to your partner’s emotions and a tendency to get lost in your world can lead to a feeling of loneliness that may tempt you to seek a third party to fill the void. Listening to and validating your partner’s feelings will make you closer as a couple. Express Love Who wouldn’t love to hear that their partner is the most important and special person in their lives? Never take your partner for granted. Let them know that you are listening to show your love and admiration. You will increase your chances of receiving love. Be kind Although it may seem small, the kindnesses you show your partner will last a lifetime. These small gestures will show your partner that you care and are always there for them. You can be sure that your partner will do the same for you, and they will make it a point to show their appreciation. This is the basis for a strong partnership. Commit To Success A relationship is a two-way road. It takes two people to be committed to one another to make it work. Your relationship will endure all difficulties if you are invested in it. Each relationship has its challenges. The ones that endure the storms of time will have to be committed. ]]> /15-things-that-are-most-important-in-a-relationship/feed/ 0 Can Long-distance Relationships Work? There Are Ways To Overcome Obstacles. /can-long-distance-relationships-work-there-are-ways-to-overcome-obstacles/ /can-long-distance-relationships-work-there-are-ways-to-overcome-obstacles/#respond Mon, 12 Aug 2024 10:03:43 +0000 /?p=17 It can be frustrating and difficult to maintain long-distance relationships. Building genuine relationships takes a lot of effort and perseverance, especially when considering the difficulties that being away can bring. It is possible to make the relationship work if you and your partner are open to working together and allowed to let go of any expectations. How to keep your long-distance relationship alive with love. Trust is a critical factor in overcoming the challenges of long-distance relationships. Trust is a crucial element of any relationship and should be your goal to create lasting connections. Trust-building doesn’t have to be about sexual fidelity. You can also break the trust of your partner in many different ways. Is it possible for your special someone to trust you to follow through with your plans, or are you more likely to let go of them when you see something more urgent or better? Can you rely on them to make you feel heard and understood during challenging times? You can also count on them to help you do the same. Trust is a two-way street. It must be earned and maintained by your partner. Trust must be built to ensure that each person and couple are satisfied. You can still have quality time, even when you are away. It doesn’t matter if you live far apart; trying to be there for each other is important. You will bond more if you spend quality time together. This will help you to get to know your partner and identify their values and dreams, as well as their likes and dislikes. Romantic ideas to foster love and connection regardless of distance. The weekends can be a time for you to bond through a shared love of movies and setting up discord dates. You can find an online game you can play together if you’re into it. Find something that you both enjoy together. You will feel closer and more connected, which will improve your relationship. Communicate and talk about important issues. Communication goes beyond asking about your breakfasts or how your day went. Communication is about conversing with your partner about important topics, such as your fear or apathy. It’s important to share what is bothering your partner. It’s easier to keep things secret from your partner when you are making a long-distance relationship. To avoid conflict, however, resolving any issues already developing from the beginning is best. This will stop grudges from forming and allow you to maintain your score in your relationship. Talking about sensitive issues via Facetime or the phone can be challenging. You can only solve problems if your partner can support you and reassure you. Being open will help you solve minor issues and make it easier to find common ground. Keep your eyes on the common goal. Keeping the love alive is possible by focusing on your mutual goals in long-distance relationships. This is a crucial conversation you and your partner must have in order to create a future together. It is something you can look forward to in difficult times, and it’s something you can hold onto. Establishing long-term goals is important to ensure you’re on the same page. This will help you set the direction of your relationship, as well as a time frame and an estimated amount of living apart. Couples will not stay together in a distant relationship for ever. Sometimes, it is the individual goals that make it necessary for couples to be apart. You can merge your worlds when the right time comes and all your goals are met. You can prepare for this big leap by creating a foolproof plan together with your loved one. This will help you feel motivated when you feel down about not being with the person you love. Keep positive and encourage each other. Long-distance relationships can be lonely and difficult. It can be frustrating to wait, and the desire to see your partner grows with each passing day. You must remain positive and understand that things will not always be this way. This type of relationship can help you see the positives and help you to reframe your situation. One, you can focus on your partner and give your best during your time together. You can also allocate more time to your family, work, and studies when you are apart. You and your partner may also find that you appreciate one another more when you are separated. Appreciation can make you and your partner more open to each other. For example, aligning your schedule with theirs increases the connection frequency. While long-distance connections may have their drawbacks, there are many silver linings. Gift-giving should not be a routine that is reserved for special occasions. Surprise your partner by giving them gifts, even if it’s unexpected, and show your love for them. If you are in a long-distance relationship with your partner, this gesture is particularly meaningful. Surprise them with a gift that shows your love and affection. If gifts are your partner’s love language, even better! No matter what your budget is, it doesn’t really matter. It doesn’t matter if you have a limited budget. What matters is that you communicate your feelings by simply remembering your partner and their favorite things. This is a great opportunity to show your creativity and to please your partner. You could send a simple, handwritten note filled with love and admiration. If they are feeling ill, you could book a spa that is known for its rejuvenating massages. A special gift shows you care about them, even if they are miles away. It’s not easy to enter a long-distance relationship. 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127 Media | Hosting, Web, Cloud, Hardware Solutions for Business Thu, 25 Jun 2026 12:10:59 +0000 en-GB hourly 1 Microsoft 365 Backup: Why Retention Policies Aren’t Enough /microsoft-365-backup-retention-policies/ Thu, 25 Jun 2026 12:09:13 +0000 /?p=6998 Microsoft 365 backup isn’t as straightforward as most people think. A client called me in a panic recently. Someone on their team had deleted a shared folder in SharePoint. Important documents, gone. They assumed Microsoft would sort it, because surely their data was backed up in the cloud? It wasn’t. Not in the way they […] The post Microsoft 365 Backup: Why Retention Policies Aren’t Enough appeared first on 127 Media | Hosting, Web, Cloud, Hardware. ]]> Microsoft 365 backup isn’t as straightforward as most people think. A client called me in a panic recently. Someone on their team had deleted a shared folder in SharePoint. Important documents, gone. They assumed Microsoft would sort it, because surely their data was backed up in the cloud?It wasn’t. Not in the way they thought.After a lot of digging, we recovered most of what they’d lost, but it was a close call. And they’re not alone. It’s one of the most common misconceptions I come across: that using Microsoft 365 automatically protects your data.It isn’t. Here’s why, and what to do about it. What Microsoft 365 actually gives youMicrosoft does include some built-in data tools with every 365 subscription. There’s the Recycle Bin for deleted files, version history in SharePoint and OneDrive, and retention policies you can set up in the Compliance Centre. For Exchange, there’s litigation hold and a degree of mailbox-level recovery.These are useful. But they’re not a backup. Microsoft builds them for operational continuity and compliance, not for recovering your data after something goes wrong.There’s a meaningful difference, and it matters. What retention policies actually doA retention policy tells Microsoft how long to keep a piece of data before it’s deleted, or how long to hold on to it even if someone tries to delete it early. That’s it.It won’t reliably let you roll back your environment or data set to a clean point in time across the business. It won’t recover a mailbox that was deleted after a member of staff left. It won’t restore a SharePoint site that was wiped out by ransomware. And it certainly won’t give you a clean, point-in-time snapshot of your data from before an incident happened.Think of a retention policy like a legal filing cabinet. It keeps records for the right amount of time and stops people from throwing things away too early. That has its place. But if the office floods, the filing cabinet doesn’t save you. The gaps that catch businesses outHere are the situations where Microsoft 365’s built-in tools regularly fall short for small and medium businesses:Accidental deletion with a long tail. Microsoft’s Recycle Bin holds deleted items for 30 to 93 days depending on the workload. If no one notices a file is missing until three months later, it’s gone.Staff leaving the business. When you remove a Microsoft 365 licence, the associated data is at risk. Without proper backup, mailboxes and OneDrive content can be deleted automatically once the licence is gone.Ransomware. If ransomware encrypts your SharePoint files or OneDrive content, the encrypted versions can sync across and overwrite your version history. Retention policies won’t protect you here.Shared mailboxes and Teams data. These are easy to overlook in a retention policy setup, and often aren’t configured at all in smaller businesses.Misconfigured policies. Retention policies require careful setup. A policy that’s set up incorrectly can either delete data too soon or create a false sense of security. Why Microsoft 365 backup needs a dedicated solutionMicrosoft itself is clear that it operates on a shared responsibility model. Microsoft keeps the platform running. Protecting what’s in it is your responsibility.A proper Microsoft 365 backup solution runs independently of the platform. It takes regular, scheduled snapshots of your data across email, OneDrive, SharePoint, and Teams. It stores those copies separately. And it lets you restore individual items, full mailboxes, or entire sites to a specific point in time, quickly and cleanly.That’s a fundamentally different proposition to a retention policy. Why we use AvePoint for Microsoft 365 backupAt 127 Media, we use AvePoint Cloud Backup ourselves and manage it for our clients, too. If we’re trusting it to protect our own business data, you can be confident we’d only recommend it to you for the same reason. Here’s what makes it the right choice for UK SMBs:Everything is covered. AvePoint backs up Exchange mailboxes, OneDrive, SharePoint, Microsoft Teams (including chat history and Planner tasks), Microsoft 365 Groups, and more. Nothing slips through.Granular restore, not all or nothing. You can restore a single email, a specific file, a calendar appointment, or an entire SharePoint site. You choose the point in time. AvePoint doesn’t force you to roll back everything just to recover one item.Backups run up to four times a day. Even in a worst-case scenario, you’re unlikely to lose more than a few hours of work.Ransomware protection built in. AvePoint monitors daily change rates across your backed-up data and flags unusual activity early. If you do get hit, you can restore to a clean point before the attack took hold.Data stays in the right place. Backup data can be stored in UK-based storage, which matters for businesses with GDPR considerations or data sovereignty requirements.Proof you can show. Every backup job produces a report. If you’re ever asked by a client, a regulator, or an auditor whether your data is protected, you can show the evidence. What would happen to your business data today?If someone deleted your most important SharePoint folder right now, how quickly could you get it back? What if a member of staff left suddenly and you needed to access their emails six months later? What if ransomware encrypted your Teams files overnight?If you’re not confident in the answers, it’s worth taking a look at how your Microsoft 365 data is actually protected.We can review your current setup, identify any gaps, and walk you through what a proper Microsoft 365 backup looks like in practice. There’s no commitment, and it won’t take long.Get in touch. The post Microsoft 365 Backup: Why Retention Policies Aren’t Enough appeared first on 127 Media | Hosting, Web, Cloud, Hardware. ]]> WordPress Website Security: Daily Attack Attempts Explained /wordpress-website-security-daily-attacks/ Tue, 16 Jun 2026 09:38:41 +0000 /?p=6947 What Daily Monitoring Data Reveals About WordPress Website Security Every day, we monitor the security of the WordPress websites in our care. The picture is always the same: constant, automated attack activity, regardless of business size or industry. This isn’t a one-off incident. It’s the everyday reality of running a website in 2026, and the […] The post WordPress Website Security: Daily Attack Attempts Explained appeared first on 127 Media | Hosting, Web, Cloud, Hardware. ]]> What Daily Monitoring Data Reveals About WordPress Website Security Every day, we monitor the security of the WordPress websites in our care. The picture is always the same: constant, automated attack activity, regardless of business size or industry.This isn’t a one-off incident. It’s the everyday reality of running a website in 2026, and the volume keeps growing. What We See Every DayAcross the sites we manage, common activity includes:Hundreds to thousands of automated login attempts, repeated targeting of genuine user accounts, continuous probing of default usernames like “admin,” attack traffic arriving from several countries at once, and account lockouts triggered by repeated failed logins.This is simply the background noise of the modern internet. Real Examples From Live SitesOn one monitored site, a genuine user account received over 600 login attempts, while the “admin” username was targeted more than 200 times.On another, known email addresses were tested repeatedly, alongside generic accounts such as “root” and “superadmin.”These aren’t random guesses. They’re automated systems systematically working through likely entry points.Where the Attacks Come FromAttack traffic regularly originates from multiple regions simultaneously, including, but not limited to, India, the United States, Brazil, Pakistan, Iran, Japan, and Eastern Europe. This pattern reflects large-scale bot networks, not individuals manually targeting your business.Brute Force Attempts and Account LockoutsWe also see regular lockouts caused by repeated failed logins. A typical pattern looks like this: 20 failed attempts against a single account, an automatic lockout response, and source traffic originating from outside the UK.This is brute force activity happening in real time, every day. “We’re Too Small to Be Targeted” Is a Myth It’s a common assumption among small and medium businesses, but modern attacks don’t work that way. They’re automated, wide-reaching, and opportunistic. Attack systems scan thousands of websites looking for weaknesses, not importance. A small business website is just as likely to be probed as a large corporate one. Read our guide on how your business can improve cyber security. What a Breach Actually Costs Your Business A compromised website rarely stays “just a website problem.” Loss of trust: Visitors redirected to malicious content, browsers flagging your site as unsafe, and lasting reputation damage. Business disruption: Downtime, lost enquiries and sales, and potential email issues if your server is abused for spam. Data risk: Exposed contact form submissions, accessed customer information, and possible GDPR implications. Long-term impact: Blacklisting by Google or email providers, recovery and clean-up costs, and significant lost time for the business owner. Read more about why proactive website maintenance is your digital insurance. The Real Cause of Most Breaches Most breaches don’t happen because a business was specifically targeted. They happen because a vulnerability existed, an automated system found it, and nothing stopped it. How 127 Media Protects Your Website Our approach to WordPress website security includes monitoring of security activity, proactive updates across all systems, web application firewall protection, secure login configuration, and low-density hosting environments. Find out more about our web hosting services. The Bottom Line The internet isn’t quiet. It’s constant, automated, and the volume is increasing. The real question isn’t whether your website is being attacked. It’s whether it’s protected.Have a question? Visit our FAQs page. Want to know how secure your website really is? Get in touch for a no-obligation security review. The post WordPress Website Security: Daily Attack Attempts Explained appeared first on 127 Media | Hosting, Web, Cloud, Hardware. ]]> Data Sovereignty: Why UK Businesses Can No Longer Ignore It /data-sovereignty-and-managed-hosting/ Tue, 10 Mar 2026 16:13:51 +0000 /?p=5919 Data sovereignty has rapidly become an important consideration in managed hosting for UK businesses. Once viewed as a technical detail best left to IT providers, it is now firmly a commercial, legal, and reputational issue. Data sovereignty refers to the principle that data is governed by the laws of the country in which it is […] The post Data Sovereignty: Why UK Businesses Can No Longer Ignore It appeared first on 127 Media | Hosting, Web, Cloud, Hardware. ]]> Data sovereignty has rapidly become an important consideration in managed hosting for UK businesses. Once viewed as a technical detail best left to IT providers, it is now firmly a commercial, legal, and reputational issue. Data sovereignty refers to the principle that data is governed by the laws of the country in which it is stored and controlled. In practical terms, it determines where your data lives, which legal system applies to it, and who can compel access to it.For organisations operating in today’s uncertain regulatory and geopolitical climate, particularly in the post‑Brexit UK, understanding data sovereignty is no longer optional. It affects compliance, risk exposure, customer trust, and long‑term business resilience. Choosing where and how your data is hosted has become a strategic decision rather than a purely technical one. Why Data Sovereignty Has Moved Up the AgendaIn recent years, awareness of data sovereignty among UK businesses has grown sharply. Brexit has been a major catalyst, prompting organisations to reassess how international data flows affect their obligations under UK data protection law. While the UK currently maintains a data adequacy agreement with the EU, allowing personal data to move freely between the two, the broader international picture is far more complex and subject to change.Industry research consistently shows that many UK SMEs do not know where their data is physically stored. Even fewer understand which country’s laws apply to it. This lack of visibility creates risk. Businesses may assume their data is protected under UK law because their provider markets “UK hosting”, when in reality the provider itself may be foreign owned and subject to overseas legislation.Concerns are particularly strong around US‑owned hosting providers. Under US legislation such as the CLOUD Act, American authorities can lawfully require US‑based companies to provide access to data, regardless of where that data is stored. This means data belonging to a UK business, even if hosted in a UK data centre, could potentially be accessed under US law without any involvement from UK courts.It is these legal realities that have driven data sovereignty from a background IT topic to a boardroom discussion. The UK government has acknowledged this shift by classifying data centres as critical national infrastructure, highlighting the strategic importance of keeping digital assets secure and under domestic oversight. Hosting Ownership Models and Legal JurisdictionWhen assessing data sovereignty, server location alone is not enough. Ownership and jurisdiction are equally important. Different hosting models carry very different implications for how data is governed.A UK‑owned and UK‑incorporated hosting provider operating UK data centres offers the clearest and simplest sovereignty position. Data remains within the UK and is subject solely to UK law. For many businesses, particularly those handling sensitive or regulated data, this clarity significantly reduces legal and compliance risk.EU‑based providers also operate under strong privacy frameworks through GDPR. They can be a suitable option for some UK businesses, especially where EU operations are involved. However, they remain foreign entities, and future divergence between UK and EU regulatory frameworks could introduce additional complexity.US‑owned providers present the most challenging data sovereignty scenario. Even where data is stored in the UK or Europe, it may still fall under US legal jurisdiction due to company ownership. This often necessitates additional contractual safeguards and risk assessments, adding administrative overhead and uncertainty.Independent UK providers, particularly specialist managed hosting companies, often offer the highest levels of transparency. Clients can usually identify exactly where their data is hosted and who is responsible for it. This level of openness is increasingly valued by organisations seeking control rather than scale at any cost. The Often Ignored Risk of Overcrowded HostingWhile data sovereignty addresses legal control, hosting quality also depends heavily on how infrastructure is managed. One of the most overlooked risks in hosting is server overcrowding.Many mass‑market hosting providers rely on aggressive overselling, placing hundreds or even thousands of websites on a single physical server. While this keeps prices low, it introduces serious performance and security risks. When too many sites compete for the same processing power, memory, and bandwidth, performance becomes unpredictable. Slow load times, intermittent outages, and instability during traffic spikes are common symptoms.Our own analysis of business websites across the North West revealed a startling variation in server density. Some sites shared servers with a few dozen others, while some, including ecommerce websites, were hosted on infrastructure shared with hundreds of thousands or even millions of domains. In such environments, businesses have no visibility or control over their digital neighbours.Security risks increase as server density rises. A compromised site can be used as a stepping stone to attack others on the same server. Email deliverability is another frequent casualty. Shared mail servers and IP addresses mean that one misconfigured or compromised site can damage the sending reputation for every business on that server, causing legitimate emails to be blocked or filtered as spam.Cheap hosting often appears cost‑effective until these hidden risks surface, usually at the worst possible time. Our Approach to Data Sovereignty and Managed HostingAt 127 Media, managed hosting has been central to our business since we started in 2014. Over more than a decade, we have refined our approach based on real‑world experience supporting UK businesses across multiple sectors. Hosting is not an add‑on for us, it is a core service that underpins everything else we do.Our infrastructure is entirely UK‑based and operated under UK jurisdiction. Client data does not leave the UK, and there are no overseas parent companies or legal frameworks involved. This provides absolute clarity around data sovereignty and compliance.We take a deliberately conservative approach to server density. For standard website hosting, we cap servers at a maximum of 100 websites. This ensures consistent performance, reduces risk, and avoids the problems associated with noisy neighbours. Our philosophy is simple, it is better to run servers responsibly than to squeeze every last account onto a single machine.All managed sites benefit from automated, UK‑based backups, stored separately from the live environment. Recovery procedures are tested and documented, ensuring data can be restored quickly if needed.For platforms such as WordPress, we manage core and plugin updates as part of the service. Outdated software remains one of the most common causes of security breaches. By keeping systems current, we significantly reduce exposure to known vulnerabilities.Security is built in at multiple levels. Network firewalls, hardened servers, malware scanning, application‑level protection, and encrypted connections all work together to protect data and services. No single control is relied upon in isolation.Support is delivered by UK‑based engineers who understand the environments they manage. All requests are handled through a tracked ticketing system, ensuring accountability and clear communication. Clients deal with people who know their systems, not anonymous call centres. Why Data Sovereignty Is a Competitive AdvantageData sovereignty is increasingly a trust signal. Clients, partners, and regulators want assurance that businesses understand where their data is hosted and how it is protected. Organisations that can demonstrate control and transparency are better positioned to win trust and avoid regulatory surprises.Choosing a sovereign managed hosting provider is not just about compliance. It is about performance, reliability, accountability, and long‑term risk management. Businesses that take control of their hosting environment are better equipped to handle growth, change, and uncertainty. Keeping Your Data Under Your ControlFor UK businesses that value clarity, control, and resilience, data sovereignty should be a central consideration when choosing a hosting partner. Keeping data under UK legal protection reduces uncertainty, simplifies compliance, and aligns infrastructure with national standards and expectations.At 127 Media, we believe hosting should support your business rather than introduce hidden risk. Our managed hosting services are designed to deliver security, performance, and peace of mind, without compromising on sovereignty or service quality.If you are reviewing your current hosting arrangements or have concerns about data sovereignty, performance, or security, we are always happy to talk. Your data is one of your most valuable assets. Where it lives, and who controls it, matters more than ever. The post Data Sovereignty: Why UK Businesses Can No Longer Ignore It appeared first on 127 Media | Hosting, Web, Cloud, Hardware. ]]> Workstations vs High‑End PCs /workstations-vs-high-end-pcs/ Wed, 28 Jan 2026 13:11:54 +0000 /?p=5889 Fourteen years ago, I recorded a series of business technology videos covering a wide range of topics, from workstations versus PC selection to cybercrime, NAS storage, virtual desktops, servers, and more. At the time, the conversation around high-performance computing often came down to a simple choice: buy a powerful PC, or invest in a professional […] The post Workstations vs High‑End PCs appeared first on 127 Media | Hosting, Web, Cloud, Hardware. ]]> Fourteen years ago, I recorded a series of business technology videos covering a wide range of topics, from workstations versus PC selection to cybercrime, NAS storage, virtual desktops, servers, and more. At the time, the conversation around high-performance computing often came down to a simple choice: buy a powerful PC, or invest in a professional workstation. Even then, many businesses underestimated the importance of hardware built specifically for demanding workloads.Today, in 2026, the workstation market has transformed. Workloads are heavier, AI has become mainstream, and a new class of hardware, NPUs (Neural Processing Units), has emerged. Yet the fundamental message remains the same. If your business depends on reliability, stability, and consistent performance, a workstation is still the smarter investment.This article compares the original 2012 advice with the market today and explains why workstations remain essential for modern businesses. The 2012 Perspective: A Clear but Often Overlooked DifferenceBack in 2012, the distinction between a high-end PC and a workstation was frequently misunderstood.Key points from the original video included:Workstations were purpose‑built for specialist workloads Applications such as CAD, 3D modelling, simulation, and advanced graphics workflows require predictable performance under heavy load. Consumer PCs were simply not engineered for this.ISV certification was a critical advantageCertified workstations were tested by software vendors to ensure reliability, stability, and full support. Workstation‑class hardware meant fewer crashes and dramatically reduced downtime.Hardware reliability mattered more than raw benchmarksECC memory, advanced cooling, enterprise component validation, and long lifecycle support separated workstations from high-end desktops.The message was clear. If your software was mission-critical or downtime would incur real business costs, choosing a workstation was the right call. The 2026 Market: What’s New, What’s Improved, and What Still MattersTechnology has advanced rapidly, and workstation design has evolved more in the last five years than in the previous decade. The arrival of AI‑accelerated workflows, real‑time simulation, cloud‑integrated processing, and hybrid working has entirely changed expectations.But the workstation remains the right platform for demanding workloads. Here is how the landscape looks today. 1. Workloads Are Now AI‑Driven and Data‑IntensiveIn 2026, many key business processes rely on AI. Designers, engineers, analysts, and creators all run workloads that require specialised compute.Modern workstation capabilities include:High‑core‑count CPUs optimised for multi‑threaded operationsProfessional GPUs for AI, rendering, simulation, and modellingLarge RAM capacities with ECC as standard in most tiersEnterprise NVMe storage capable of sustained high throughput This performance class far exceeds even top‑end gaming PCs, which are designed for burst performance rather than sustained professional workloads. 2. The Biggest Evolution: NPUs in Modern WorkstationsOne of the most significant changes between 2012 and today is the incorporation of NPUs (Neural Processing Units) into workstation architecture.What NPUs bring to 2026 workstations: Dedicated acceleration for AI workloadsMachine learning inference, large language model optimisation, video enhancement, speech processing, and predictive analytics run locally without relying on cloud resources.Increased energy efficiencyNPUs deliver AI acceleration at a fraction of the power draw of CPUs and GPUs, reducing heat, noise, and running costs.Better hybrid‑cloud performanceNPUs allow organisations to process sensitive or latency‑critical data locally while offloading larger tasks to the cloud.Enterprise‑grade optimisationProfessional workstation NPUs offer stronger security, longer lifecycle support, and better tooling than those found in consumer devices.In 2012, NPUs did not exist. In 2026, they will become a core component of workstation design and a major reason to choose a workstation over a PC. 3. ISV Certification Is More Important Than EverWorkflows are now more tightly integrated across cloud, desktop, and mobile platforms. Running untested hardware introduces real business risk.ISV‑certified workstations offer:Guaranteed compatibilitySupport from major vendorsStable drivers and firmwareReduced error rates on complex workloads This is still something high-end PCs cannot match today. 4. Consumer PCs Have Improved, but Not in the Areas That Matter MostHigh-end PCs now offer:Better GPUsFaster gaming‑optimised CPUsAttractive price points But they still lack:ECC memory optionsISV certificationEnterprise‑validated componentsLong lifecycle stabilityProfessional thermal engineering On paper, specs look closer than ever. In practice, the performance gap under professional load is larger than it was in 2012. What This Means for Businesses in 2026Businesses that rely on consistent performance, data accuracy, or professional‑grade software will benefit more than ever from choosing a workstation. The addition of NPUs also positions workstations as the most capable on‑premise platforms for AI workloads.If your organisation works with:CAD or 3D modellingVideo production, VFX, or renderingSimulation and engineering workloadsAI or machine learning modelsMassive datasets or real‑time analytics …a modern workstation is not just beneficial, it is essential.


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tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952441090181712682Sun, 08 Sep 2024 01:07:05 +0000yogaFoodabout mechallengesGripesgoalsrelationships12 Months to JoyApparently it takes longer than twelve months to find Joy...noreply@blogger.com (Jly)Blogger105125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952441090181712682.post-1920565546361509655Sat, 16 Jun 2012 04:08:00 +00002012-06-15T21:10:57.546-07:00Two Months...Til I'm outta here!!! Hooray!!!!!!!!!!! That has nothing to do with my post, but I am excited nonetheless so I just had to say it. Anyway, here is the real post:<br /> <br /> When I'm not obsessively looking for apartments on Craigslist, I do other things, such as, going to rehearsal dinners for weddings I'm not invited to. But when you get invited by your best friend (who lives all the way in Colorado) to a rehearsal dinner that's catered by Dinosaur BBQ and Cayuga Creamery (see my yelp review :),) you don't turn that down. If you are not familiar with Dinosaur BBQ, I highly suggest you get familiarized with it... maybe not if you're living somewhere like North Carolina, but definitely if you are living in Upstate NY. It's pretty delicious as far as I'm concerned, and if you were to ask anyone I went to high school with, I'd bet you a hundred bucks that they would agree. I wish I took a picture of my food cause you would totally be jealous right now. Crumbly honey cornbread, smoked brisket, and spicy sweet ribs falling right off the bone. Oh yeah...<br /> <br /> What a perfect night for a rehearsal dinner!<br /> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left:1em; margin-right:1em"><img border="0" height="239" width="320" src="; /></a><br /> <br /> Mostly though it was fun to hang with my friend Erin who I went to grad school with. <br /> <br /> That's us!<br /> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left:1em; margin-right:1em"><img border="0" height="240" width="320" src="; /></a><br /> <br /> Sadly I do not see her as often as I would like (which is to say, every day, so I guess even if I lived in Colorado, that would probably remain true) so I take what I can get, especially since she just adopted a supremely beautiful baby girl from Ethiopia who is just so sweet and has seemingly adapted quite well in the last three weeks she's been here. <br /> <br /> That's her!<br /> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left:1em; margin-right:1em"><img border="0" height="320" width="239" src="; /></a><br /> <br /> Aside from the fact that she just does not want to let me hold her, she is quite perfect. A lovely time had by all. <br /> <br /> Also, I actually have plans for the rest of the weekend, which makes me a happy girl. Heading to a girls night with some of my Ithaca ladies tomorrow night and to Watkins Glen on Sunday. There are sure to be more pics ahead, so keep an eye out!2012/06/two-months.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jly)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952441090181712682.post-618207895155795655Tue, 12 Jun 2012 18:18:00 +00002012-06-15T21:11:58.115-07:00Weekend Synopsis.Hello all. So I headed to NH last weekend to see the boy. It was fun. We went to Boston to look for apartments on Friday but were very tired and got suckered into an apartment that was really way too expensive for us. A few days later we came to our senses and decided against it, which is really too bad cause it had a pool (and not a gross sketchy one either!) and a gym. But sadly, logic outweighed our (see: my) big dreams of getting skinny and looking super hot. Oh well. So the boy has very kindly taken on the frustrating job of finding us an apartment (I guess there are some perks to living in Ithaca) I also watched him play rugby. That was fun. But seeing bunch of dudes pile up on him and realizing that there is a tiny little piece of you that is very anxious that he won't get up=less fun. Nothing of the sort happened though, so we went and drank with his friends. Sunday was largely uneventful, but involved some grilling and catching up on some light reading about couples therapy. I was very sad to have to head back to Ithaca. Just a couple of short months left!!!!!!!!!!! (yay.)<br /> <br /> It is almost always a gorgeous drive from Ithaca to Keene. This time was no exception:<br /> <br /> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left:1em; margin-right:1em"><img border="0" height="320" width="320" src="; /></a><br /> <br />2012/06/weekend-synopsis.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jly)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952441090181712682.post-4762184871506519459Mon, 04 Jun 2012 16:09:00 +00002012-06-14T09:25:05.354-07:00Ithaca FestIf you don't already have pre-conceived notions about Ithaca, let me begin by telling you it's a strange place. The people who have "drunk the kool-aid" (which seems to be an oft heard expression around here) think it's bees knees. Those people probably have children. If you don't have a child, aren't spending inordinately long hours with your face shoved in a book and don't enjoy fueling your anxiety by running from your desk to the stacks in fear that someone might steal your book before you get to it, then you will probably not enjoy Ithaca. <br /> <br /> *Sidebar* Okay, seriously, if anyone out there knows why the students at Cornell run from their desk to the stacks that are literally 5 feet away, please, please share. It boggles my mind. Or why people insist on running across campus. I understand if you are late to an appointment or something, but for some reason, I feel it is not the case here. Everyone is just spazzing out ALL OF THE TIME. But I digress. That is a different rant for a different day. <br /> <br /> So if you are single (and by single I mean you are uncoupled or your partner is living far, far away. Boo.) I would say Ithaca is not the place to be. Apparently I was the only one who didn't get the memo that if you are going to move here you should probably move with your loved one, or at least a friend who wants to go on a wild adventure and move to Ithaca, NY!! Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't say that I am friendless-- not by any means. I have met some really fantastic people that I will miss very much when I move (luckily most of them are moving as well, so I don't feel as bad) but most of them are partnered off and spend a lot of time with their person, as well they should. It's probably my own fault that I have not gone off exploring all that Ithaca has to offer by myself, but you know, it's just not as fun. I have gone on a few hikes with the pups in some decent places, but aside from that, it doesn't feel like there's a whole lot around aside from the Farmer's Market and a few pretty parks. <br /> <br /> Enough about the less favorable points of Ithaca, let's talk about some of the good stuff. Ithaca has its share of festivals, and if there is one thing that I love, it's a good festival, with food. Mostly I love the food, but you know, whatever. The Ithaca Festival is a strange little festival with lots of local music that I could hear right outside my window (both the joys and frustrations of living right on the commons.) Some music was pretty bad and other bands were fairly entertaining. There are a lot of people who like to dance in this town. Some of them seem crazy. Others just get really excited about music. (I had a little movie that I filmed via Iphone that showed exactly how excited people get, but I couldn't figure out how to load it on to my blog. Boo. It is really very entertaining.) Oh, that's the other thing about Ithaca. There are a lot of... let's say, interesting people here. Sometimes I look at the people who wander around the commons and I think to myself, does that person have serious mental health issues? Or are they just weird? It's really very hard to tell sometimes, and I'm a professional. There were also small children performing random things all over the place. One performance was of small children doing karate. They were so freaking cute and looked a lot like this: <br /> <br /> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="215" src="; width="320" /></a> <br /> <br /> The Ithaca Festival was kicked off by the Ithaca Parade. It was a Luau theme, can you tell? I'm pretty sure half the population of Ithaca was in the parade doing random things such as the following:<br /> <br /> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="; width="320" /></a> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="; width="320" /></a> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="310" src="; width="320" /></a> <br /> <br /> Apparently there was also a "Volvo Ballet." Unfortunately I missed it. I think it was to drum up excitement for the used Volvo they were giving away as a raffle prize. It looked a little like this (I'm not even kidding): <br /> <br /> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="219" src="; width="320" /></a> <br /> <br /> Okay, one last picture to leave you with:<br /> <a href="; imageanchor="1" style="margin-left:1em; margin-right:1em"><img border="0" height="320" width="320" src="; /></a><br /> <br /> Aren't Tuffy and Biggie just the cutest things? They were super snuggly at the parade-- probably cause they were terrified of all the people around them, but cute nonetheless :)<br /> <br /> I'm heading to see the boy in NH next weekend. Huzzah!2012/06/ithaca-fest.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jly)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952441090181712682.post-8485628725167701945Sat, 02 Jun 2012 23:01:00 +00002012-06-14T09:19:18.563-07:00Doing it and doin' it and doin' it well...I'm not sure if it's ironic or appropriate that I am shoving my face with Thai food as I write this. I've been thinking a lot about my trip lately and missing Thailand oh so much. The food, the people, the scenery. I could go on and on. Part of what I miss the most though is the person I was when I was there. I know that seems ridiculous, but the person that I was in the summer of 2011 was confident and happy and didn't give a shit about what people thought. I was out there doing stuff! Not pondering what it would be like if I was doing stuff or complaining about not doing stuff... <br /> <br /> Sadly, that does not feel like the person I am now. Now I am living in Ithaca feeling as though this place has sucked the life out of me. That's harsh, I know. Prior to moving from Boston, I had such high hopes for this "city" in Upstate New York-- It was a small, but eclectic town with a diverse, big city feel that held a job I had worked really hard for. Not to mention, it was a place to start over. I didn't want to think of it that way because for the first time I wasn't moving because I was trying to run away from my life and that felt really good. But there was a little bit of truth to that-- a place to start over. I mean I knew no one and no one knew me. As such things go though you can never really start over. After all, I am inherently the same person as I have always been-- someone who loves new experiences but sometimes struggles to do things alone; someone who is open to meeting new people, but somehow always manages to feel a little lonely and awkward; and clearly someone who is inconsistent at best (forgive me loyal blog readers who have been requesting that I start writing again. Thank you for keeping the faith.) So maybe I was deluding myself into thinking that I had changed. In my defense though, I felt different and full of life. In Ithaca I am mostly alone and bored, which makes me very, very cranky. You can really only go on so many walks with the dogs, people! I have made a handful of good friends who are all coupled off and often busy with their partners, conquered the creation of homemade bread and pickles, finished more books in the last year than I have in the last 10 years and stayed up to date on Gossip Girl and Glee, but otherwise Ithaca has not given me much of anything aside from the desire to GET OUT! It probably doesn't help that most of my friends here are also hating on Ithaca and leaving soon. <br /> <br /> Before I get ahead of myself though and go off on a rant about Ithaca, there is one amazingly lovely and wonderfully happy, happy thing that has come out of this place. Thanks to having nothing to do and no place to go and no one to hang out with (see I told you my negativity wouldn't go that far) I reconnected with New Hampshire Boy #1. Truthfully, he hadn't gone that far either since somehow we had managed to stay (mostly) "friends"/friends the whole time. After many nights of insanely long phone calls and a handful of awkward moments, we have since gotten back together and now I am totally and completely in love, like... smitten. As a result (see March 2010) New Hampshire is now officially off my shit list. Go ahead, vomit a little, I know you want to-- I mean even I am a little bit disgusted by how crazy I feel sometimes. Anyway, I won't bore you with the details of our romance, but let's just say I am awfully happy with that part of my life, so much so that we are both moving back to Boston!! Hurrah! <br /> <br /> Okay, I know I started this post off being totally down and out and now you're probably thinking, what is this girl bitching about?! I promise I'll get back to my point even though I'm not entirely sure what that is right now. I love Thailand, I hate Ithaca, I love boys (mine in particular).... Okay, my point is that I want to write more. Yeah, yeah I know you're thinking that you've heard this all before. I am a fickle soul what can I say? But the other day I was sharing with the boy that I have always wanted to be a travel writer. And last year, I made a goal for myself that I was going to go to one new place (out of the country) a year. But it seems that given my new life plans (yay love! yay Boston!) that traveling this year may not be a possibility. So I decided, why wait to start writing again? I can write about Ithaca and wherever else I go to on the weekends (Keene, NH-- you better start getting a little more interesting) And it will all be good practice for when I actually decide to adhere to my life goals and go somewhere. I mean so much of what I loved about myself last year was that I was doing things, not thinking about them and hemming and hawing over whether or not something was the right decision or wrong one. I was just doing it and not caring and feeling pretty damn good about it all. So I'm trying to get back to that. Okay, so writing about Ithaca may not be the most exciting thing ever but the point is that I am doing something, not just talking about doing something....starting... now!2012/06/im-not-sure-if-its-ironic-or.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jly)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952441090181712682.post-6361596995700767427Thu, 16 Jun 2011 06:22:00 +00002011-10-20T13:04:42.197-07:00A Moment in the Sun.Like the spiders that hang from the ceiling of my guest house, I swing back and forth in the air, trying to relax as I hang from the rope that is keeping me from falling 60 feet to the rocks below. I manuever myself to avoid banging into the tree that grows from the side of the mountain. It is my first attempt at rock climbing and I am going to get to the top if it kills me. This is what I am thinking at that very moment. Because after attempt number four to swing my leg to the next notch available, I am starting to get frustrated. My new friends below have already shimmied up a couple of different rock faces and here I am, swinging in the air, having fallen. Again. The sun is hot and the rocks feel like they are melting my fingertips. Only ten more feet and I'll hit the ring that signifies my success. Sweaty sunscreen trickles down my face, stinging my eyes. I am going to do this if it fucking kills me. The thoughts of anger and frustration run through my mind. Tapes that had started to feel unfamiliar come back more easily than I would like them to, creating cobwebs in my brain. I am tangled, trying to fight through to the positivity that seems to be winning over these days. With another curse under my breath, I gather up every ounce of strength and grip on to the small slippery ledge I have available to me. I heave my leg up and it catches. Oh my God! I did it! I am up to the top in a few short motions. I bounce off the side of the mountain as I work my way down. I think to myself, with a bit of self- satisfaction, It's about time I left the web weaving to the experts...<a href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5665667493406176146" /></a><br /><a href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5665667529263878322" /></a>2011/06/moment-in-sun.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jly)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952441090181712682.post-3943221839406021789Tue, 07 Jun 2011 13:07:00 +00002011-10-20T13:00:44.181-07:00The NorthSince my last entry, I've explored Chiang Mai where I went to a cooking class, learned how to make curry paste, pad thai, tum yum goong, and most importantly mango with sticky rice (get excited friends!) <br /><a href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5665666002948368786" /></a><br /><br />I went to a jazz club with a friend of a friend the next night, listened to some incredible music and was surrounded by people who filled the room with the most contagious positive energy. I smiled so much my face hurt by the end of the night. <a href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5665666132722864402" /></a><br />I then moved on to Pai for a couple of days-- definitely NOT enough time in case you were wondering-- and met a couple of people with whom I shared some great conversation(a rarity in travel companions.) We spent our days riding through Northern Thailand on motorbikes, watching the countryside pass by as we rode our way up to the Coffin Caves in Supong. Up until that point, I had never seen scenery so beautiful... Hugging the curves of mountain after mountain, we prayed for large rickety trucks filled with people to avoid hitting us as they flew past. I went solo to the waterfalls, trying to beat the setting of the sun. I watched it sink behind the huge fluffy clouds that looked almost cartoonish while people on the side of the road called out offering opium. You know, just in case I was interested... (for the record, I was not.) When I finally reached the waterfalls though, the fear of being stuck on a motorbike I wasn't super familiar with riding, particularly on a dirt road in the dark, dissapated. I jumped in the waterfall and swam around, the water cold, but envigorating.<br /><a href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5665664460060796354" /></a><br /><a href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5665664416121146002" /></a><br /><a href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5665664381231848034" /></a><br /><a href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5665664337381254242" /></a><br /><br />I was sad to leave Pai, but Chiang Mai beckoned with the prospects of meeting my friend and finally staying in a hotel that didn't have blood stains and gecko poo on the bed. Who knew that my standards had dropped so significantly?? Toilet paper AND soap?? SIGN ME UP! We spent our time wandering around the city, exploring temples, <a href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5665666091044377554" /></a><br /><a href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5665666047287444386" /></a><br />pushing our way through crowds and trying out random but delicious street foods. Taking chances with some interesting chip flavors (teriakyi chicken and sweet basil anyone?) and Archa, the PBR of Thai beers, we escaped the frequent downpours and watched some questionable (at best) Thai TV. <br /><br />Saying our goodbyes at the end of the weekend as I moved on to Ko Phi Phi and he to Laos felt bittersweet as it often does with many of the people I have met along the way, but I suppose that is a post for another time. This has already gotten pretty long and my Internet time is running up. Until next time...2011/06/north.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jly)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952441090181712682.post-5463695517250940427Mon, 30 May 2011 01:41:00 +00002011-07-15T07:17:41.848-07:00A Little Lonely...The one thing I had really been nervous about prior to leaving for this trip was being by myself. Because being by myself would ultimately fuel a sense of loneliness, a feeling that I have never particularly been comfortable with. Thankfully though, since being in Thailand, there have been very few moments where loneliness has hit, but it is happening right now, as I am riding on the overnight bus to Chiang Mai, writing only by the light of my cell phone. After a couple of pretty spectacular days in Bangkok with friends, new and old (although I suppose in this case, "old" is somewhat relative) the feeling of being by myself is overwhelming and a little sad. I have a hard time not imagining them having experiences that I will not be a part of. I know that as I continue on my travels, I will also continue to meet new people and new friends. To me, these connections are what makes traveling such a transformative experience. In a way, it makes the world feel like a smaller place, and causes you to wonder how and why certain people come into your life. Take my friend Jon for example. During this trip, I've thought to myself on a number of occasions, that had I never met him in the first place, I may never have come on this trip. So did he come into my life for that reason? To help me feel compelled enough to leave my job and go to Thailand? Perhaps. Even if not, I am grateful for his presence, for helping me to not feel so alone on this trip and introducing me to his friends, who I think have done a great job of including me despite their prior close connections. And so we come full circle, back to this sense of loneliness that has subsided a bit in writing this post. Because I know that even as I sit here on the bus, in the dark, that not only are there are people out there who know me and love me, but also so many people I have yet to meet...<br /><br />New Friends!<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5629582037437059810" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5629581936827666130" /></a><br />And Some Old...<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5629582747157128754" /></a>2011/05/little-lonely.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jly)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952441090181712682.post-5283629344172459034Thu, 26 May 2011 06:56:00 +00002011-07-15T07:08:07.086-07:00The Most Perfect DayAlex, Jon and I rented motorbikes this morning so that we could get to Erawan Falls, a national park about an hour outside of Kanchanaburi. Riding on the back of Jon's bike, we passed jagged hills covered in green as we followed the River Kwai. We arrived at Erawan Falls and hiked up a series of 7 different falls, all of which you could swim in. The "fierce monkeys" swung above our heads and the tiny fish nipped our feet in the clear water below, but as we swam through the cave, all I could think of was how I could possibly put this amazing experience into words. We continued our hike to the top and all we could hear were thousands of beetles sounding like a collective group of deafening chainsaws and the ominous sound of thunder in the distance. Throughout it all though beauty surrounded us-- huge twisting vines coiled up on the ground and swinging from the massive trees, hidden waterfalls around every corner and butterflies in bright yellows and oranges fluttering silently throughout the jungle. <br /><br />Heading back down our stomachs growled, but the threat of rain hung in the air so we quickened our pace and made out way back to the motorbikes.<br /><br />On our ride back to Kanchanaburi, the rain hit. We had been planning on checking out the Bridge at the River Kwai at sunset but given the weather, it looked that that was not going to happen. Like millions of tiny pin pricks pelting every inch of exposed skin, I clutched on to Jon's waist in the hopes that we would not skid out and get a "Thai tattoo." Somehow though, despite the misery of being wet and freezing, flying through the Thai countryside in the rain was amazing. Sure, I could barely see through my sunglasses that were covered in water and most likely a dead bug or two, but the air smelled like a mix of grilled meat, fruit trees and firewood, and I felt alive... It wasn't until Alex rode up next to us though and shouted "Fuck the Bridge!" that I realized how tense I had been since the rain had started. She was stating the obvious and sitting at the stoplight, we laughed, almost deliriously, at the insanity of the last 45 minutes. We eventually made it back and rewarded ourselves with the spiciest bowl of noodle soup and a few more laughs at our own expense. <br /><br />Quitting my job and going to Thailand= The BEST decision I've ever made.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5629580436597123250" /></a><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5629580085457495778" /></a><br /><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5629580176463657298" /></a>2011/05/most-perfect-day.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jly)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952441090181712682.post-8678271292129060062Mon, 23 May 2011 12:42:00 +00002011-07-15T07:03:39.361-07:00So Far...I write this as I am laying in a hammock listening to the birds sing overhead. After a bumpy three hour trek to Kanchanaburi, laying here and feeling the warm air tangling my hair feels worth it. So much of this trip has been spent on cramped minibuses, only to be rewarded by amazing food and relaxation. It's such a welcome change to how I was feeling a little more than a week ago. Part of me doesn't even know what to do with myself though. I recognize the importance of being in the moment and appreciating this time I have, but the other part of me can't help but feel the familiar feeling of panic. Panic that I won't get to the beaches in the South or be able to experience Chiang Mai the way that I want to. I continue to tell myself that I know that's not true, but I can't help but wonder why I continuously live in this state of being. I mean, would it kill me to just lay here and take in the fact that I am Thailand?? I mean I'm in Thailand for God's sake. I am not working, I'm eating some of the most incredible food I've ever had (super spicy noodles at 2am?! Yes!), I'm drinking coconut water out of their shells on the beach while the waves are lapping at my feet and all I can think of is how I may not get to everything that I want to see. I haven't even gotten to see Bangkok yet. But you know what, I am going to try my best not to worry about it. Overall, I hope that what I can learn from this trip is how to relax and enjoy living in the moment. We'll see how I do but I'm off to go try. Dinner at the Night Market? Yum.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5629579359406174882" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5629579291309920114" /></a>2011/05/so-far.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jly)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952441090181712682.post-2139839249605485488Fri, 20 May 2011 03:24:00 +00002011-05-19T20:25:26.943-07:00Just a NoteFor those of you who are following my travels-- thanks!! I just wanted to let you know that pics will hopefully be coming soon, although I'm not entirely sure how I am going to upload them quite yet, as I didn't bring a computer... I'll figure that out in time though. Keep checking back for updates!2011/05/just-note.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jly)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952441090181712682.post-5621958329185732315Wed, 18 May 2011 18:08:00 +00002011-05-19T20:23:54.964-07:00A 13 Hour Flight Isn't So Bad...unless you happen to be seated next to a Christian Baptist minister who wants to convert you...then a 13 hour trip is actually quite long. Especially if he gives you a pamphlet telling you that you should believe in Jesus Christ. After all, don't you want to go to heaven?! Good thing he laid off after about 10 minutes, cause it would have sucked if I happened to drink a lot of water and had to pee every hour on the hour...but I suppose that wouldn't have been very Christian of me...<br /><br />Anyway, the following are thoughts from the plane:<br />The flight map, which is conveniently all in Japanese, shows me that we have almost reached Alaska, which means that we are about halfway through the flight. It is 4am in Bangkok, so I feel like I should probably be sleeping, but given the accommodations and the fact that I am pretty much curled up in the fetal position, I've been doing okay with actually being able to sleep. I'm glad I didn't opt for the aisle though, sleeping against a window is so much comfier...<br />Anyway, over the last six hours I've done the following:<br />--watched the movie "No Strings Attached" with Ashton Kutcher and Natalie Portman, which was surprisingly funny and pretty good. <br />--eaten a bagel (note to self, do not take malaria meds on an empty stomach--Feeling like you are going to vomit pre 13 hour flight,NOT cool) a granola bar, and soggy french toast that was not easily salvaged by a vat of maple syrup. <br />--contorted my body into odd shapes in an attempt to get in a "comfortable" position.<br />--watched an episode of 30 Rock that I've already seen. <br />--listened to "pop" music courtesy of American Airlines that made my ears bleed just a little... perhaps that's why I was doing the NY Times crossword and after staring at it for 10 minutes, I could only get one!! (where are you when I need you Sam?!) Seriously though, it was so hard... <br />Well, I am off to play a rousing game of Tetris. Hope this gets me through the next seven hours...<br /><br />Okay, I'm back. Tetris did not get me through seven hours-- Christian dude is playing Tetris next to me, and man does he suck. I almost feel bad for him, he's on level zero and he's gotten a high score of 664. I mean it's sad, really. Anyway, moving on to more important things--we got a ham and cheese sandwich for lunch, not too shabby--not picking the Japanese meal though? Bad idea. They got a choice of udon noodles or teriakyi chicken with rice. Also, I imagine I will see a lot of interesting things on my trip, but there is a dude sitting on the laps of the two guys in front of me. I am not mentioning this because it is guys on guys, more so because I can't imagine anyone sitting on top of me when there is about a foot and a half of space between me and the seat in front of me. I am getting uncomfortable just looking at them... <br /><br />So the second half of my trip to Bangkok was far better--I slept for a good chunk of it, and I met a new friend! I think we are even going to meet up in Chiang Mai-- he is a documentary film maker and is doing volunteer work there for a few months. So cool...<br /><br />Well, I'm off! I'll update more once I eat some delicious food :)2011/05/13-hour-flight-isnt-so-bad.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jly)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952441090181712682.post-7639448553742152910Sat, 14 May 2011 01:51:00 +00002011-05-15T00:11:53.486-07:00Changes?It’s been a crazy week, but somehow I managed to make it through. The interview is over and I think I did okay. However, the job is in Ithaca... New York... Oh, did I not mention that yet? Yup. And the position is at Cornell, the college my mom used to drag me to every time she thought I needed a little motivation to do a little better in school or needed a place to show to her friends--"look everyone, we live near an Ivy League school, isn't it just so exciting?! I just hope that Joy goes there someday... oh no, I'm not picky, I'll take Princeton too." Okay, so maybe that's a bit of an exaggeration, but that's pretty much how I interpreted what she was saying. Anyway, now that I'm a little older though, I suppose I can at least give her the fact that Ithaca is also a very pretty town. It's a town though, and a small one at that, so needless to day, I’m not quite sure how I feel about it yet.<br /><br />As I was walking through the sprawling campus with its redbud trees blooming with thousands of tiny purple flowers (no, I have no idea why the tree is called redbud either-- I think it's a conundrum that Cornell likes to pose to all of us silly common folk. I'm guessing the buds of the tree are red??) and looking out into the scenery, I seriously contemplated whether or not I could live there. It was beautiful right now, with a smattering of delicate purple petals floating through the air, but what about when those petals turn to snow and it's piercing your face like a million little icicles. Would I still like Ithaca then? When I am sitting alone in my apartment because I have no friends and only my pups and my computer to entertain me, am I going to be cursing the fact that I took this job to begin with? Okay, I know, I know. I am getting waaay ahead of myself. I haven't even gotten the job yet. My interview seat is probably still warm....perhaps it's a little too early to be worrying about all of this. But I'm starting to wonder if I should have even opened this door for myself in the first place, especially if I feel compelled to take it. It would be like my dream job... I get to work with Asians and in Higher Ed? For only 10 months a year? I mean I don't know that I can really think of anything better right now, well except if the job were in Boston or NYC (this is not what I meant when I wanted a job in New York, if you couldn't tell.) Anyway, I guess I can't sit around and worry about this, especially since I haven't even started packing yet, and I'm leaving in two days. So until I get that offer letter in the mail I guess all I can do is focus on Thailand, focus on Thailand, focus on Thailand....<br /><br />Ithaca is Gorges...<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 203px; height: 248px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5606320521249397778" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 277px; height: 182px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5606320370201396226" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href=" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 276px; height: 183px;" src="; border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5606320100196262610" /></a>2011/04/changes.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jly)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952441090181712682.post-705840935981278996Mon, 09 May 2011 08:44:00 +00002011-05-14T14:52:46.114-07:00InsomniaIt's 4:30am and I haven't been able to sleep all night. Half awake, I'm aware that I'm grinding my teeth and flipping on my back and my side and my stomach. It's not that my bed is not comfortable. In fact, my sheets are soft and I can feel a little puppy head leaning against my foot. Biggie isn't supposed to be on my bed, but I generally make exceptions since I'm sleeping and can't feel him jump up anyway (or at least that's what I tell myself- the reality is, I'm too lazy to tell him to jump off, plus I kinda like it.) <br /><br />Today marks exactly a week from which I am leaving. In fact, next Monday, I will probably be in the car on the way to the airport as of right this very moment. I haven't had a whole lot of time to think about my trip though. People keep asking if I am excited and whether or not I'm ready and the fact of the matter is that I am not. Things keep piling up on this side of the week-unnecessary meetings, and exciting interviews and goodbye dinners... While some of the things are good, and some are bad, every extra thing that I have to do feels like a thousand times the amount of the responsibility. I've learned a few things in the past few months though, as I've been packing in the hours trying to make money for this trip while trying to gain experience for this job that I'm interviewing for-- that as long as I have an end goal I can't pretty much make it through anything. There have definitely been a few moments, some time mid 12 hour day when I worked 12 hours the day before and was working on about 4 hours of sleep because I got called in during the overnight shift that I genuinely thought that I was going to totally lose it. I was going to just start crying and not be able to stop. But somehow, I have made it through. I have one week left. One week that is filled with paperwork, and packing, and prepping for this interview (no easy feat) and baking cookies and quiches (for Katie's bridal shower) and doing laundry, and driving home five hours Upstate only to drive back to Boston to leave the next day for New Jersey, trying to remember all the little things i have to do before I leave... I know it sounds like I am bitching. I know that I did this all to myself. I know that it will all be worth it when I am laying on a


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tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-319589917860132988Sat, 27 Jun 2026 07:18:48 +000012 or 20 questionsArsenal Pulp PressDaniel Allen Cox12 or 20 questionsconducted by rob mclennannoreply@blogger.com (rob mclennan)Blogger92125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-319589917860132988.post-190260034797886355Thu, 18 Jun 2009 17:02:00 +00002009-06-18T10:02:01.397-07:0012 or 20 questions: with J. R. Carpenter<a href=" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5348380859340507058" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 290px" alt="" src="; border="0" />J. R. Carpenter </a>is an author of short fiction, long fiction, non-fiction and electronic literature based in Montreal. She is winner of the QWF Carte Blanche Quebec Award 2009, the CBC Quebec Short Story Competition 2003 &amp; 2005, and the Expozine Alternative Press Award for Best English Book for her first novel, <a href=" the Dog Knows</em> (Conundrum, 2008). </a>Her electronic literature has been presented internationally. For more information please visit: <a href="; target="_blank"> /><div></div><br /><div><strong>1 - How did your first book or chapbook change your life? How does your most recent work compare to your previous? How does it feel different?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>I made my first chapbook at the age of five and tried to sell it to my parents for twenty-five cents. They refused to pay, on grounds that I'd used their paper to make the the book, and argued that I ought to be paying them. What truly changed my life was the photocopier. I started producing photocopied zines in 1992 and started using the internet to create and disseminate non-linear, inter-textual narratives in 1993. Taking a low-tech, do-it-yourself approach to creation and distribution left me free to develop my own forms of writing and electronic literature, without having to ask for permission or wait for approval from anyone. My most recent works have been much larger than anything I'd produced before, and much more collaborative. After a lifetime of independent production it was a revelation to discover that depending on other people could result in a work much greater than the sum of its parts. My first novel, <em><a href=" the Dog Knows</a></em>, was published by Conundrum Press in 2008. It builds on smaller, independently produced works, linking together and expanding upon stories started in four zines, three web projects and an assortment of short texts previously published in other forms. All of these small things became one big thing thanks to the editorial insight and creative generosity of <a href=" Brown </a>and <a href=" Merrick</a>. They saw things I didn't, made connections I couldn't, set deadlines I wouldn't - they taught me how to write a novel, then published it, and now they're selling it for me! This teamwork thing is great. Asking for help in my new favorite thing to do.</div><br /><div><strong>2 - How did you come to fiction first, as opposed to, say, poetry or non-fiction?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>I didn't set out to be a writer at all. It didn't occur to me. I started off studying classical guitar. Then I went to art school, where I mostly wrote poetry and made chapbooks. I did some spoken word stuff, but I thought of it as performance art. When I got my first UNIX account in 1993, the internet was a totally textual world. I learned a lot about writing by positing fictional interjections to USENET newsgroups and by posing as improbable characters in MUDs and MOOs; I thought of that as performance art too. My first print publications were art reviews and catalogue essays. I wrote scripts for <a href=" Canada International </a>for a while. And then, in the late 1990s, I stumbled into a web design contract at a multi-national software company and somehow wound up managing their corporate web development team. That was definitely performance art! And/or an undercover operation of some kind. At first I was terrified that someone would figure out that I had no idea what I was doing. After a while I noticed that most of the people I worked with were also winging it, just making it up as they went along. It finally dawned on me that much of the world is, in fact, performance art - an on-going performance of live-fiction. Stories are happening all the time. People are dialogue generating machines, and all writers have to do is decide which parts to write down. I quit my high-paying corporate job in 2001 and have been writing fiction ever since.</div><br /><div><strong>3 - How long does it take to start any particular writing project? Does your writing intitially come quickly, or is it a slow process? Do first drafts appear looking close to their final shape, or does your work come out of copious notes?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>I used to think that I was working really quickly making lots of small things. Then I realized that I was actually working really slowly on a few huge things made of many small parts. I often don't notice that I've started working on something new because I'm usually working on a number of different things at once, in a number of different media. Some long-finished small things suddenly resurface as the kernel of some new huge thing. Some huge things spawn small offshoots. Fiction often starts suddenly, with a sentence let's say. Then builds very slowly toward the final word count. It can take me years to write a 1200 word story. I wrote my first novel in 10 months. But that was only because I had an impossible deadline. I had to put everything else aside. Including bathing. And wearing pants.</div><br /><div><strong>4 - Where does a piece of fiction usually begin for you? Are you an author of short pieces that end up combining into a larger project, or are you working on a "book" from the very beginning?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>The best way to never write a book is to walk around telling people you're writing a book. Everyday I work on whatever it is possible for me to work on that day and try to put off thinking, for as long as possible, about what the end form of the work will be. This could be called a bottom up approach. I like to think of it as trying to sneak up on myself. My favorite thing in the world is to stumble upon an unfamiliar file in my computer, open it, and discover the underpinnings of a story I have no recollection of starting. This happens alarmingly often.<br /></div><br /><div><strong>5 - Are public readings part of or counter to your creative process? Are you the sort of writer who enjoys doing readings?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>I love doing readings. I always learn a lot from them. The first time I did a reading, for example, an audience member came up to me after and told me that I should be a comedian. Until that moment I hadn't had even the slightest inkling that there was even the remotest possibility that one day in the future I might aspire to be funny. On purpose, I mean. </div><br /><div><strong>6 - Do you have any theoretical concerns behind your writing? What kinds of questions are you trying to answer with your work? What do you even think the current questions are?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>In theory, I am concerned about many things. I do a fair amount of critical and academic writing on various subjects in which theory plays a major role, but when writing fiction or electronic literature I try to save the theorizing until long after I'm done. For me, theory is a means to understand what exist already, not a mode of creation. Occasionally I write essays exploring the theoretical concerns behind my own writing, but only after the fact. Most recently, in April 2009, I presented an academic paper on my work at a conference at MIT. "A Book-ish Novel: Transmediation in <em>Words the Dog Knows</em>" explored the migration of certain texts across multiple media and argued that the novel is a highly elastic form that ought to be considered as one form in a continuum of forms. Now I'm working on a hypertext version of an essay on <a href=" web-based work <em>Entre Ville</em></a>, in which the form of the essay takes on the form of the piece.<br /></div><br /><div><strong>7 – What do you see the current role of the writer being in larger culture? Does s/he even have one? What do you think the role of the writer should be?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div><a href=" Havel </a>once wrote that the thing that writers and politicians have in common is the ability to encapsulate in a few words what the majority of people are thinking. I try to articulate things that I think many of us have a hard time articulating, and bring to light small yet salient details that might otherwise be overlooked. I value courage over all else and try, in writing and in life, to do as <a href=" Paley </a>and others have commanded: Speak truth to power.</div><br /><div><strong>8 - Do you find the process of working with an outside editor difficult or essential (or both)?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>A good editor is a rare and beautiful thing. <a href="2007/09/12-or-20-questions-with-andy-brown.html">Andy Brown </a>is a brilliant editor and I'd work with him again in a heartbeat.</div><br /><div><strong>9 - What is the best piece of advice you've heard (not necessarily given to you directly)?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>When I first started writing fiction I was a bad-advice magnet. People kept telling me that my short stories weren't technically short stories. Apparently there are rules about this sort of thing. I did a residency at the <a href=" Studio Center in 2003</a>. <a href=" Hempel </a>was there. She read four of the stories that everyone said weren't stories and said: You tell them what's a story. I've never worried about what is or isn't a story again.</div><br /><div><strong>10 - What kind of writing routine do you tend to keep, or do you even have one? How does a typical day (for you) begin?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>I wake up at eight. I think until nine. I work at my computer from nine until between four (if I have errands or reading to do) and six. Then it's time walk the dog, cook, eat and maybe talk on the phone for a while. Then either there's an event to go to or I do some more reading. I do this every day. Especially on weekends. As my friend the brilliant <a href=" artist jake moore </a>said to me recently, "The luxury of our labour is that we love it." </div><br /><div><strong>11 - When your writing gets stalled, where do you turn or return for (for lack of a better word) inspiration?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>Online Scrabble.</div><br /><div><strong>12 - If there was a fire, what's the first thing you'd grab?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>Laptop and dog. And now that you've put this horrible question into my head, I believe I will set about training my dog to fetch my laptop in case of fire..</div><br /><div><strong>13 - David W. McFadden once said that books come from books, but are there any other forms that influence your work, whether nature, music, science or visual art?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>I read pretty much constantly, but I don't buy that "books come from books" argument. It disavows orality, for one thing. Most of my stories start with something I've heard, or overheard, or miss-heard - a sentence, play on words, a conversation. <a href=" Stein </a>once wrote, "Writing may be made between the ear and the eye and the ear will be well and the eye will be well." The interconnected yet discontinuous processes of speaking, listening, understanding and translating work together to transform transient exchanges of conversation into a writing that <a href="; describes as already separated from life and community, a writing “displaced on the broken line between lost and promised speech.” That displacement is where books come from. I love this bit from <a href="; and <a href="; indispensable writing on the book as rhizome: “there is no difference between what a book talks about and how it is made.” <em>Words the Dog Knows</em> talks about small details and is made from an assemblage of small pieces, fragments; previously discreet stories interlinked to form a whole. </div><br /><div><strong>14 - What other writers or writings are important for your work, or simply your life outside of your work?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div><a href=";, <a href=";, <a href=" Babel</a>, <a href=" Calvino</a>, <a href=";, <a href=";, <a href=" Stein</a>, <a href=" Woolf</a>, <a href=" Bishop</a>, <a href=" Hempel</a>, <a href=" Davis</a>.</div><br /><div><strong>15 - What would you like to do that you haven't yet done?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>Oh hundreds of things. Most that come to mind are small things - books I have yet to read, tricks I have yet to teach the dog. There have been some near misses involving far-away places and/or expensive food items that I'd like to rectify. I've been inside <a href=" Scala</a>, but have yet to see an opera there. I've eaten truffles in <a href=";, but have yet to personally hunt them down with a sniffer pig or dog or however it is that it's done these days. I wish we could still take steamer ships to Europe. I'd like to write a play one day. Possibly set on a steamer ship. I should probably read some plays. And learn the other half of French. Stuff like that.</div><br /><div><strong>16 - If you could pick any other occupation to attempt, what would it be? Or, alternately, what do you think you would have ended up doing had you not been a writer?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>I've gone through quite a few of the other occupations already. I've worked as a baby sitter, a runway model, a calligrapher, a cashier, a receptionist, a librarian, a teacher, a set designer, a web designer, a web programmer, a programming coordinator... I've worked on fishing boats and on haying crews. I've picked fruit and piled hundreds of cords of firewood. I worked as a sandblaster for a year and a half. And I've done all sorts of odd jobs in wood shops. My name is Carpenter after all. I grew up on a farm and I studied sculpture. Pretty much everything in my history predisposes me to manual labour. If the writing career doesn't pan out at least I'll always have my degree in studio art to fall back on.</div><br /><div><strong>17 - What made you write, as opposed to doing something else?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>It took me a long time to realize that not everybody can write, that I can, that some things need to be written, that someone has to do that writing, and that, in some cases, if I don't do that writing it won't get done, at least not in the way I would like it to get done. Of all the things I do, writing is the thing that feels the most imperative. </div><br /><div><strong>18 - What was the last great book you read? What was the last great film?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>I finally got around to reading <a href=" Quixote</em> </a>in January. It totally lived up to the hype. Other books that have blown my mind lately include <a href=" Z. Danielewski, <em>House of Leaves</em></a>; <a href=" Lutz, <em>Stories in the Worst Way</em></a>. I am addicted to <a href=" new NFB site</a>. Amazing archive. Current favorite short: <a href=" Lipsett</a>, <a href="; target="_blank"><em>Very Nice Very Nice</em></a> (1961).<br /></div><br /><div><strong>19 - What are you currently working on?</strong></div><br /><div></div><div>Short Stories.</div><br /><div></div><div><a href=" or 20 questions archive (second series);</em></a></div>2009/06/12-or-20-questions-with-j-r-carpenter.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (rob mclennan)12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-319589917860132988.post-1321966444794742849Wed, 17 Jun 2009 17:02:00 +00002009-06-17T12:55:14.401-07:0012 or 20 questionsArsenal Pulp PressDaniel Allen Cox12 or 20 questions: with Daniel Allen Cox<a href=" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5348069971896933794" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 230px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px" alt="" src="(credit_Dallas_Curow).jpg" border="0" />Daniel Allen Cox </a>is an ex-Jehovah’s Witness turned pornstar, and <a href="; of the hit novel <a href=" </em>(Arsenal Pulp Press, 2008), </a>which was shortlisted for the <a href=" Lambda Literary Award </a>for Gay Debut Fiction. His novella <a href=" This Madness In</em> (Dusty Owl Press, 2006) </a>was shortlisted for a 2007 Expozine Alternative Press Award. In the 2009 <em>Montreal Mirror</em> readers poll, Daniel was voted one of the top 10 best local authors.<br /><div></div><br /><div>Daniel has performed widely, including at the Ottawa International Writers' Festival, the Lammy Finalist Reading Series in New York City, the San Francisco Sex Worker Arts Festival, and on Canada's national radio network,CBC Radio One. His work has appeared in many magazines and anthologies and he writes the column Fingerprinted for <em>Capital Xtra! </em>Daniel lives in Montreal.</div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong>1 - How did your first book change your life? How does your most recent work compare to your previous? How does it feel different?</strong></div><br /><div>My novella <em>Tattoo This Madness In</em> (Dusty Owl Press, 2006) taught me about how writing connects me to the communities I’m a part of, and to those I orbit. It gave me confidence in my voice as a writer, and taught me how to sharpen my writing with potency. This book deals with my upbringing in the Jehovah’s Witness cult/religion—a belief system founded on literature published by a relatively clandestine society of leaders in Brooklyn, New York. The literature can’t be questioned, because it is “inspired of God.” Writing <em>Tattoo</em>, you can say, was my way of deconstructing the authority of literature: to prove that I can do it too, without a ‘green light’ from above. </div><br /><div>I got to explore different terrain with my novel <em><a href="; (Arsenal Pulp Press, 2008), this time using desperation as a motivator. I needed to capture my memories of pre-millenial New York City before I forgot too much of it; I haven’t owned a camera in 15 years. I recognize many of the same themes as in my first book, namely, young outcasts using sexuality to discover more about themselves and to achieve their notions of freedom. <em><a href=";, unlike <em><a href=";, is a novel of place, and New York City is very likely the main character. It mourns a city that where sexual outlaws have slowly lost many of their institutions over the past two decades. <em>Tattoo</em>, on the other hand, celebrates loss, the shucking of religion. Est-ce que c’est clair? </div><br /><div></div><div><strong>2 - How did you come to fiction first, as opposed to, say, poetry or non-fiction?</strong></div><br /><div>When I first started writing, I thought that to write non-fiction, you had to know shit about shit, which I knew nothing about. I eventually discovered that no matter what format you use, writing pours out most deliciously when you frame it as personal truth. </div><br /><div></div><div><strong>3 - How long does it take to start any particular writing project? Does your writing intitially come quickly, or is it a slow process? Do first drafts appear looking close to their final shape, or does your work come out of copious notes?</strong></div><br /><div>My writing projects have a gestation period, during which I take notes in a Moleskine notebook. That can last for days or months, depending on the size and scope of the project. In general, I edit all drafts about 10 times before I’m satisfied with them. Of course, after 5 drafts the story says more or less what I want it to say, but it takes another 5 to shape the words into objects the reader can use in their own lives. I enjoy editing as much as I do writing. </div><br /><div></div><div><strong>4 - Where does a piece of fiction usually begin for you? Are you an author of short pieces that end up combining into a larger project, or are you working on a "book" from the very beginning?</strong></div><br /><div>As they often say in Poland, “It depends.” <em>Shuck </em>was written in snippets, and then assembled using giant poster boards, hundreds of snippets of paper, and Scotch tape. With my novella <em>Tattoo</em>, it began as a 300-page work, and I trimmed it down to 100. I keep on breaking all of my habits. Is that a good thing? </div><br /><div></div><div><strong>5 - Are public readings part of or counter to your creative process? Are you the sort of writer who enjoys doing readings?</strong></div><br /><div>Until recently, I have always been afraid of readings, because I stutter. My stuttering is heightened when I read, because there are words on the page that I can’t substitute if they are rife with consonants that give me trouble (if you’ve spoken to me or heard me speak, then you know what they are.) And so, I have organized performances where I do everything except read: retell scenes improv-style, hold game-show quizzes, give author talks, and have other people read for me. This has all been great, giving my events an interactive spin. It was a treat to hear my work come alive in <a href=" Zytveld’s </a>brassy baritone, and in <a href=" Palanca’s </a>sauciness. </div><br /><div>I finally decided, though, to try reading in public, after much urging—and encouraging—from friends. I picked one of my favourite passages from <em>Shuck</em>, rehearsed it, and realized that it was no different than the last stage of my editing process, where I mouth the words in a final read-through. I guess I found my physical voice in the confidence of my literary voice. It was quite a moment, and then I replicated that success at Hard Cover: A Book Club for Men into Men, in Ottawa. My stutter is not an enemy. It’s a friend. Coming to a reading near you! </div><br /><div></div><div><strong>6 - Do you have any theoretical concerns behind your writing? What kinds of questions are you trying to answer with your work? What do you even think the current questions are?</strong></div><br /><div>What things go unsaid? Why are people afraid of sex, and how can we reverse that? What can we do to empower young queers in a homophobic world? What can I do to link the disparate parts of my life together, and how desperate am I to find those threads? </div><br /><div></div><div><strong>7 – What do you see the current role of the writer being in larger culture? Does s/he even have one? What do you think the role of the writer should be?</strong></div><br /><div>To ask questions, and to motivate readers to take personal risks. </div><br /><div></div><div><strong>8 - Do you find the process of working with an outside editor difficult or essential (or both)?</strong></div><br /><div>I have always prized the relationships I’ve had with my editors. The key to doing that is to understand what they bring to your writing that you can’t, and to beat down your ego with a crowbar, if necessary. Your editor may have different reading influences than you do, and can bring such richness to a text with the most minor suggestion. Because I enjoy editing so much, this shared refining is key to my writing process. It’s great when you can achieve a symbiosis; you know you’ve learned something when you can predict what language your editor will flag. </div><br /><div></div><div><strong>9 - What is the best piece of advice you've heard (not necessarily given to you directly)?</strong></div><br /><div>“Don’t be afraid to read in public. People will love to hear your voice, because it’s you.” <a href=" Ibañez-Carrasco</a>, on the steps of his East Vancouver home. </div><br /><div></div><div><strong>10 - How easy has it been for you to move between genres (fiction to more performative works)? What do you see as the appeal?</strong></div><br /><div><strong></strong></div><div><strong>11 - What kind of writing routine do you tend to keep, or do you even have one? How does a typical day (for you) begin?</strong></div><br /><div>There are two periods of the day when I’m a firecracker. I’m at peak “creative mode” between 9 pm and midnight, and at peak “execution” mode between 8 and 11 am. I try to get most of my writing work done in those slots, even though much of it is bound to happen on the subway, against my will. </div><br /><div><strong>12 - When your writing gets stalled, where do you turn or return for (for lack of a better word) inspiration?</strong></div><br /><div>This may sound silly, but I turn to the shower for inspiration. There’s something about the hot water hitting my cerebral cortex that gets my brain’s sleepy neurons jiggling again. Maybe the smell of Irish Spring soap plays a part, too. </div><br /><div></div><div><strong>13 - If there was a fire, what's the first thing you'd grab?</strong></div><br /><div>Funny you should ask. My apartment building burned down on November 2, 2007, while my lover was asleep in it (he escaped, holding our wriggling cat). After the firefighters had extinguished the flames, they gave us 10 minutes to collect essential items. Our home was a soot-covered battle zone—the firefighters trashed it when they chopped the walls, floors and ceilings to see if the fire had spread, breaking whatever furniture was in the way. They have a tough job, so I’m not complaining. </div><br /><div>What do you pick up when you have 10 minutes, not sure if you’ll ever be allowed back in again? Our loving friends turned out en masse to help in this 600-second rescue. I directed them to hunt for my photos, and then my passport. This intrigues me, because prior to that, I hadn’t cared enough about photos to even own a camera. And I recently let my passport expire, not renewing it until days before a trip to New York City. It seems that fire brings out priorities in me that otherwise lay quite dormant. </div><br /><div><strong>14 - David W. McFadden once said that books come from books, but are there any other forms that influence your work, whether nature, music, science or visual art?</strong></div><br /><div>A loamy, summer wind will always tint whatever piece of writing I’m working on. Low-quality Youtube videos—the ones that look how vinyl sounds—have the same effect. </div><br /><div></div><div><strong>15 - What other writers or writings are important for your work, or simply your life outside of your work?</strong></div><br /><div>There are dozens of authors—many of them friends of mine—who have taught me much about writing. I’ve had a few intense author crushes in the past, though they abated when I learned how to pull off some of their literary tricks. </div><br /><div><a href="; by Gordon Lish </a>has had a lasting hold over me. It is a novel told in the form of a vaudeville routine between showprincesses Smith and Dale. It’s not until the last few pages that you realize this joke-book is about the holocaust, and then you’re mortified that you’ve been laughing all along. I lost that book and I miss it. I would kiss profusely anyone who sends me a copy. </div><br /><div><strong>16 - What would you like to do that you haven't yet done?</strong></div><br /><div>Meet <a href=" Nasser Miran</a>, the guy who’s been living in Charles de Gaulle airport in Paris for the past nineteen years. </div><br /><div></div><div><strong>17 - If you could pick any other occupation to attempt, what would it be? Or, alternately, what do you think you would have ended up doing had you not been a writer?</strong></div><br /><div>I would love to be baseball player or a baseball announcer, to either steal bases or to announce the thefts. It would be amazing to coin a new phrase for a home run, like “that ball just flew standby”, or something of the kind. Know what I mean? </div><br /><div></div><div><strong>18 - What made you write, as opposed to doing something else?<br /></strong></div><br /><div>My stutter made me take up writing. I’ve never been quite satisfied with my verbal articulation (for those of you who have never heard me, my speech is peppered with hesitations, prolonged sibilants, and compensatory clicks). It used to be more severe when I was younger, and I think I learned quickly that if I wanted to communicate what I was thinking with the best clarity, I had better write it down, rather than subject it to a speech rollercoaster where who knows what would come out on the other side.<br /></div><div><strong>19 - What was the last great book you read? What was the last great film?<br /></strong></div><br /><div><a href=" Bohemia</em> by Sarah Schulman </a>is the only book I have ever read in a single sitting. The last great film is <em><a href=" States</a></em>, a documentary about the work of <a href=" Spencer Tunick</a>, famous for his public nudes. I’ll never forget how he brought a volunteer model to the streetcorner where she had been raped, and then asked her to undress for the camera. She later said “Doing the shoot with Spencer was 90% of my self-therapy. It was like I am free to be me, and I like that a lot.” </div><br /><div><strong>20 - What are you currently working on? </strong></div><div><strong></div></strong><div>I’m working on a new novel. More details to follow. </div><br /><div></div><div><a href=" or 20 questions archive (second series);</em></a></div>2009/06/12-or-20-questions-with-daniel-allen.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (rob mclennan)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-319589917860132988.post-2308531472264724276Thu, 05 Jun 2008 16:31:00 +00002008-06-05T09:33:39.885-07:0012 or 20 questions: with Pete Smith<a href=" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5208423382699432258" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="; border="0" /></a>English grammar-school dropout in the 60s. Attuned to poetry when the hormones started running. Blessed with a teacher who went outside the curriculum &amp; continued his self-education through magazines: <em>Agenda</em>, <em>Stand</em>, <em>Grosseteste Review</em>. Strives to maintain catholic taste (not RC). Trained as a Psych Nurse “for something to fall back on”: failed to fall &amp; retired in 2007. Emigrated to BC in 1974. Two marriages (one current): two kids, 4 grandkids (1 in Van, 3 in Calgary). Hobbies include breathing, hiking, kayaking. Reads obsessively. Life-long small press fan – <a href="; &amp; <a href=" Thug </a>among current favourites in Canada.<br /><br /><div>Has written reviews &amp;/or essays (from micro to a forthcoming book chapter) on <a href=". Snodgrass </a>(<em>Agenda,</em> UK); <a href=" MacLeod </a>[<a href="2008/01/12-or-20-questions-with-kathryn-macleod.html">see her 12 or 20 questions here</a>], <a href=" Notley</a>, <a href=" van den Beukel</a>, <a href=" Waldrop </a>[<a href=" her 12 or 20 questions here</a>], <a href=" Longmire </a>&amp; <a href=" Williamson</a>, <a href=" Sutherland</a>, <a href=" Wolsak</a>, <a href=" Robertson</a>, <a href=" Shaw </a>&amp; <a href=" Strang </a>(all in <em>The Gig</em>, Toronto); <a href=" Moxley </a>(<a href="; #9, on-line</a>); <a href=" MacSweeney </a>(<em>The Paper</em>, UK); forthcoming - <a href=" Joyce </a>(<em>Crayon </em>#5, USA); ****** ****** (<em>TCR</em>, Spring ’08); <a href="(poet)">John James </a>(<em>The Salt Companion to John James</em>, UK). </div><br /><div>Chapbooks: <a href=" Vision</em> </a>and <em>cross of green hollow</em> (Wild Honey, Eire); <em>John’s Book of Alleged Dances</em> (Kamloops); <em>Harm’s Length</em> (<a href=" Histories, Cambridge</a>); <a href=" of Unseen</em> (above/ground, Canada). </a><br /></div><br /><div>Did the first interview with <a href=" Wolsak </a>in <em>Six Poets: Views &amp; Interviews</em>, <em>The Gig</em> Documents Series, #2. Nate Dorward interviewed me and featured <a href=" Pete Smith Sampler in <em>The Fly on the Page</em>, <em>Gig</em> Docs #3</a>. And poems in anthologies: <em>100 Days</em>, Barque Press, Cambridge/April Eye: Poems for Peter Riley, <em>infernal methods</em>, <em>Cambridge/<a href=" Meeting for Douglas Oliver</a></em>, infernal methods, Street Editions &amp; Poetical Histories, Cambridge.</div><br /><div></div><div>Long sequences: CLIV (<em><a href=" Poetry Assemblage</a></em>); <a href=" Horace </a>and Evacuation Procedures (<em>Great Works</em>); Mother Tongue: Father Silence (<em><a href=";); Out-takes From the Deanna Ferguson Show (<a href=";, The Gig</a>).<br /></div><br /><div>A ms <em>Bindings With Discords</em> seeks a Canadian home.<br /><br /><strong>1 - How did your first chapbook change your life?</strong><br />It brought me into a community – not just the “being published” but some good feedback (especially publisher <a href=" Healy’s </a>note telling me he had to pry it out of the hands of the girl at the printer’s). It opened the door to <a href=" reading at ksw </a>in 1999 (I don’t think they’d read a word of mine, but knew I was to be published by <a href=" Honey </a>who’d published <a href=" Scully </a>who’d just come out with <a href=" Street </a>who had published <a href=" Robertson </a>who they KNEW was damned good).<br /><br /><strong>2 - How long have you lived in Kamloops, and how does geography, if at all, impact on your writing? Does race or gender make any impact on your work?</strong><br />In K since 1974. I have only now begun to write the place out of somewhere inside me – before that I was a tourist who’d forgotten to go home. I am very conscious of not truly belonging &amp; of being an uninvited guest on Interior <a href=" land</a>. Nevertheless, there are a few places I go to recharge my spirit &amp; that chime with places I carry from my earliest years – rivershores, small spinneys, fields in one direction, town the other. Race &amp; gender: again very conscious of the presumed dominance within which I was raised – English (the language, the history, the warmongering self-hymnic traditions), male (a few inches of pipe &amp; a bag of seed make you leader of whose gang?). Others must judge that consciousness’s impact on my work.<br /><br /><strong>3 - Where does a poem usually begin for you? Are you an author of short pieces that end up combining into a larger project, or are you working on a "book" from the very beginning?</strong><br />There isn’t a usual where; there has been a when for a number of years, though, &amp; that is May. But a trigger can be sound, overheard talk, a rhythm, another work of art, music or visual generally, that somehow announces itself as my next project. Of double necessity – having ADHD &amp; only small chunks of time within which to work – I’ve written sequences or worked out of existing texts. I guess a book has been the general idea, but rarely actually getting round to submit it anywhere, well the next current piece is always more engrossing (Motto at our house: Salience Rules).<br /><br /><strong>4 - Are public readings part of or counter to your creative process?</strong><br />Part of. I enjoy popping down to Grinders Coffee House on open mic night &amp; reading at a bunch of punk, goth type folk who are there to hear their friend sing a <a href=" Cobain </a>song or whatever &amp; actually registering a silence that indicates listening (testimonial: Hannah , daughter, was at the back of the room one time &amp; heard a kid say “No idea what he’s on about, but I fuckin like it” ). In a more rarified setting (<a href=" Rouge, Cambridge</a>, 1999) I interrupted my reading to say “that poem should have ended 4 lines earlier” because it had suddenly become clear that was the case.<br /><strong>5 - Do you have any theoretical concerns behind your writing? What kinds of questions are you trying to answer with your work? What do you even think the current questions are?<br /></strong>I am interested in theories that stretch our understanding of what it means to be/ human; how to live in community out of compassion &amp; respect, justly; how to confront our demons without projecting them onto others; how to behave on this planet, among these diverse fellows &amp; creatures; where the moral impulse comes from &amp; what its dangers &amp; limitations are… In pursuit of which I perform midnight raids on many disciplines: neuroscience, psychology, sociology, physics, theology, literary theory, philosophy, anthropology, botany. Amen. Hanging out with brain-injured &amp; disabled folk keeps me almost-honest. The current Qs still seem to hover around the nature of self, concepts of mind, etc. (The navel has never seemed so fascinating: see <a href=" Fodor </a>for some respite.) A task of the poet is surely to question received opinion – all of it. This is, I take it, where theories attract poets.<br /><br /><strong>6 - Do you find the process of working with an outside editor difficult or essential (or both)?</strong><br />For poems: editors haven’t asked for much to be changed – (“the life so short, the craft so long to learn”) but I did for many years insist on many, many drafts. Now, I tend to just get it down or toss it out. <a href=" Dorward </a>has been a tremendous help in editing book reviews, both grammatically &amp; in challenging the reading if weak or unclear. Lyn, my wife, is a marvellous first reader, very partial to elegance.<br /><br /><strong>7 - After having published more than a couple of titles over the years, do you find the process of book-making harder or easier?</strong><br />Easier insofar as I used to write stand-alone lyric poems, but now write mostly long pieces, sequences – from songs to concerti. I literally made a book a while back &amp; that was a wonderful process. It’s hard to definitively place some poems/sequences though: sort of <a href=" </a>problem.<br /><br /><strong>8 - When was the last time you ate a pear?<br /></strong>December 07 – that’s how long the ones we stored for winter lasted. Best eaten outdoors with a good cheese (in case the pear’s a bit flat) on a windy day.<br /><br /><strong>9 - What is the best piece of advice you've heard (not necessarily given to you directly)?</strong><br />“… a little more to the left…”<br /><br /><strong>10 - How easy has it been for you to move between genres (poetry to criticism)? What do you see as the appeal?<br /></strong>Apparently quite easy, if you call what I do criticism, I guess I call it “reading”. <a href=" Dorward </a>pointed out that much of my poetry was literary criticism in disguise (or some such term). I’ve gone through some of my earlier works &amp; might well collect them under the title (sub-title, more like) “Literary Industry”. Wow, ain’t that exciting? </div><br /><div>The appeal has been, in some of the longer pieces, to spend a long time with one writer (otherwise I flip through this, read that, return to another poem in the mag that came last week, month…) &amp; learn some of another imagination’s workings, &amp; another person’s way of being in the world. Yes, meeting someone at some depth, I guess.<br /><br /><strong>11 - What kind of writing routine do you tend to keep, or do you even have one? How does a typical day (for you) begin?<br /></strong>None apparent. I learned how to compose in my head as a much younger man &amp; still do sometimes. Now I grab some books in a bag, head out the door to town, hope there will be lulls in the day when I can read a bit or even write (we’ve embarked on some amazingly time-consuming projects lately &amp; this is a temporary pattern). There was a typical day once but I forget how it went.<br /><br /><strong>12 - When your writing gets stalled, where do you turn or return for (for lack of a better word) inspiration?</strong><br />Stalled is no worry – there are enough words, poems, chapbooks etc out there already. And isn’t the “rest” in music an integral part of the structure? Stalled is part of life’s rhythm. Stale is a worry: to be midwife &amp; mother, if you will, to this thing &amp; then discover it’s stillborn. Sad. To recharge: go to some old standbys (16th Century English, earlier British, post WW2 alternative scene, or try to abandon books altogether, take a long walk, play some ugly, angular improvised music).<br /><br /><strong>13 - How does your most recent book compare to your previous work? How does it feel different?<br /></strong>My chaos is all-consuming. I have a poor chronological sense of my work, I can be years on a sequence because I lose it, or forget I’m writing it. I think the improvisation on <a href=" Ferguson’s </a>works in <a href=";, The Gig 2008</a>, is the last thing I finished. That’s as far down a stand-up, fast-on-the-pun, wild west road as I would want to go. It’s a continuation of an anti-poetry exploration though &amp; that will no doubt emerge in a new formless form soon. No, I think I’ve finished others since then – they’ll turn up. Around 1996 I started taking meds for ADHD &amp; in my writing began to approach the world more obliquely, letting my life, mostly as memory, come in unbidden: things started hopping about then.<br /><br /><strong>14 - <a href=" W. McFadden </a>once said that books come from books, but are there any other forms that influence your work, whether nature, music, science or visual art?<br /></strong>Responses to live readings, concerts, photography &amp; other visual (generally abstract) art, conversations. Good food. <a href=" Alexander’s <em>Pattern Language</em> </a>is a source. Standing beside a tree trunk during a high wind puts wonderful sound-shapes inside a person.<br /><br /><strong>15 - What other writers or writings are important for your work, or simply your life outside of your work?</strong><br />Ahhhhhhhhhh! Books filled the house I was raised in – a row house in <a href=", England</a>, with 7.000 or more books in it. Still abiding from early years –<a href="; Beckett</a>, <a href=" Berger</a>, <a href=" Garner</a>, the <a href=" Arabian Nights</em> </a>(2 vols illustrated – it was my adolescent version of<a href="; <em>Playboy</em> </a>– “I kept it under my bed for the stories”). <a href=" Quignard’s </a>&amp; Peter Russell’s re/inventions of classical authors – <a href="; &amp; <a href="; It’s been such a long apprenticeship, so many phases. Needing alternatives to the personal/social misery of <a href=" Larkin </a>&amp; the cosmic misery of <a href=";, I went to the <a href=" American Poetry</em> anthology </a>(<a href=" Mountain </a>more than <a href=" beats</a>, though <a href="; life-work continues to be compelling), to European poets through a Penguin books series &amp; to the “deep-image” writings (<a href=" Wright </a>more than <a href="; &amp; <a href=" Transtromer </a>more than any). If I were only to read (Your Alternative School here….) I would simply have my own narrow orthodoxy. Second Isaiah in <a href=" Rosenberg’s </a>translation is magnificent. <a href=" British Revival </a>poets: <a href=", John</a>, <a href="; &amp; <a href=";, <a href=";, James et al. Some quiet outsiders appeal a lot – <a href=" Gilfillan </a>in the USA, <a href=" Birchard </a>in Canada. The 2 Canadians who first hit me, continue to do so whenever I return to them, <a href="; &amp; <a href=";. Ahhhh! Too many – the plot is to have too many to form a canon, to keep ‘em alive beyond the canon’s walls. <a href=" Ferguson </a>– some lines of hers wield the sharpest scalpel I know of. The kids have got to know who else has been around.<br /><br /><strong>16 - What would you like to do that you haven't yet done?</strong><br />Build a house. It’s coming soon to a theatre near me. Next year, Lyn says.<br /><br /><strong>17 - If you could pick any other occupation to attempt, what would it be? Or, alternately, what do you think you would have ended up doing had you not been a writer?</strong><br />Sailor, coffee shop owner, aesthetician, chef, rock/blues/folk/alt singer, layabout.<br /><br /><strong>18 - What made you write, as opposed to doing something else?</strong><br />There was too much blank graph paper lying around. There were too many facts to record in a work-day, behaviours to observe, speculations to suppress; in writing my own poetry I was beholden to no-one. I had to reinvent the world, because the one I worked in was too surrealistic.<br /><br /><strong>19 - What was the last great book you read? What was the last great film?</strong><br />Great? <a href=" Heller-Roazen’s <em>Echolalias: On the Forgetting of Language</em> </a>from <a href=" Books </a>keeps me calling back. I like novels that are impossible: <a href=" Erickson’s <em>Arc d’X</em> </a>is a pretty wild ride, or <a href=" Ecstatic Days</em> </a>– novels that are either brilliant or dreadful, that take the risk. Movies suffer from a “tyranny of the image”. Boycott them I say. That said: I just watched <a href=" Out in the Evening</em> </a>and it’s almost flawless.<br /><br /><strong>20 - What are you currently working on?</strong><br />Rediscovering my study. Renovating a house. Looking for several unfinished, but clearly misremembered projects – something involving words that contain SENS with the sens removed &amp; another thing building itself around the word “rogation”. Erasing a Victorian novel with more textual &amp; social layers than <a href=" Philips’ <em>Humument</em> </a>contained, but without his flash colours – hoping the language flashes. A planned work with a visual artist on a project in Kamloops, involving several pairings of writers &amp; artists for next year. I want to increase my techno skills &amp; use my I-pod &amp; mic to create radio works out of actual sounds &amp; talk, taking polyvocal to the polis.<br /><br /><a href=" or 20 questions archive</em></a></div>2008/06/12-or-20-questions-with-pete-smith.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (rob mclennan)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-319589917860132988.post-3712772297250470171Thu, 29 May 2008 16:23:00 +00002008-05-29T10:41:29.009-07:0012 or 20 questions: with Diane Schoemperlen<a href="

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